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Don’t know what to do about naughty cat

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elle0305 · 14/02/2022 10:17

We have 2 cats (a brother and sister), not any specific breed, just the general domestic cat type, they will be 8 years old this year, have had them since they were kittens, both neutered, and both go outside.
The male has always been the one with the naughty behaviour, he has always scratched and pulled up carpets, scratched paint off walls, chewed through various wires etc. the female has never been naughty. Since having my two children (a 3 year old and a 4 month old), our male cat has just ramped up his naughty behaviour. The biggest issue we seem to have is in the morning he seems to think I should feed him his wet food immediately before feeding my children, despite the fact he has dry food left out overnight. My husbands answer is just for me to just the cats first for an easy life, but our vet actually told me this is probably where we have gone wrong in the first place, as we have inadvertently put them at the top of the pecking order, and he didn’t really have much advice other than let the cats outside before I make breakfast so they aren’t in the house, which is fine on a dry day, but when it’s raining he will not physically go out of the door, I’d have to literally throw him out 😆
So on a typical morning I will come downstairs, make my 3 year olds breakfast, then make the baby his bottle and sit at the table and feed him his bottle while my 3 year old eats. During this time the cat will be being naughty purely to get my attention as he thinks he should be fed first? That then seems to set his behaviour tone for the rest of the day. And sometimes he won’t even eat his food when I do feed them, like out of protest? And he will carry on being naughty.. I’m honestly at my wits end with him, my life is stressful enough without an animal putting me in a shit mood every morning. Does anyone have any advice?

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GeorgiePorge · 14/02/2022 13:40

cats are dicks.
I love mine to pieces but he is an utter tw@CoastalWave

he absolutely protests if I don't feed him on demand... starting with scratching carpet and progressing to pulling out his hair...if I dare to feed the baby he will try and lick the babies head

I have spent £1000s at the vet(s) investigating the hair pulling with the only viable conclusion being that he is a passive aggressive dick.

Yes get your DH to feed him first but be prepared that he will still want a second breakfast when you are up.

you have all my sympathy

GeorgiePorge · 14/02/2022 13:42

stupid auto correct that was meant to be twt not tagging @CoastalWave*. Sorry!

FavouritePi · 14/02/2022 14:25

Feed him first then try to chuck him out for a good few hours in the morning and the same in the afternoon once he's been in for dry food and a nap. His behaviour might change once he's burned off excess energy.

PeeAche · 14/02/2022 14:57

Also, if you just don't feed them at all, eventually they find new families and stop bothering you all together.

This is strictly true for cats. Children are way more clingy.

alfayruz · 14/02/2022 15:00

Just feed the cat first, obviously. Give him a few Dreamies as well.

FrazzledMCPremenopausalWoman · 14/02/2022 15:28

Just feed him first. Giving in to what he wants will not "spoil" him - but it'll give you peace.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/02/2022 16:01

From their point of view, they have always been fed first. It's you that has forgotten about this essential part of the routine by becoming distracted by the small human.

If need be, portion up the food the night before and then just sling it down as you make your way to the kettle. Then you get to enjoy a brief period of quiet whilst they scarf their wet food, go off for a shit and then come back to tell you all about it.

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