Valentine's flowers

[ChampagneLassie]

Even typing this I think the obvious answer is YABU. I LOVE flowers, and have always bought flowers for myself. DP encouraged me not to so often, not least so he could surprise me. A friend got a gorgeous floral display made for Valentines (reds, pinks, lots of roses), which I showed him last week and said how much I loved it. I contacted same florist and ordered bouquet for another friend from them (its not local to me). I told him this. Just received bouquet a very bog-standard bouquet of whites and yellows like something you'd send a aunt or thank-you to a neighbour. Not at all Valentinesy. And not as nice as my usual Freddie's Flowers which I've cancelled! I feel really disappointed. The really annoying thing is we've been here before, that a previous year I got something a bit...aged aunt and I was really upset about it and he ordered me something better. I feel like I'm being a bit childish / spoilt but I don't generally ask for much. I feel if he can't be bothered to get me really nice flowers I'd rather he didn't bother.

@ChampagneLassie

In case of interest. I did end up telling him. And the ensuring conversation made me realise it wasn't really about the flowers. We're not on the same page about some bigger more fundamental things and I think the flowers (or his lack of attention to detail) on this hit a nerve. We had a bit of a talk last night and this morning and agreed we need to talk more about stuff.

So you mentioned his ATD (never heard this outside an office environment), did he mention your micro management?

That’s really good. This is why sometimes the difficult conversations are so worth having. It’s very rarely about the thing you think it’s about. Any frustration is usually a symptom of an unmet need.

Yes he did mention micro-management @BABAHOTEL DP is that you? Like I said, I've realised it isn't really about the flowers. It's about wanting to feel understood and the need for better communication and connection.