Designated shitty valentines day thread?

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Thought it would be fun (or laughingly depressing) to have a thread for venting off our disappointments.

I'll go first, dh presented me with a card yesterday and said 'here you go, open it. It's 50/50 which way you'll take it'

Opened the card and it was a picture of a lateral flow test saying I tested positive for loving you. He knows how anxious covid has made me being vulnerable, and my mum cev. Weird choice but I can sort of see the funny side.

Cue today I give him his nice sweet card and ask if he got me a nice one? Nope.
Any flowers? Cheap box of chocolate? Nope.
Said he didn't have time. He didn't start work until 1 yesterday and spent the morning lounging around. He could have left 10 mins earlier and popped into the coop.

I know valentines is a hallmark holiday but there is also a social expectation to it. I almost feel embarrassed that when I speak to my mum later and she asks what he got me, it'll be a card that he gave me a day early.

@bloodywhitecat and @MistressoftheDarkSide 💐❤️ to both of you x

Roses are red
Violets are blue
He had a wank
And now so should you

I trust you are already under contract with Hallmark?

@VelvetChairGirl

I got noting because I am single, you got a card so why complain?

Only way to be on Valentine's day! Used to stress over it when I was with my awful x.

Sorry started my own thread moaning about the quality of the flowers I got which probably sounds a bit lame. I guess with a lot of these posts for all of us its the sense that we put more effort in than them and that this is not about Valentines but emblematic of the wider relationship.

Been up since 5.30am with todler, decided to go to mcdonalds drive thru to treat my husband and I to a mcdonalds breakfast. I got home (10mins away) and they'd missed of all my food from the order (only DH's food) The thought was there, but so dissapointed not to have my breakfast treat! And I'd paid for it!

@harbourlane

His card sounds funny. I've had horrendous anxiety over covid too but that would definitely make me smile. We hate soppy cards though.

I think that if you were otherwise happy in the relationship then this stuff wouldn't matter to you. You'd see valentines day for the commercial nonsense it actually is.

This.

ClaraTheCelebrityPachyderm

That is bloody awesome ! So you keep the envelope and regift every year. ? Greta thungberg would be so proud 😁

I got a shag and a cup of tea. Not shitty, bloody brill

Well for me Tesco just failed to deliver my amazingly romantic curry meal for 2 in a box that I had oh so lovingly added to my shopping basket. Romance is officially dead.

I bought DH a themed card which is also a picture related to his hobby and a very special piece of jewellery that he loved. Kids also got mugs and chocolates. I got a black and white printed card at 11am from a print free cards website! Walked in on DH this morning having a shit - says it all really!

Homemade card and a silly pen.

We don't really do valentine's Day but we did have a nice meal at the weekend

My all-time V day was marked by me writing a fine poem, issued with card & expensive present - in return he emailed me a pic of himself, cos emails are free.

@Eycaluptus

I walked in on my husband having a wank.

Buckled at this. Soooo romantic!

Seriously though OP the card is a non-issue, you need to get over that.

I agree that people who are otherwise happy in their relationships don’t need to pander to a commercialised, capitalist holiday to feel loved. Are there deeper problems in your relationship?

I’d not feel appreciated or loved by receiving a card or bunch of Tesco flowers once a year that thousands of other women across the country also received. There’s more to love than that surely?!

He got you a card, and you got him a card? I'm not sure what you were expecting?

I think that if you were otherwise happy in the relationship then this stuff wouldn't matter to you. You'd see valentines day for the commercial nonsense it actually is.

This. Also, if he isn't fulfilling you every other day, getting you a gift or making whatever effort you wanted isn't going to change that, his actions for one day would be meaningless