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Visitors dogs on sofa

67 replies

Catsoncatnip1 · 27/02/2022 12:55

Family staying over the weekend, I don’t mind them bringing the dog, but asked them not to let it upstairs and for it to sleep in kitchen as room they slept in is going to be nursery (they often take it upstairs but I don’t like it as it often pees on the floor) where we live is quite muddy and dog was in and out a lot. I kept asking for the dog to not be on the sofa and it kept jumping up. Family didn’t seem to listen to me and just let it continue, eventually I expressed can you please not let him jump on sofa as I really don’t like it. Going to have a newborn soon and don’t like the idea of a mucky pup on the couch .. AIBU?

OP posts:
Justmuddlingalong · 27/02/2022 12:58

I'd suck it up for the rest of this visit, but in future tell them not to bring the dog.

SoupDragon · 27/02/2022 12:59

YANBU at all.

You can put blankets over the sofa if necessary though. I have these on my own sofa because of my own dog.

Krakenchorus · 27/02/2022 13:00

It's your house, your rules. They are very rude houseguests.

KatherineofGaunt · 27/02/2022 13:01

I am not a dog person and would struggle to have any dog visiting my house, let alone staying overnight and jumping on the sofa.

If the family are ignoring you I'd be physically removing the dog into the kitchen each time and reinforcing no, it's not allowed. They either get the hint or you refuse them to stay again. I think it's disrespectful to think your dog can just go wherever it likes in someone else's home.

DinoWino · 27/02/2022 13:01

Really rude of them. I’d say they shouldn’t bring the dog next time if you have a newborn. Who wants a dog peeing in their carpets??

NewYearCalavicci · 27/02/2022 13:03

Your house your rules its that simple , if the dog is allowed on the sofa / upstairs / pee indoors at its own home then thats down to the owners .
But in your home you set the rules , though I feel sorry for the dog as it wont understand the difference.

ChaosMoon · 27/02/2022 13:04

I hate this. My family think their dogs should be able to go on anyone's sofa and it drives me nuts. I've now got dog blankets for when they come over but it irritates me when they moan about their dogs not being allowed up in other people's houses.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 27/02/2022 13:04

Your house, your rules.

However if the dog is used to it at home, it won't be easy to change the habit of a lifetime.

MrsColinRobinson · 27/02/2022 13:05

I'm a doggie person, allow my dogs on MY sofa, but would not dream of doing so in another's home. Your guests are extremely rude. I wouldn't allow them to stay again.

Toomanypeople · 27/02/2022 13:05

They are very rude, your house your rules

Skinnytailedsquirrel · 27/02/2022 13:08

They sound like really disrespectful and awful guests.

grumpygiraffe · 27/02/2022 13:09

I’d have kicked the lot of them out by now, and made sure they never wanted to stay again.

Poetrypatty · 27/02/2022 13:12

So rude! YANBU

Original poster
Catsoncatnip1 · 27/02/2022 13:13

Thank you for the responses - I was second guessing myself. The family are lovely and very close, but when it comes to the dog just don’t seem to be aware of the difference of him being in their own home or ours. Which makes it hard as don’t like having to confront people - but I am going to stick to my guns on this x

OP posts:
GordenBennett · 27/02/2022 13:15

Tell them everytime to get the dog off the sofa. How rude and disrespectful. You don't need a reason. It's your house
I would have blown my top by now

catwithflowers · 27/02/2022 13:17

So very rude of the dog owners. I adore dogs but we don't let ours on the sofa in our own home, let alone anyone else's. I would certainly be really cross and not allow them to bring their dog again if they can't respect your rules.

Marvellousmadness · 27/02/2022 13:18

Why do you say "the family are very lovely "???They are not .....
They let their dog go upstairs and be on the couch etc. Even after you asked them not to do it.
Tell them ro leave their dog at home next time
And dont use excuses like your newborn. Just say you dont want it. Simple as that. And they should accept that. Period

Daenerys77 · 27/02/2022 13:22

It's very generous of you to allow the dog in the house at all. Why can't they get a dog sitter?

Elieza · 27/02/2022 13:23

I’m imagining it’s your adult sibling or adult child and their partner and their dog.

They clearly don’t respect your wishes. So although you don’t like confrontation you need to be clear at the start that the dog can’t go on the furniture. At all. Or they won’t care.

If they are incapable of controlling their animals behaviour tell them that if they can’t keep the dog off the couch then they can’t bring him again.

OR

Just put down a couple of thick throws to protect the couch and get them told that they need to ensure he only goes up when he’s clean and if he digs in the covers to get to the couch he can’t come on future as this is your home and you don’t have a dog for a reason, what they do in their home is up to them. In yours it’s up to you.

Wonnle · 27/02/2022 13:24

Tell them to GTF out of your house if they don't think that there dog is a problem !

Personally i don't let dogs in my house, I hate the things with a passion

tigger1001 · 27/02/2022 13:25

@KatherineofGaunt

I am not a dog person and would struggle to have any dog visiting my house, let alone staying overnight and jumping on the sofa.

If the family are ignoring you I'd be physically removing the dog into the kitchen each time and reinforcing no, it's not allowed. They either get the hint or you refuse them to stay again. I think it's disrespectful to think your dog can just go wherever it likes in someone else's home.

Totally agree with this.

I would be taking the dog to the kitchen each and every time it jumped on the sofa.

It's so rude.

VladmirsPoutine · 27/02/2022 13:26

This would really stress me out. Baby or no baby YANBU! Don't worry about sounding precious or whatever demand they stop their dog from going upstairs / on sofas / kitchen whatever.

Ellmau · 27/02/2022 13:28

If dog is muddy then they need to get him cleaned up (including paws) before he comes in the house.

Wiennetta · 27/02/2022 13:31

I’m a dog person and have a dog but wouldn’t dream of acting like this! She’s allowed on our sofa and when we visit family who are absolutely ok with this (they all also have dogs that are allowed on sofas) but wouldn’t let her anywhere else!

ShouldersBackChestOutChinUp · 27/02/2022 13:32

I have dogs. I like dogs. No way are they allowed on the sofa.

I would be really really cheesed off if someone let their dog go on my sofas. One person brought their dog round and he cocked his leg and marked a kitchen unit. He was outside for the rest of their visit.

Op, tell them to get their dogs off your furniture, muddy or not. Do not suck it up as someone else suggested. It's really rude to let your pets run amok in someone else's home. Really rude.