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Would you tolerate your DP/DH liking sexy photos of OW on SM

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Lollipop858 · 24/02/2022 11:01

I’ve read quite a few threads on here about peoples DPs/DHs liking scantily clad sexy pics of OW on Instagram/FB etc, so I’m genuinely curious…

Would this upset you?

YABU - no it wouldn’t
YANBU - yes I’d dump his ass

OP posts:
Isaisa · 24/02/2022 11:02

Yes it would irritate me
But no I wouldn’t dump him

Gowithme · 24/02/2022 11:03

I wouldn't like it, I'd tell him that I found it disrespectful and expect him to stop.

housemaus · 24/02/2022 11:05

I assume you mean 'other women' as in, 'women that aren't you' and not as in affair partners?

I think it'd depend. If it was a friend of his on holiday and she happened to be in a bikini, no obviously not. If it was liking every single bikini pic a random women he knew posted I might raise an eyebrow but more in a catch onto yourself being a perv on instagram' kind of way.

ABitBesotted · 24/02/2022 11:08

Unless OW= Owen Wilson, YANBU.

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 24/02/2022 11:08

Are the only options this wouldn't upset me or I'd dump them? Good. Because I've been with my partner for 23 years but if they so much as looked at someone in their swimwear on social media they would be out the door so fast they wouldn't know what had hit them.

ThreeRingCircus · 24/02/2022 11:14

@Gowithme

I wouldn't like it, I'd tell him that I found it disrespectful and expect him to stop.
I agree with this. If he didn't stop I'd be seeing this as a total lack of respect and would end the relationship.
AllOfUsAreDead · 24/02/2022 11:16

@housemaus

I assume you mean 'other women' as in, 'women that aren't you' and not as in affair partners?

I think it'd depend. If it was a friend of his on holiday and she happened to be in a bikini, no obviously not. If it was liking every single bikini pic a random women he knew posted I might raise an eyebrow but more in a catch onto yourself being a perv on instagram' kind of way.

Yes is it just other women or an actual affair partner? The latter is an immediate dumping, but would have been at the affair anyway.

Otherwise, how is it different from us women liking pictures of channing tatum or other men online semi naked?

nanbread · 24/02/2022 11:20

Celebs - I'd think it was out of character and a bit ick. Just cheesy and obvious which is so not my DH.

"Real" random people - No. Would not be ok with that.

Chely · 24/02/2022 11:27

He's still looking even if not liking.
I ignore when he is scrolling because it pisses me off when he scrolls back to such things, less likely to kidney punch him this way.

TempName01 · 24/02/2022 11:30

@neverknowinglyunreasonable

Are the only options this wouldn't upset me or I'd dump them? Good. Because I've been with my partner for 23 years but if they so much as looked at someone in their swimwear on social media they would be out the door so fast they wouldn't know what had hit them.
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BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 24/02/2022 11:32

@nanbread

Celebs - I'd think it was out of character and a bit ick. Just cheesy and obvious which is so not my DH.

"Real" random people - No. Would not be ok with that.

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5128gap · 24/02/2022 11:38

I wouldn't tolerate it. Its creepy, sad and sleezy and I'd be embarrassed by him. Not in the least jealous or insecure either, if fact quite the opposite, I have enough confidence to know I'd be able to replace him fairly easily if he didn't measure up.

thereisonlyoneofme · 24/02/2022 11:52

Sorry I thought Oprah Winfrey !

daisyjgrey · 24/02/2022 11:56

So you none of you 'like' any photos on social media that aren't women?

Iggyplop · 24/02/2022 11:56

Do u like men's pics? If you do then I don't think it's fair to have an opinion on him doing the same.If you don't then I would find it totally disrespectful and WOULD dump his ass 😂

NameChangeCity123 · 24/02/2022 11:58

@ABitBesotted

Unless OW= Owen Wilson, YANBU.
GrinGrin
DorothyZbornakIsAQueen · 24/02/2022 12:00

I'd find it sleazy and a bit creepy to be honest. It would be out of character for my husband to do this.

Gizacluethen · 24/02/2022 12:01

"Other women" nah fine, so long as you're not writing messages, you can like the pic.

"The Other Woman" no you've proven yourself untrustworthy with her, and tbh, I'd revoke the above privilege for a cheater if we'd somehow decided to try again.

Bdhntbis · 24/02/2022 12:02

I wouldn’t really care although I’d probably tell him it was creepy. I can’t pretend that I don’t scroll a little slower if I see a picture of an attractive man

Concestor · 24/02/2022 12:06

I thought you meant the other woman so went for the nuclear option. I'd it's "just" women in general I'd be having a chat with him about it as I wouldn't like it.

ComtesseDeSpair · 24/02/2022 12:08

It wouldn’t bother me in the sense I don’t mind him finding other women attractive; but it’s incredibly juvenile and a bit sleazy and I just can’t imagine DP doing much of it. Don’t most men grow out of this sort of thing by their early twenties once they’ve realised?

CornishGem1975 · 24/02/2022 12:15

It depends who it is - a random model, influencer etc No that wouldn't bother me. Someone we know who lives locally etc then yeah that would piss me right off!

pinkyredrose · 24/02/2022 12:17

OW usually means 'affair partner' . So if that's the case Yanbu.

BuyDirt · 24/02/2022 12:21

If he did it, I would think he was a sad, pathetic man and he would no longer be my partner. He wouldn’t do it though.

HollowTalk · 24/02/2022 12:23

@Isaisa

Yes it would irritate me But no I wouldn’t dump him
You realise OW stands for the other woman, ie someone he's had an affair with while married?