Husband txt picture of our ill child to another woman

[youhearditherefirst]

I found out my husband was txting another woman whilst sat at our ill child's bedside in hospital.
His txts were all about getting sympathy. She wasn't responding so he sent her a picture of our child hooked up to machines and very ill no doubt to get a reaction.

He has tried to make out I'm overacting by being utterly disgusted by this and not being able to forgive him. So everyone - aibu?

I can't add any more than has already been said. I think you know your marriage is over. It is up to you whether you have the courage or strength to act on it. I hope your DS continues to recover. Good luck x

I hope you welcomed your child home without your husband.

I hope he's soon to be an ex-husband.

He's disgusting and untrustworthy.

Good luck, OP.

She is a co-worker he has feelings for, she shot him down and he continued to txt her sporadically which she ignored - I've seen the txts!

I was going to stick up for him and say he was texting a friend or he had plans with her but he had to cancel and she asked if the child was ok etc etc

But he’s doing it to guilt trip her into having sex with him - how low can you get!! That’s vile!!

Why are you still with him if you know that he’ll leave you if this women ever changes his mind (I doubt she will but he could start fancying someone who will).

It’s worrying that he is trying so hard to get out of this relationship.

I’m glad your child is ok.
Kick him out today.

What a selfish dick, I'm so sorry for you and your children OP, you all deserve much better.

Clearly the marriage is over, make it clear to him that he’s not to use images of his kid without their consent, and certainly not to stalk anyone or boost his sex life. Enjoy life free from this disgusting bloke.

Bin the creep. Why would you stay with someone who wants someone else anyway?

Sounds like stalker behaviour if she’s not replying and he’s persisting

He's a bastard. Plain and simple.

So he fancies someone who clearly isn’t interested and he thought he could get a reaction out of her by sending a pic of your child in hospital? Jesus Christ, LTB.

@Associatepeggy

I am sorry op this is absolutely vile.

As pp said, he is trying to cheat on you and harassing this woman and try manipulate her into engaging with him, even though she has been clear.

He is disgusting

This.

So sorry about your child and hope they are making a speedy recovery. Sorry you're in such an awful situation

Keep quiet, let it go.
Get your ducks in order.
Once your able, sooner the better, get rid

Goodbye, husband! What a creep. Your poor child, basically being used as click bait by their dad, who is sniffing around a woman who has rejected him, all while his WIFE is at the bedside of her poorly little one.

Yep.

Goodbye, STBXH

I'm shocked that you're still with this man. He is reprehensible.

@youhearditherefirst

She is a co-worker he has feelings for, she shot him down and he continued to txt her sporadically which she ignored - I've seen the txts!

He then txt her about our child. When she wasn't engaging he sent the picture.

Well he has feelings for another woman and doesn't seem to understand when no means no.

Child aside, that enough for me.

He is a disgusting creep in so many different ways which plenty of other posters have already listed.

Get rid of him. This will never get better. It's the lowest of the low to use a photo of a sick child to manipulate someone he fancies.

Get shut of this loser now

I think people are being a bit unfair to OP in asking why they are still with the husband knowing he has feelings for someone else. OP might have only just discovered all of the messages, including the previous advances on the OW and the photographs of their sick child.
If this is the case OP, I am sorry that you have discovered such a disgusting catalogue of behaviour.
If I were in your shoes I would find any of his behaviour unforgivable, but worst of all would be using your sick child in an attempt to get sympathy from the OW. You are absolutely not being unreasonable.

Now your little one is home and recovering is the time to get angry.
The fuckwit you married deserves nothing more from you. Show him the door.
You don't even have to worry about a long drawn out divorce , as of April (I believe) its a quick see ya later twatty gator .
As for his colleague, what she chooses to do is up to her. It is vile, misogynistic stalking, behaviour for which he should be sacked. But that isn't your concern. Concentrate on you and yours 💐

Oh OP this is awful to read. I am so sorry

This is so sad. Whatever he says now doesn't matter. He has shown you what level of care he has in his heart for you and your children. None.

The poor woman he’s been harassing

@youhearditherefirst

They are much better and home now. Thank you Xx

Not a chance the op is going to do anything

It will stagger on. Deeply unhappy for the OP but even more tragically - a horrible environment for the children

Shit husband, shit father, shit person.
You and your dc deserve more.

Firstly I hope your child is recovering well op, this is just vile, I could not put up with this behaviour my DH would have had his bags packed and on the doorstep beyond disgusting!

LTB, what a vile creature.