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To not pay £480 to fix dd's friend's phone

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FarangGirl · 19/02/2022 14:17

Dd (14 yo) was with her friends and accidentally hit a friend in the arm. He had his phone in his hand and dropped it. Apparently it will cost £480 to repair!!! His parents want us to pay this. I think this is ridiculous. First, friend dropped the phoen, it wasn't like dd was using it. Second. If you're going to give your kid a stupidly expensive phoen, you should insure it and have a bullet proof cover.
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NashvilleQueen · 19/02/2022 16:28

I would claim on my insurance, like normal people. Not go ranting at the parents of a BOY who accidentally kicked the ball at my car. FFS!

Absolute bollocks would you. Why would you pay an excess and an increased premium for someone else's carelessness.

BearOfEasttown · 19/02/2022 16:28

@NashvilleQueen

Not a chance. It was an accident. Could have been a complete stranger that did it, what would they have done then. * Possibly the worst reasoning I’ve seen for a while.* Why? Why is it bad reasoning?

Because it wasn't a stranger. It was the OPs daughter.

The poster in question said what IF it had been a stranger?

Are you actually reading and understanding what I, and others are saying? Or you just being deliberately obtuse for the sake of it, to cause discord?

BearOfEasttown · 19/02/2022 16:29

@NashvilleQueen

Just when I thought I'd read it all on here. What utter rot!

You'll have noticed that I wrote 'victim' as opposed to victim. That was to denote the slightly ridiculous use of the word. But the point remains. The fault is the OPs daughter's and it isn't valid to say 'well he should have had a cheaper phone/a sturdy case/insurance'.

How very 'convenient.'
Mummyoflittledragon · 19/02/2022 16:29

@NashvilleQueen

I hope you'd l feel the same about the parents of a child who, for example, smashed your car window kicking a ball and then told you to just claim on your insurance. Or that you should get a cheaper car. Or it's your own fault for parking it in the wrong place.
Child shouldn’t have been kicking the ball near a car.

If the ball was being played with in a garden and it got kicked out of the garden and into the car, the child is obviously too old to be playing with a football in the garden.

Totally different scenario.

Bringsexyback · 19/02/2022 16:29

@Toanewstart23

Any teachers out there…

If this happened on school property, would school get involved in who paid for replacement?

I can answer that question because a boy threw a ball in a classroom which caused my daughters Apple Mac - which the school insisted on - to fall off the desk and smash. I was a single mum at the time and did not have a pot to piss in and had saved for that laptop for over a year and I couldn’t afford the insurance and the school refused to give me the name of the boy and refused to give me the boys contact details so that I could speak to his parents .
NashvilleQueen · 19/02/2022 16:30

Are you actually reading and understanding what I, and others are saying? Or you just being deliberately obtuse for the sake of it, to cause discord?

It was a ridiculous point because it's a false equivalence.

Bringsexyback · 19/02/2022 16:30

Absolutely remarkably the shop that I took it back to to see if it could be repaired told me that I seem to have received a faulty model that had a crack in the screen and replaced it for me after I told them the story.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/02/2022 16:31

If this happened on school property, would school get involved in who paid for replacement?

I'm not a teacher but was married to one, and no, any school with sense would refuse to get involved (unless I suppose it was a member of staff who'd damaged the phone)

Frankly they have enough "phone problems" to deal with already, without getting into this

NashvilleQueen · 19/02/2022 16:32

If the ball was being played with in a garden and it got kicked out of the garden and into the car, the child is obviously too old to be playing with a football in the garden.

Confused yeah ok. That logic works for sure.

BearOfEasttown · 19/02/2022 16:32

@NashvilleQueen

I would claim on my insurance, like normal people. Not go ranting at the parents of a BOY who accidentally kicked the ball at my car. FFS!

Absolute bollocks would you. Why would you pay an excess and an increased premium for someone else's carelessness.

No I would NOT go ranting at some child's parents - and demanding money from them - because of an accident. Clearly YOU would. Speaks volumes about YOU.

And shove your 'absolute bollocks' comment where the sun don't shine. Do NOT tell me what I would and would not do. You know fuck-all about me.

Just because YOU would do it, and try your luck squeezing money out of people who can probably ill afford it, don't assume other people would. Fortunately, not everyone is like YOU @NashvilleQueen Wink

WiddlinDiddlin · 19/02/2022 16:32

How is the fault the OP's daughters?

The lad chose to get his phone out whilst walking along outside talking to the OP's daughter.

So he is multi-tasking, badly and hasn't got a decent hold of his phone. He is absolutely at fault here.

That is a seperate issue however, it does not cost £480 to replace the screen!

I think they're taking the piss and think this is a good way to extract a large sum of money from you OP. Tell them to jog on.

Mummyoflittledragon · 19/02/2022 16:33

discussions.apple.com/thread/5659608

If this genuinely is a relatively new phone, the warranty is world wide and the family will be able to take it back to an Apple store anywhere or return to the appropriate retailer.

I agree with your post about the boy not exercising due diligence with his property.

Rno3gfr · 19/02/2022 16:33

Stuff that. That would cost nearly as much as my mortgage this month. Not everyone has that kind of money on the side. This is why my ds will only have second hand phones. We don’t have that type of money. If they have the money to buy it then they have the money to fix it.

Ionsion · 19/02/2022 16:33

No way would I be willing to pay. If the friend had the phone in a protective case it wouldn’t have broken. Their phone their responsibility

BearOfEasttown · 19/02/2022 16:34

@NashvilleQueen you do NOT like people having different opinions to you do you? Tough shit hun.

Nocutenamesleft · 19/02/2022 16:34

@FarangGirl

My iPhone screen was £280 to repair through apple.

So screens can be very expensive. Even my excess in my phone insurance was £75!!!

WhatsitWiggle · 19/02/2022 16:35

That's what insurance is for. And why my own teen has a £120 phone.

BedisBliss · 19/02/2022 16:35

@SamphiretheStickerist

Tell them to claim on their home insurance.

An accident is an accident. Even with a stupidly expensive phone and a young teen. They should have it covered, physically and via insurance.

Absolutely! My daughter has been in the same situation and her screen cracked. If they didn't insure it more fool them!
BearOfEasttown · 19/02/2022 16:35

@WiddlinDiddlin

How is the fault the OP's daughters?

The lad chose to get his phone out whilst walking along outside talking to the OP's daughter.

So he is multi-tasking, badly and hasn't got a decent hold of his phone. He is absolutely at fault here.

That is a seperate issue however, it does not cost £480 to replace the screen!

I think they're taking the piss and think this is a good way to extract a large sum of money from you OP. Tell them to jog on.

Exactly. It is NOT the OP's DD's fault. The eejit parents of this boy need to claim in the insurance. If I was the OP I would telling this boy's parents to fuck off. YEP, I really fucking would!
Mummyoflittledragon · 19/02/2022 16:36

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

NashvilleQueen · 19/02/2022 16:36

Just because YOU would do it, and try your luck squeezing money out of people who can probably ill afford it, don't assume other people would. Fortunately, not everyone is like YOU @NashvilleQueen**

Just to remind you about my first posit where I'm suggesting the the OP should offer to pay something. That's because I would do the same in the circumstances. Not that I would ask for money in the same situation. But for someone who doesn't want me to make assumptions you're kind of relaxed about doing the same to me.

oncemoreunto · 19/02/2022 16:37

The warranty won't cover a screen crack caused by dropping on a pavement.
In the USA you can buy insurance from apple when you buy a phone to cover cracks but you don't have to.
If you don't buy this extra cover you have to pay the costs of a screen crack.

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 19/02/2022 16:40

@babyjellyfish

People are still responsible for things they break by accident.

Yes. The boy is indeed responsible for the phone he broke by accident.

Would the phone have been broken if your child had not knocked it out of the other kids hand? No.

Would have the uninsured phone worth around £1000 have been broken if its owner hadn't been holding it in his hand whilst walking along a brick path instead of keeping it safely in his bag or pocket? Or if he had kept it in a proper protective case?

Also no.

Precisely. If you have an expensive phone you keep it in your pocket when not in use, surely?

But not your back pocket. Never your back pocket. Particularly if you may need to go to the loo Sad > sobs at memory of losing two phones this way

DoubleTweenQueen · 19/02/2022 16:41

@FarangGirl I don’t think you’re under any moral obligation at all to help out with costs to repair the phone - not a penny.
Ridiculous to buy young teens such an expensive phone for exactly this reason. Accidents happen.
Your DD didn’t do anything wrong or feckless
The boy ought to have had it put away in safe place or otherwise it should be properly encased to protect it

Tell them to simply replace it with a Motorola or something les ££££.

Parents totally BU - to buy such an expensive phone for their DS; to not ensure it’s insured and physically protected. That’s on them, not you or DD.

BearOfEasttown · 19/02/2022 16:41

@NashvilleQueen

Just because YOU would do it, and try your luck squeezing money out of people who can probably ill afford it, don't assume other people would. Fortunately, not everyone is like YOU @NashvilleQueen**

Just to remind you about my first posit where I'm suggesting the the OP should offer to pay something. That's because I would do the same in the circumstances. Not that I would ask for money in the same situation. But for someone who doesn't want me to make assumptions you're kind of relaxed about doing the same to me.

LOL, nice try at back pedalling. 🤣