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Visitors dogs on sofa

67 replies

Catsoncatnip1 · 27/02/2022 12:55

Family staying over the weekend, I don’t mind them bringing the dog, but asked them not to let it upstairs and for it to sleep in kitchen as room they slept in is going to be nursery (they often take it upstairs but I don’t like it as it often pees on the floor) where we live is quite muddy and dog was in and out a lot. I kept asking for the dog to not be on the sofa and it kept jumping up. Family didn’t seem to listen to me and just let it continue, eventually I expressed can you please not let him jump on sofa as I really don’t like it. Going to have a newborn soon and don’t like the idea of a mucky pup on the couch .. AIBU?

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godmum56 · 27/02/2022 13:33

@MrsColinRobinson

I'm a doggie person, allow my dogs on MY sofa, but would not dream of doing so in another's home. Your guests are extremely rude. I wouldn't allow them to stay again.
This but also because I know my dogs would have found the change difficult, I wouldn't have stayed over.
MischievousBiscuits · 27/02/2022 13:33

I'm a dog lover, and regardless of your reasons, it is your house and your rules. They are being ridiculous.

godmum56 · 27/02/2022 13:34

oh PS, as they have history of being "difficult" about their dogs why did you plan a stay over?

user468375484 · 27/02/2022 13:35

Your house your rules BUT if the dog is allowed on sofas at home it'll take a while to teach the dog the rules are different at your house, and this will involve the dog jumping up and being told to get off. Putting some old sheets or blankets on the sofa might be the most practical option.

It's also unrealistic to expect a dog to sleep away from their humans in a strange place, especially if they're used to being in the bedroom at home. If it were my dog I'd sleep on an airbed in the kitchen with the dog as there would be no chance he'd manage alone in an unfamiliar house.

autienotnaughty · 27/02/2022 13:37

From experience if their dog is not trained to stay off telling him at the weekend will not make a difference. It's like telling a toddler not to do something they are always allowed to do it will take weeks of training. Either get blankets or as them not to bring dog.

Ionlydomassiveones · 27/02/2022 13:37

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vjg13 · 27/02/2022 13:37

I have 2 large dogs, they are not allowed upstairs or on the sofa etc. It's totally grim to sit where a dog has just sat. I don't like holiday cottages or hotels that are dog friendly for the reason that many people are fine with dogs on the bed and furniture (obviously don't take dogs).

Keep removing the dog every time you see it where it isn't supposed to be. I have had 4 rescue dogs and they all learn quickly if you are consistent.

Booboobibles · 27/02/2022 13:38

I just wouldn’t stay with you. I do understand of course but my dogs like to sit next to me whenever on the sofa and I’d have to spend the whole time lifting them down. Also, if they’re used to sleeping on the bed and they’re suddenly left in the kitchen they will cry.

I don’t understand how anyone could look at a dog’s adorable face and not love them. They’re so innocent and trusting and happy and playful…what’s not to love?! I find it difficult to like anyone who doesn’t like dogs.

Aquamarine1029 · 27/02/2022 13:38

Put an end to their fuckery by saying no more dog. They visit, their dog stays in a kennel. I wouldn't want their dog around the baby anyway. Don't be a doormat any longer. These people are not good friends.

Mariposista · 27/02/2022 13:41

I have a dog and he is allowed on our sofa, but if I go to someone else's house with him I make sure he doesn't - and he is smart enough to know 'no'. We take his bed and some blankets for him so it is never a problem. And no, the dog shouldn't be peeing on the floor unless it is a tiny puppy who isn't yet trained, or unless it's an old, ill dog who can't help it.

picklemewalnuts · 27/02/2022 13:41

Bellow OFF every time. See if you can make the owners jump.

Ask it have a house lead on, and remove it to the kitchen every time.

Spray near it with room fragrance. Several times.

Yeahbutnotreally · 27/02/2022 13:42

I think it's disrespectful to think your dog can just go wherever it likes in someone else's home

Very.

Presumably the 7% that think op is BU are the type that think their dog should be allowed everywhere and do whatever it wants in other peoples homes.

WhiteXmas21 · 27/02/2022 13:44

So rude of them. And who lets their dog pee indoors? Train it or leave it home.
As I write this my dog is on my lap/ sofa on his blanket. Rule in any strange house is he stays on the blanket, whether it’s on the floor or the sofa. He understands that rule and may not like it, but he knows he gets treats if he gets it right.

FourChimneys · 27/02/2022 13:46

I would never have a dog in the house even if it meant people didn't visit. It's so grim, especially on carpets or furniture.

Just tell them to leave the dog at home OP. If they don't want to perhaps you can meet somewhere outdoors instead.

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Catsoncatnip1 · 27/02/2022 13:48

It’s my in laws and they live quite far away. As we are quite rural there is no nearby hotels etc … I like and want them to stay and feel comfortable -just without the dog taking over 🤦‍♀️

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SolasAnla · 27/02/2022 13:48

They are being unreasonable and showing you no respect.
Family who act like assholes like that are very hard to manage.

Unfortunatly I expect that you will have to correct them each and every time they let the dog do things it should not do.
On the plus side its great pratice for patenting.
But it will end up in a big row or you grit your teeth untill they leave.🌻

Original poster
Catsoncatnip1 · 27/02/2022 13:49

Really appreciate everyone’s responses - thank you -helps me process it and firm up on a plan for next time. Xx

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Justmuddlingalong · 27/02/2022 13:50

What does your other half do to deal with it?

SolasAnla · 27/02/2022 13:51

Just seen the update.

As its your inlaws your husband needs to step up.

Plus you husband need a kennel and pen built for future visits.

BuyDirt · 27/02/2022 13:52

You’re not unreasonable as it’s your house. Did you tell them the rules before they stayed?

We only stay over with family/friends that are happy for the dogs to do all the things they can do at home like go on the sofas as if just makes the whole thing really stressful, saying no to the dogs doing things they’re used to being allowed to do.
I find it easier for people to stay with us.

girlmom21 · 27/02/2022 13:55

I'm a dog person and would let any dog on my sofa but ultimately you asked them not to and them ignoring you is incredibly disrespectful.

In future they'll have to pay for doggy boarding when they visit.

ABitBesotted · 27/02/2022 13:55

surely no one would take a non-housetrained dog to visit anyone? What breed is it?

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 27/02/2022 13:55

Why not invest in a ddoggy set up for next visit? New ddoggy bed in the kitchen and a baby gate to keep it in there.
I have 4 ddogs and can't imagine being so rude as to assume they are invited never mind take over! Or tell dh to tell them there are kennels nearby..

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Catsoncatnip1 · 27/02/2022 13:58

He’s supportive and agrees, it probably wouldn’t bother him as much as me but he does understand … If he sees it will shoo him of and has made his parents quite aware this weekend. He will speak to them this week about it - they won’t have even realised it’s a problem, but think they will end to talking about it this week and hubby will explain further x

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mummykel16 · 27/02/2022 13:59

@Catsoncatnip1

Family staying over the weekend, I don’t mind them bringing the dog, but asked them not to let it upstairs and for it to sleep in kitchen as room they slept in is going to be nursery (they often take it upstairs but I don’t like it as it often pees on the floor) where we live is quite muddy and dog was in and out a lot. I kept asking for the dog to not be on the sofa and it kept jumping up. Family didn’t seem to listen to me and just let it continue, eventually I expressed can you please not let him jump on sofa as I really don’t like it. Going to have a newborn soon and don’t like the idea of a mucky pup on the couch .. AIBU?
That's just foul and dirty