Does your OH hate when your mum comes round?

[moneymoneymoneybags]

My mum lives on her own and only really has us up here and we will see her probably twice a week.

We are going for a private scan tomorrow so she will come and watch our kids, we do normally drop them at hers but we have more space and the kids have all there toys so I have said she can come here (which he doesn't want either)

He said she can come down half an hour before we leave, I said no I do want to see my mum aswell you know. Normally she will come down at around 11 and stay till dinner and I will drop her back.

But it's like every time I tell her come down he's in the background pulling faces or saying no not today.

If it was his mum that lived round the corner I couldn't give a crap I enjoy everyone's company especially on maternity leave!!

We've just got into a huge argument over it and I said I can't imagine other peoples husbands are like this and he seems to think they are.

Is it man thing? Or does he just need to get a life!

@Featuredcreature

The fact he doesn't want you to go there, or tags along if you go into town with her makes him sound controlling. Like he just doesn't want you spending time with her without him there. Even spending hours talking when she is at yours, despite not wanting her to come in the first is a bit odd, surely he could just go out or upstairs. Might just be my suspicious mind.

This.

He sounds controlling to me.

He doesn't want her to come around but sits in on the conversation for hours?
Preventing you having some private chats with her?

Controlling.

Try telling him you are going to town on your own and start visiting her in HER house on your own once a week, leaving him with the children.

He shouldn't have a problem with that.

If he does, he's controlling.

@WhatATimeToBeAlive

My DH sees my Mum more than me! He pops round when I'm at work for a cuppa. So no, it's not normal and he would have no issue at all with her coming round. He also got on very well with my Dad and loved visiting them both.

It's also not normal for you DH to see your mum more than you. That's like someone coming along and accusing you of ignoring your mother because of that.

We have different lives and different relationships with ILs. Twice a week all day is a lotto many people. It may be nice in the beginning- believe me it gets old very fast. There should be some compromise in arrangements.

And that's also a natural thing, it doesn't imply being controlling or a grouch. How annoying was it being a teen and living with your family? It's normal to get irritated by people in regular company, everyone experiences this unless they live alone.

No my DH loves my mom

That’s really odd to not want her there but then also join you when you do to town and to sit chatting to her for hours. Doesn’t he like you being on your own with her? Why does he come to town with you?

11am to dinner time, 2x per week, is a lot, although it might suit some people

@Blossomtoes

Oh *@LuluBlakey1*, your post brought tears to my eyes. That’s lovely.

I know- he was so lovely with her and she thought he was wonderful.