Name changed for this but regular poster.
Feel very worried after a conversation with my fiancé last night. We’ve always had the same attitude towards infidelity - as in, whenever we’ve watched it on TV etc. we agree what is cheating (emotional affairs) and we’ve both always said we’d have zero tolerance if the other person did it. Never had any worries at all about him.
However, one of his best friends has just been caught cheating. He’d clearly been having an emotional affair with a woman from work for a few months before splitting with his partner. They separated on the Friday night (as in, had a conversation and decided they weren’t working well together, partly because he wasn’t putting effort in) and then on Saturday afternoon he slept with this new woman. He and his partner had been together for 11 years, own a home together etc. so were obviously still living together. My fiancé is really relaxed about this. Last night we were discussing it and he said he doesn’t really think his mate has done anything wrong.
AIBU to feel like this is a red flag? It’s certainly not how I feel about the situation, and it’s not how I would want to be treated. I’m just so in my head now that he thinks this is OK and it means he’ll do the same to me.