Things in your house that you seem to be the only one bloody capable of

[Itwasntmeright]

Putting the recycling out. We can have a kitchen full of the stuff to the point where we can’t put anything on the worktops, but he still won’t take it the three steps out of the back door and put it in the recycling bin.

Taking the old loo roll off the holder, replacing it with a fresh one and putting the used one into the bathroom bin which is directly, within arm’s reach, next to the toilet.

Taking clean dishes and cutlery out of the dishwasher to use. I mean, if you’re too lazy to bloody empty it, at least use clean stuff out of it rather than get more out of the cupboards.

When dumping dirty dishes on the worktop, reaching a hand down a few inches, opening the dishwasher door and checking whether it has been emptied or not.

Putting shoes in the shoe rack which is directly next to the front door as you step in. Oh no, shoes have to go on the other side of the door in the way.

Moving things aside and looking behind things before asking me where something is when trying to find something in the cupboard. If it’s not within immediate Iline it doesn’t exist.

There are two of us in this house, yet I seem to be the only one capable of performing these minor tasks. Is it too much to ask?

Looking for/finding things mainly.

@TheYearOfSmallThings

Looking around and using my intelligence to see what needs doing.

Oh my god, this!

The fucking mental load.

@LampLighter414

Driving as a family anywhere Driving anywhere new/following a sat nav generally Googling and solving any issues with computers/electronics Volunteering to pay for family meals/days out

Are you a man? These seem like the things my husband would list!

He'd also add: clearing out the bath drain; changing lightbulbs and batteries; buying lightbulbs and batteries; refilling wiper fluid; locking the shed up.

@Pyewhacket

I’m not married to anybody............ quelle surprise !.

I don't understand this either. Seems like a nasty comment to me.

@TheYearOfSmallThings

Looking around and using my intelligence to see what needs doing.

^^This! They are quite good at following orders though so it's not like they dont help, they just dont notice anything.

I was going to pretty much post the opening list too!
My DH just doesn't see these things.
I took a small amount of mean pleasure in going away this weekend and actually leaving the kitchen in utter chaos. I would normally have left it clean and tidy, but I didn't. I didn't take out the recycling. Didn't empty the dishwasher and left all my breakfast dishes out.
I wouldn't say I have come back to an immaculate house, but those jobs have been done! He can do it after all.

Shutting a cupboard door. AAARRRGGGHHH!

My DH just doesn't see these things.

Why not, does he have problems with his eyesight? He needs to make an opticians appointment.

No, but he is pretty laid back about domestic chores and has a different threshold for mess! He will do it, but not at the same point I would. Hence why sometimes I step away and don't do it.

I've a list longer than I am tall.

Replacing the toilet roll! Get so fed up of sitting next to an empty toilet roll on the holder, and having the scrabble around to find the next new roll, usually behind me or on the windowsill.

You got the new one out the packet and left it NEAR the toilet - just put it on the bloody holder!!

I think @Pyewhacket is just being a tad mean there. These are all little tiny things that when they're constantly not done, and left to you to do it gets on your nerves.

I see yours is about your son op,but it sounds a lot like my husband. He does all the "big" jobs but would never think to check the dishwasher before leaving a dirty glass on the counter.

The loo roll holders in our house were awkward ones and I was sick of finding the new roll just sitting on top of the old attached roll. So I browsed the internet and bought two simple holders where the empty roll just slides off. I was so happy, thinking "yes, this will fix it!". It did not.

[quote PeeAche]@CourgetteSeason I regularly do this and wait it out with certain things. I ALWAYS crack first.

Attached is an artists impression of what happens if I don't empty the kitchen bin in my house. [/quote]
Haha that is so familiar

DH and I have a pretty even split, he empties the bins, dishwasher, does the cooking, I am generally responsible for cleaning. However, finding things drives me batty. He'll ask where something is, I say 'oh, it's in x cupboard', he says 'I've looked and it's not there'. I'll go to the cupboard, literally shift one thing and find it. As a PP said, if it's not in direct line of sight, he can't see it. It's so odd. I've mentioned it a lot, but it never improves. I don't think it's laziness, just how his mind works.

Taking the old loo roll off the holder, replacing it with a fresh one and putting the used one into the bathroom bin which is directly, within arm’s reach, next to the toilet.

Yup - DP does this one. Only he seems to have some sort of aversion to actually finishing off the original roll. That's left with at least two wipes worth of paper, then the new one is placed on the cistern behind.

If he does, by some miracle, finish a loo roll, the new one still sits on the cistern behind him. The bin is right next to the toilet, and surely it's much more uncomfortable to reach behind you than just use the toilet roll holder within arms reach?!

Moving things aside and looking behind things before asking me where something is when trying to find something in the cupboard. If it’s not within immediate Iline it doesn’t exist.

Agreed. This is called a "mansearch" in our house!

I'll also add a recycling one. We have a bin for cardboard and paper and even if I empty it entirely, new cardboard offerings will more often than not be placed on the bin, rather than in it. It's a pedal bin - it's hardly like it's extra complicated!

And finally, I seem to be the only one capable of leaving the house without "one final try" for the loo.

I live with my DS. Every time he doesn't do some of these small chores (loo roll, empty dishwasher, doesn't turn light off, pick post up off the floor) I call him to come do it. I do it calmly, don't berate. It's like teaching a toddler.
On the other hand he does share a lot of the other house hold chores and cooks a lot.

@Itwasntmeright

Putting the recycling out. We can have a kitchen full of the stuff to the point where we can’t put anything on the worktops, but he still won’t take it the three steps out of the back door and put it in the recycling bin.

Taking the old loo roll off the holder, replacing it with a fresh one and putting the used one into the bathroom bin which is directly, within arm’s reach, next to the toilet.

Taking clean dishes and cutlery out of the dishwasher to use. I mean, if you’re too lazy to bloody empty it, at least use clean stuff out of it rather than get more out of the cupboards.

When dumping dirty dishes on the worktop, reaching a hand down a few inches, opening the dishwasher door and checking whether it has been emptied or not.

Putting shoes in the shoe rack which is directly next to the front door as you step in. Oh no, shoes have to go on the other side of the door in the way.

Moving things aside and looking behind things before asking me where something is when trying to find something in the cupboard. If it’s not within immediate Iline it doesn’t exist.

There are two of us in this house, yet I seem to be the only one capable of performing these minor tasks. Is it too much to ask?

Literally could have written this myself. The dishwasher one drives me mad - DH opens the dishwasher, realises it's clean, closes it again and dumps his stuff in the sink. Infuriates me! Although if he caught DSD's doing it, he'd go mad about how I'm not their slave!

Also emptying ANY bin in the house, feeding the cat, bringing the wash bin down....the list is endless!

Making sure the slightly knackered soft close kitchen doors actually close.

Knowing where the gigantic drawer full of decent towels is.

Cat litter tray
Replenishing bog rolls
Putting empty bog roll in bin
Taking folded washing upstairs
Putting coats and shoes away

Swapping over the loo roll

Emptying the bathroom bin

Cleaning the bathroom

Cat litter trays

Changing the bedding

Cleaning the kitchen sink, drainer and taps

Taking the rubbish and recycling out

I manage to take stuff out of the freezer and close the door firmly DH has the incredible skill of not closing it fully but leaving it the tiniest bit open, so you don’t actually realise until you next open it and it’s frosted up.
Also I’ll Hoover a whole room but DH hoovers round the middle of the room never moves furniture, okay I don’t move the sofas every time but he’ll even Hoover round the coffee table rather than move it.
Also I never lose my own stuff and blame other people for moving it.

To be fair my husband does his fair share, but I do have to say, your turn for the dishwasher regularly or put the recycling out. He does do it without prompting periodically but not always. We are fairly equal here.

The only thing he seems to be completely oblivious to is the need for towels to be washed.

Closing the downstairs loo door so we don't get the huge breeze through it and leaving the upstairs bathroom door open to let it air out when you've finished in there. I really don't understand why my husband does the total opposite but it drives me mad.

Stuff left on the stairs to be carried up. No one ever sees it. 🙄l wonder if the pile got so big and filled the stairs if anyone would even notice it.

Emptying upstairs bins. Toilet rolls balanced on top of bathroom pin like a pyramid. No one moves them😡

I’ve got to leave this thread now, as blood pressure is rising. Just one thing though

EMPTY CEREAL BOXES

Seeing the washing basket is overflowing and putting a wash on

Figuring out what to cook by looking in the cupboards and fridge/freezer.

Coming up with ideas of what to do at the weekend that doesn't involve slobbing at home.