Are these comments not nice ? Or am I being too sensitive?

[Userdeniedit99]

Friend says the following to me:
Userdeniedit99 ate all the starters (said to rest of group we were out with). She actually ate it all
Userdeniedit99 put that on friends phone. Infact, she did, not me
Userdeniedit99 is the eldest in the group (said to some blokes we were chatting to). She's actually the eldest

I had a friend like this. Constant snipes putting me down in group situations (as in when out chatting to blokes in a pub), I could never get a word in edgeways when we were chatting to blokes and she especially took over if a bloke was interested in me. Making herself feel/look good with her put downs of me. Everything was arranged on her terms and always to her advantage eg the taxi picked us up and dropped off at hers. On the rare days it dropped at mine she insisted on being home dropped first (i.e for her safety and cost savings, but stuff my safety). We were once sat waiting for a cab in the rain, friend had the umbrella over us but of course it was more over her than me, so i was getting wet (i had given up asking her to make sure it was over both of us). A stranger walked past and told friend to stop being selfish by letting me get wet ! we went to a party and everyone took a bottle. There was 1 bottle left over at the end of the night. I think the host should have got it, but she sneaked it into her bag and hid it (stole it ?)

You need this book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab.

It’s brilliant

I set boundaries with my mother and now she is not talking to me because of my "nastiness".

Everytime I set q boundary, it results in the person casting me in the role of their enemy.

I dont know how other people set boundaries without blowing their lives up.

:-/

@incognitoforthisone

Once again, I'm amazed at how many people have 'friends' they don't actually like. This woman's clearly horrible to you and you, understandably, hate her for it.

She doesn't like you. You don't like her. Why are you spending time together?

Utterly bemused.

It's WTF on a loop🤷‍♀️

@EveningOverRooftops

Because it’s bloody hard to make friends and it’s ‘better’ to go to dinner/cinema/socially acceptable activity with a dick than go alone and every other dick make a song and dance of you being alone and how sad and lonely it must be.

But if you use people like this it's not surprising they're dicks to you. It's a vicious circle and just gets worse.

Just look baffled and ask ‘why are you lying?’

[quote NumberTheory]@EveningOverRooftops

Because it’s bloody hard to make friends and it’s ‘better’ to go to dinner/cinema/socially acceptable activity with a dick than go alone and every other dick make a song and dance of you being alone and how sad and lonely it must be.

But if you use people like this it's not surprising they're dicks to you. It's a vicious circle and just gets worse.[/quote]
I see it a lot. Nice people putting up with absolute awful people because they’d rather not be alone.

And I don’t think they’re using them, they’re genuinely nice to the dick. Just can’t see or choose not to see the bad behaviour because again, that would mean being alone.

Tell her you'd love to split your amazing and Spotify with her, it will be great only having to pay 50%. A great cost saving for both of you.

Don't go to the show if you don't fancy staying up that late, with work the next day. Say "I thought we were going in the afternoon late doesn t suit me, you'll have to get someone else". Tha should be easy for her with her winning personality.

Presuming its know you she undermines, snipes and ridicules in company.

Honestly, it sounds exhausting trying to deal with her. She's a cunt and died not going to change.

Can you phase her out.

Are there opportunities to socialise with the others without her.

*amazon

Tell your friend you think it's a great idea tk share the cost of Netflix and Amazon. Please send me £XX to cover the cost for this year and I'll send you the details.

A common dynamic. You're the easy target, the scapegoat. She probably loves having you around as she's able to feed her ego at your expense. Not a good friend, not a real friend at all in fact. I'd get rid of her personally but if you have no choice but to be around her then you have to learn how to bite back/poo-poo her nonsense as it's the only way with these types. She'll probably cave at the slightest push back.

@Lurking9to5 that book I recommended is really great on boundaries.

Just tell the cheeky bitch to fuck off and block her. Why do people put up withmthis kind of shit?

This all sounds rather childish