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To wonder what it would be like to be married to a Russian Ogliarch

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Southerngal5 · 15/02/2022 12:34

Just sitting here wfh freezing in my dressing gown & wondering what life would be like being married to a handsome ogliarch.. I can imagine myself living in Kingingston, kids in the best private schools, posh restaurants, travelling the world whenever...! Lighthearted by the way, love my dh😍

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wejammin · 15/02/2022 23:09

In my experience of family law involving ultra-high net worth families, marriage is not the best way to go - too many obligations and expectations.
The answer is to have a fabulous fling with someone super rich, get pregnant and have the baby then make a claim for maintenance - generally requires being purchased a home (for the baby), top range car, monthly allowance several times my salary, private school fees, during which time you can use all the maintenance for a PT and to do lots of self care so you can then bag a lovely AND rich man from the kids' ultra exclusive school to actually marry.
(Yes we have talked about this a lot at work...)

Florenz · 15/02/2022 23:11

You'd be better off married to a normal multi-millionaire.

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Southerngal5 · 16/02/2022 00:03

@wejammin

In my experience of family law involving ultra-high net worth families, marriage is not the best way to go - too many obligations and expectations. The answer is to have a fabulous fling with someone super rich, get pregnant and have the baby then make a claim for maintenance - generally requires being purchased a home (for the baby), top range car, monthly allowance several times my salary, private school fees, during which time you can use all the maintenance for a PT and to do lots of self care so you can then bag a lovely AND rich man from the kids' ultra exclusive school to actually marry. (Yes we have talked about this a lot at work...)
I can imagine you have seen it all! 😁 I'd say it's even tough to get past all the security for a quickie though! But I'd say the very smart woman probably wouldn't marry & enter a contract with one unless she actually loved him! Yes a normal multi millionaire would do nicely too😁
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Pennox · 16/02/2022 00:18

I’d rather be or be with a tech billionaire - no weight/nails/heels pressure and fine to slob around in a hoodie. And no threat of kidnap or imminent death from Putin.

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 16/02/2022 00:21

@wejammin

In my experience of family law involving ultra-high net worth families, marriage is not the best way to go - too many obligations and expectations. The answer is to have a fabulous fling with someone super rich, get pregnant and have the baby then make a claim for maintenance - generally requires being purchased a home (for the baby), top range car, monthly allowance several times my salary, private school fees, during which time you can use all the maintenance for a PT and to do lots of self care so you can then bag a lovely AND rich man from the kids' ultra exclusive school to actually marry. (Yes we have talked about this a lot at work...)
This is LITERALLY what someone I know did. She was more ambitious than this though, she managed two kids he didn't want. Her child maintenance per month would cover my rent for a year.

He's not anywhere near oligarch status, but by christ, going to their house was an eye-opener. SAHM with a team of cleaners, laundry service, gardener, dog walker, au pair, babysitter, personal trainer, weekly salon appointments... Her house was glossy to within an inch of perfection. I did envy how easy it was for her. But it was so empty, and she knew if she put on weight or bought the wrong dress or wasn't perfectly groomed she would be judged by their circle. It was almost as though she saw it as a career move.

MissConductUS · 16/02/2022 00:37

What's the name of the Alexandra Tolstoy documentary? I can't find it on Netflix, but that may be because I'm in the US.

Classica · 16/02/2022 00:57

@MissConductUS

What's the name of the Alexandra Tolstoy documentary? I can't find it on Netflix, but that may be because I'm in the US.
The Countess and the Russian Billionaire. It's a BBC doc so probably a regional thing.
Classica · 16/02/2022 01:00

@Pennox

I’d rather be or be with a tech billionaire - no weight/nails/heels pressure and fine to slob around in a hoodie. And no threat of kidnap or imminent death from Putin.
The tech billionaires are geeks but their heads are turned by the $$$$$ and they turn into ego maniacs.

Best to go for an old school millionaire who's made their money in toilet paper production or something. They'll be a bit brash but less problematic than the oligarchs or the Zuckerburgs of this world Grin

allfurcoatnoknickers · 16/02/2022 01:15

My friend went out with the son of an Oligarch for several years. DH introduced them and he had NO IDEA his nerdy maths DPhil mate was from such a rich family Grin.

They were very, very low key and private. Almost obsessively so. They owned a house in Green Park, a house in Swiss Cottage and a flat on Berkeley Square. DH and I used to go and stay with them in the flat - it was huge and very white, but in a very nondescript building. That was just the London portfolio before you get to the country house, the ski chalet or the place in Moscow.

I went to his 30th birthday blowout and the restaurant was so discrete we couldn't actually find it and were massively late because we had to get past about 4 bouncers to be allowed in the private room. I recall that one of the birthday speeches made a big deal about the fact that they were so happy to have us all there because we were real friends and not fake friends who just wanted their money. They were extremely guarded about their inner circle and who they let in. Definitely not flash at all, although his mum had a very impressive handbag collection.

Friend and Oligarch offspring went through a terrible breakup and he took up with a very sweet, but dumb as a bag of rocks trophy wife. She married a California tech bro, so they're both happy now Grin.

Thoosa · 16/02/2022 01:17

@Southerngal5

I also wouldn't be worried about the gas or leccie billGrin
No, you’d be on a treadmill of starvation and plastic surgery, trying to stay young and pretty arm candy. It’s a hollow kind of luxury, I think.

Daydream about making your own millions. Less stressful!

MissConductUS · 16/02/2022 01:18

Thanks @Classica, It's sadly not available here.

Londondreams1 · 16/02/2022 01:20

Because Russian was my “major” at uni I’m interested in the language so started following some Russian women on Instagram. The don’t just get one bouquet of flowers on Valentine’s Day, but about 10, all with what looks like thousands of flowers in one bouquet, some in colours I’ve never even seen before... And they don’t even really do Valentine’s Day, because their main day is women’s day in March.

Whatdayisitnow · 16/02/2022 01:49

And they don’t even really do Valentine’s Day, because their main day is women’s day in March.

I like that idea. I knew that it was International Women’s Day on March 8th, but not that it was celebrated in that way.

DSIL used to teach in a boarding school which took Russians for a while. They were perfectly pleasant and respectful to her, but the school became aware that the source of the school fees might not be completely lawful, and they stopped taking any new Russian students.

JurgensCakeBabyJesus · 16/02/2022 02:00

I had a friend at uni whose dad was a Russian billionaire, she was hilarious but also very insecure, she was very intelligent but showed no interest in studying, got a third in the end despite her very expensive private education, but where was the motivation? She was just interested in looking for a boyfriend but he had to be suitable for the father, she was on the larger side and not conventionally attractive and she used to cry about how no one would ever love her. It was all very sad. She lived in a rented flat above a chip shop in a completely unironic nod to Jarvis Cocker

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Southerngal5 · 16/02/2022 06:32

Less problamatic🤣🤣🤣🤣 A European aristo might be nice too! I know of the British aristo in their late 30s, big huge crumbling mansions but wouldn't be able to afford to heat them so there goes my paid leccie bill😩 the two arostos I know of are knobs, expect their rounds paid for, never put their hands in their pockets, very grand but apparently extremely stingy..

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FindingMeno · 16/02/2022 06:39

I think I'd prefer someone a bit less rich.
Someone who gives excess away to those in need.
Obviously still wouldn't have to worry about the leccy bill or if I could get the thing in the charity shop priced at £15.99.
I would feel very uncomfortable with staff as well.

FlexibleWorkingDenied · 16/02/2022 06:41

@JaneJeffer

I watched Sally Lindsay's Posh Weekends the other night. She looks way happier than the rich people she was spending time with. They all looked jaded except for the teenage daughter who was lovely and seemed really appreciative of her lifestyle.
Sally Lindsay probably doesn’t have to worry about the leccie bill either
BurgerAttack · 16/02/2022 06:41

Novichok 👀👀👀😮😮

TopCatsTopHat · 16/02/2022 08:58

When I went to Alnwick Castle the poison garden there had various plants which could kill a person but leave no trace. I wonder if I could get away with polishing off my oligarch so I can be the widow, I think it would be less risky than divorce.

Hoppinggreen · 16/02/2022 09:01

I have a friend who lives in a ski resort well used by these people. Her DH is a ski instructor and has Wealthy Russian clients.
They sound pretty awful and the women are replaced regularly by younger models. They tend to have a very high maintenance look as well that normally involves lots of surgery.
So while I imagine the money is nice while it lasts there is a price to pay

BearFacedCheekGrylls · 16/02/2022 09:13

I reckon I’d be permanently hungry.

wealllovepj · 16/02/2022 09:19

I would imagine it would be horrible to be honest , worrying about death threats and the whole being traded in because you put on a pound or two or losing your looks etc ( although they have lost their looks but that's ok because they have all the money )
What a carry on it must be.

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SEcretsand · 16/02/2022 09:46

@BearFacedCheekGrylls

I reckon I’d be permanently hungry.
I wouldn't last long as a wife if I had access to luxury chocolate 🍫
CrabSnake · 16/02/2022 11:11

I married the son of a multi millionaire - we live a very nice life and there's no security concerns or pressure to look a certain way.