Husband txt picture of our ill child to another woman

[youhearditherefirst]

I found out my husband was txting another woman whilst sat at our ill child's bedside in hospital.
His txts were all about getting sympathy. She wasn't responding so he sent her a picture of our child hooked up to machines and very ill no doubt to get a reaction.

He has tried to make out I'm overacting by being utterly disgusted by this and not being able to forgive him. So everyone - aibu?

@youhearditherefirst

She is a co-worker he has feelings for, she shot him down and he continued to txt her sporadically which she ignored - I've seen the txts!

He then txt her about our child. When she wasn't engaging he sent the picture.

Does he know you know? Leave him. He's a dick.

If he had an ounce respect for you OP he would stop any text exchange with someone who “he’s got feelings for “ and ESPECIALLY when you’re child is so poorly! Wrong on so many levels ….

Glad your DC is ok now but I think you need to seriously consider his level of commitment in your marriage

Yanbu. Awful behaviour. Imagine thinking about how he can use his sick child to gain attention from someone who is not interested.

Dreadful behaviour on so many levels! Get rid OP.

Not only is he being a scummy husband he’s running the risk of being sacked if he keeps harassing his co worker.

Just no. @youhearditherefirst get rid of this man. This is just awful. Who uses their child to try and gain a few ego kibbles from the woman they fancy. Gross, just gross!

It's a shit thing to do for sure. But I think you've bigger problems. What the hell is he doing harassing this poor women who obviously has made it clear she wants nothing to do with him?
He's in real danger of losing his job! And he's a dickhead

I’d leave. I did, anyway. My ex did something similar (not pictures of our son ill, but pictures of our son dressed up in cute outfits or on days out- days out I’d taken him to alone - all the pictures were taken by me. But he wanted “look how good a dad I am” points from his emotional affair partner. I always found it amusing that you could clearly see just my shadow in many of the pictures).

It’s sucks, but I’d rather be on my own than played for a fool. What’s your financial/family situation like? Could you get away?

Have you challenged him about it OP?

You deserve better than him.

He’s shown himself to be brazenly manipulative & blatantly refutes criticism after exposure.

Is this a bizarre one-off, his common sense & decency distorted by stress/distress at your child’s condition, or another episode in a narrative of everyday manipulations & exploitations?

How have you seen the texts? By your own discovery or has he told you?

Oh ick…what an idiot. Oh no.

I’d be mortified by him, for him, about him. So pathetic and inappropriate.

Did she respond? Poor woman.

@SarahBellam

Your DH is a creep on four counts: Trying to cheat on you, harassing a woman who told him she’s not interested and trying to manipulate her in the worst way to get her to respond, invading your child’s privacy when they were at their most vulnerable, and minimising and gaslighting you about it. Any one of those on their own is despicable, but taken together they amount to a picture of an awful, selfish, vile excuse for a man. He has shown you who he is. Believe him.

Absolutely this. Sorry op glad DC is now better & at home.

Poor woman. Poor you.

Wow, that’s terrible. I’m sure you realise that if she showed any interest in him, he’d be out the door and leave you all behind… Put yourself and your kids first, OP.

He is disgusting. he can't give a shit about his child if all he can think of is to use the child to try to make a young woman respond to him.

He's harassing a young woman at work. I hope she makes a complaint to HR. I would be genuinely worried that he will try it on physically given a chance since he appears to not understand the word no. Most of us have experienced the man at work who brushes past really closely, finds excuses to touch us and so on.

He's a selfish, shit father and a letch.

He's foul. Just, foul.

The poorly judged photo in itself is the least of your problems.
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The fact that your DH is openly trying to get off with another woman would seem more of an issue.

What do you intend to do, OP?

Sorry OP but your husband is a disgusting rat.

My first LTB

Ew.

Get rid.

Can't you report him to the police for harrassing the poor woman. Get it documented. What a creep!

That's unforgivable and wrong on so many levels. Sad and desperate in his part that's she's clearly not even interested in him so his sent the pic for attention so she will reply. That is so cringy and disgusting just kick him out his a saddo

Yuck. Defo get rid, what a creep, that’s just so wrong on so many levels. Glad your child is getting better

@youhearditherefirst

She is a co-worker he has feelings for, she shot him down and he continued to txt her sporadically which she ignored - I've seen the txts!

He then txt her about our child. When she wasn't engaging he sent the picture.

Oh that is completely unacceptable! What a dreadful invasion of privacy.

He’s got an unrequited crush on a co worker?

What a desperado.

Maybe rethink your relationship.

I think my sympathy lies with your son, what kind of a sh*t parent focuses on someone he fancies at work while his flesh and blood is laying in hospital? As a mother this would be him out the door for me, add everything else in (why are you still with him if you know he's actively trying to pursue her?!) He's lucky to even have a job

So far over the line it's unreal. Appalling.

I'm so so sorry, OP.