Things in your house that you seem to be the only one bloody capable of

[Itwasntmeright]

Putting the recycling out. We can have a kitchen full of the stuff to the point where we can’t put anything on the worktops, but he still won’t take it the three steps out of the back door and put it in the recycling bin.

Taking the old loo roll off the holder, replacing it with a fresh one and putting the used one into the bathroom bin which is directly, within arm’s reach, next to the toilet.

Taking clean dishes and cutlery out of the dishwasher to use. I mean, if you’re too lazy to bloody empty it, at least use clean stuff out of it rather than get more out of the cupboards.

When dumping dirty dishes on the worktop, reaching a hand down a few inches, opening the dishwasher door and checking whether it has been emptied or not.

Putting shoes in the shoe rack which is directly next to the front door as you step in. Oh no, shoes have to go on the other side of the door in the way.

Moving things aside and looking behind things before asking me where something is when trying to find something in the cupboard. If it’s not within immediate Iline it doesn’t exist.

There are two of us in this house, yet I seem to be the only one capable of performing these minor tasks. Is it too much to ask?

Washing the cats dishes.

Moving things aside and looking behind things before asking me where something is when trying to find something in the cupboard. If it’s not within immediate Iline it doesn’t exist

This one drives me mad. Also linked to never remembering where things are kept, even though they've always been kept in the exact same place.

My family have also developed a weird habit where if they have a bit of rubbish that needs to go in the bin they try to hand it to me, so I can put it in the bin, even if this means walking past the bin to do so. Just why?!

All of what you’ve said plus sweeping. Mine just seems oblivious generally of anything that needs attention…our washing machine broke and flooded the pantry and adjoining room one night and he came down in the morning made breakfast and left for work without noticing it at all.

Three adults here and my list is the same as yours plus the dog dishes but minus the shoes.

It stopped being funny last year with everyone wfh. I am sick to the back teeth with it.

All of the above but I've found that now that I do my own everyone else is suddenly capable. I think dh suddenly realised there isn't a magic fairy replenishing & cleaning things. There is no endless clean plates, loo rolls and tea.

OP, I think you are married to my DH.

I’m not married to anybody, I was talking about my DS, but he is 14 years of age, and I have nagged him enough, so he can’t tell me he doesn’t realise.

My ex-girlfriend was incapable of switching off the light when she left the room, even though she was religious about it in her own flat and would have a fit at me if I dared to leave a light on for two seconds when nipping into another room to get something.

Changing the cat litter
Ditto toilet roll
Knowing who’s clothes are who’s.

That was my DH and kids till recently. Having spent more time at home since covid started I have put my foot down a lot more. Previously I would nag or moan, but do most of it anyway, but recently I stopped and made it clear it wasn't just my responsibility. DH has improved massively, the kids are a work in progress - starting with things that should be their responsibility eg washing up and rubbish down from their rooms, clearing up after cooking, putting washing in the right place - youngest is 16 but has some mental health issues so I can't always push it too far.

I had horrible mental health problems for several years after leaving my abusive ex-husband. I was a single parent with a small child, I had to do it. Keeping the house in order never worsened my mental health, but living in a shit hole when I didn’t do it did.

SInce my dear OH died a couple of years ago I have discovered many jobs that I never used to do, putting out the bins on the right day for example. I have discovered that using an electric drill isn't as easy as it looks, it took me a while to locate the petrol cap release on a car we've had 10 years! Yes, I know that lots of women do these things but I just wanted to show that it isn't as one-sided as the MN martyrs like to imply.

1. Looking for things
2. Laying out their own towels properly on the rail so that they will actually dry before next use.
3. Putting out new soap / toothpaste / loo roll
4. Getting lunch boxes out of bags
5. Switching off the bathroom light
6. (This one is really weird) Closing the front door properly. "Is that door open?" "No" ".... Yes it is!!!!" "It wasn't me"

Ditto to the toilet roll.

Noticing that if the dirty hand towel from the bathroom has been put in the washing basket, you should probably get a clean one out to replace it. A weirdly specific bug bear of mine. I once didn't replace it to see how long it might take him to notice, and do something about it, but I cracked after 4 days.

Well it really depends on what he does around the house

A lot of the stuff on that list I am guilty of. But I also do all the food shopping, cooking, laundry etc etc and my husband is would rather take 18 bins out than even touch a toaster so it works for us

But if he’s doing nothing then yeah, something is wrong

@CourgetteSeason I regularly do this and wait it out with certain things. I ALWAYS crack first.

Attached is an artists impression of what happens if I don't empty the kitchen bin in my house.

@JudgeJ

SInce my dear OH died a couple of years ago I have discovered many jobs that I never used to do, putting out the bins on the right day for example. I have discovered that using an electric drill isn't as easy as it looks, it took me a while to locate the petrol cap release on a car we've had 10 years! Yes, I know that lots of women do these things but I just wanted to show that it isn't as one-sided as the MN martyrs like to imply.

I agree. And just to mention also- there is absolutely no point in doing these pointless little exercises like leaving the loo roll unchanged for 4 days just to see when he will do it. If people are blind to it then the answer is… never. It just won’t get done and you’ll give yourself a hernia hoping he will notice

Taking things on the stairs up the stairs, everyone else just merrily walks past, if I didn't move them they would take up permanent residence.

Putting the bins out

Cleaning the loo

Cleaning the oven

Hoovering

Putting the clean dishes away instead of just piling more wet stuff on top.

Sorting through clean laundry

Really fed up of it.

I’m not married to anybody............ quelle surprise !.

Mopping/scrubbing the kitchen floor
Walking the dog
Cleaning the inside of the fridge
Cleaning the oven
Cleaning the kitchen sink
Cleaning the windows
Putting clean laundry away

Driving as a family anywhere
Driving anywhere new/following a sat nav generally
Googling and solving any issues with computers/electronics
Volunteering to pay for family meals/days out

Emptying bin
Recycling
Litter tray
Toilet roll
Putting things in a bin
Putting towels in laundry bag
Feeding cats
Putting shoes in a cupboard

Can’t go on due to netting the rage

I am your ds except I'm the one that finds things

In my defence I'm also the only one that does washing, cooking, shopping (even dhs clothes), all the child admin, all the social admin . . . And closing cupboard doors. That one drives me crackers!

Looking around and using my intelligence to see what needs doing.

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