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Cocaine use

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user1490969170 · 12/02/2022 18:34

I am 36 and don't use cocaine. Never have. Although none of my closest friends do, it has become common place in my wider group of friends and acquaintances. It's mainly used by the blokes recreationally. All family men. Often there wives don't know at all, or aren't aware of the extent.

Is this pretty normal? Am I just naive?

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MinnieJackson · 13/02/2022 00:46

About a month ago I was chatting to a woman in the pub who does discos and face painting for a living. We've chatted a few times and I liked her. My husband suggested we book her for our sons birthday, all nice. Two minutes later 'Minnie, come and have a line with me in the bog'. I was really shocked and told her there and then that I didn't do drugs and I wouldn't be booking her for a children's party. She seemed really offended Confused

Twofurrycats · 13/02/2022 00:54

It is prevelant where I live. I don't touch it and never have but a lot do.
Some are occasional big night out only users. Some are every weekend. A lot are most days. Especially, it seems, if they are in the building trade.

Lanareyrey · 13/02/2022 02:42

Rife in my social circle. Age range are 40’s-50’s. Quite often do it when the kids are home to in combination with alcohol and mdma.

Hate the god damn stuff and turns people into absolute assholes.

Bogeyes · 13/02/2022 05:58

Of you have mental health problems does it make things worse? I am sure a friend of mine is taking cocaine and she is on tablets for MH.

Balula · 13/02/2022 06:16

I work in a city pub, there's a lot of it going on in the toilets.

Only my second shift I walked into the gents (after a huge crash and no other staff to check out what was going on) and there's a guy sniffing it off of a pissy floor because he's knocked the bag off the back of the cubicle. GRIM.

lololololollll · 13/02/2022 06:20

@RedCandyApple

I live in London btw so not true everyone does it here I don’t!
This is like the millionth thread today with ridiculous generalisations about London. It does make me laugh😂
Mummadeze · 13/02/2022 06:27

I don’t know anyone who does and I work in Media in London. Maybe they do secretly, but it isn’t the done thing. Everyone I know is trying to live clean and healthy lifestyles these days.

Seb342 · 13/02/2022 06:36

I don't live in the city and pretty much everyone does it when they go out on the weekend here.

I've been there and done it myself and wouldn't judge anyone for taking it but for me personally I've grown up and don't need it anymore.

I've noticed a big explosion of people taking it since clubs opened back up and I don't know if being in lockdown for nearly two years has driven people wild but it's definitely more predominant in my area for some reason.

scooterbear · 13/02/2022 06:36

Well I just found out my DP is a habitual cocaine user. I knew he did the odd line here and there when out (and I didnt like that but he's an adult and it's rife where we live). I hadn't realised he was doing it more regularly and sometimes at home, near our kids at times. He has lied to me for a year and a half. I don't know who he is now, because I'm going back through all the lovely times we've had and trying to work out if it was really him there of if he was high. His grumpiness and the hurtful way he sometimes behaved on Mondays and his mood swings now make sense. He is also on medication for depression and anxiety-and for months I've been worrying about why that wasn't working and his symptoms were getting worse. I've held Him whilst he cried and panicked. I've looked after him. Now I know. And I regret the time and energy I've spent being concerned.
I'm a bit devastated tbh. Not just because of the moral ins and outs but because the person I love has lied to me for so long and the trust has gone.

Seb342 · 13/02/2022 06:38

And for people saying it turns people into arseholes, they were always arseholes but hid it better.

LizzoBorden · 13/02/2022 06:42

A large percentage of my group of friends (overwhelmingly middle class, middle aged, affluent) do it occasionally. Not every weekend by any means, but at least a few times a year when we all meet up.

I don’t think kids are doing it so much these days, it’s so expensive in comparison to the alternatives (plus they are all seem so clean living!)

Marchingredsoldiers · 13/02/2022 06:51

Any type of "glamour" associated with coke was definitely lost when I lived in a small fishing town in devon. The old alcoholic fishermen would use it openly in the pub. They'd been at sea for days and coke helped them carry on drinking. Then there were the youngesters - one of whom shat himself in the pub while on coke.

One of the londoners who moved to escape London, said the drugs were worse there compared to London.

Londondreams1 · 13/02/2022 06:57

@Valenciaoranges all those things apply to alcohol. I think it’s the most evil drug on the planet and the fact it’s so socially acceptable makes it worse for any victims.

Londondreams1 · 13/02/2022 06:59

I’m in an area of very high cocaine use (not the high end sociology economic group unfortunately) and the effects, whilst bad, cannot be compared to the effects of people who are late stage alcoholics. You only have to take the physical appearances into account to see which is worse.

Noisyneighneigh · 13/02/2022 07:02

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Itsnotokay123 · 13/02/2022 07:04

This is my life right now, he came home again last night after using Coke, there were 2 bags. One on the sofa and one on the floor next to our sons toys.

Our marriage is now over.

Allaboutyou222 · 13/02/2022 07:05

I used it on my 20s occasionally. No way would I now. For ethical reasons. I’m not anti drugs but as others have said it’s money that supports organised crime and gang violence.

All these folk buying organic food and recycling sniffing coke……the irony

Forgotthebins · 13/02/2022 07:15

Really worth watching the film “Maria Full of Grace” to get an insight on the human impact of the cocaine trade. Changed my mind about it totally, as in I used to think it was no worse or better than alcohol.

Not really convinced by the “legalise it” comments on this thread, maybe if you could wave a magic wand and make it so it would be ok, but I don’t think it would be that easy. Maybe we should ask our leaders to use their time making cocaine legal so that stockbrokers in Surrey can get high more easily. Not convinced though.

HotelCaliforniaOnRepeat · 13/02/2022 07:21

It is more damaging than alcohol. It also increases the user's capacity for alcohol which isn't great.
From a hospitality perspective the worst violent / aggressive situations are almost always coke users. People don't usually die from a single use of a proportionate amount of alcohol but that can happen with coke.
The come downs / paranoia are also worse.
A close family member is an addict and it's hell. It's damaged their physical health, as well as their personality and the impact on the family has been significant.
Legalisation won't help as it will be available cheaper illegally cut with god knows what to make it cheaper.

Lanareyrey · 13/02/2022 07:27

@scooterbear

Well I just found out my DP is a habitual cocaine user. I knew he did the odd line here and there when out (and I didnt like that but he's an adult and it's rife where we live). I hadn't realised he was doing it more regularly and sometimes at home, near our kids at times. He has lied to me for a year and a half. I don't know who he is now, because I'm going back through all the lovely times we've had and trying to work out if it was really him there of if he was high. His grumpiness and the hurtful way he sometimes behaved on Mondays and his mood swings now make sense. He is also on medication for depression and anxiety-and for months I've been worrying about why that wasn't working and his symptoms were getting worse. I've held Him whilst he cried and panicked. I've looked after him. Now I know. And I regret the time and energy I've spent being concerned. I'm a bit devastated tbh. Not just because of the moral ins and outs but because the person I love has lied to me for so long and the trust has gone.
How devastating. I hope you’re ok Flowers
Lanareyrey · 13/02/2022 07:28

Another thing that pisses me off is that some of my friends were so reluctant to have the covid vaccine, but yet shove shit up their nose constantly and are pretty much verging on alcoholism.

Darbs76 · 13/02/2022 07:31

Maybe I’m naive or just know regular people but I don’t know anyone who takes drugs

SnowWhitesRestingBitchFace · 13/02/2022 07:34

I genuinely didn't think I knew anybody who did that sort of thing until started working in hospitality. I well and truly had my eyes opened after that. It's rife among my acquaintances. All middle aged with jobs and families. It genuinely really shocked me.

Darbs76 · 13/02/2022 07:35

@Itsnotokay123 - that’s terrible. Good on you for making that decision. Your children are not safe

Riverlee · 13/02/2022 07:37

@scooterbear

Well I just found out my DP is a habitual cocaine user. I knew he did the odd line here and there when out (and I didnt like that but he's an adult and it's rife where we live). I hadn't realised he was doing it more regularly and sometimes at home, near our kids at times. He has lied to me for a year and a half. I don't know who he is now, because I'm going back through all the lovely times we've had and trying to work out if it was really him there of if he was high. His grumpiness and the hurtful way he sometimes behaved on Mondays and his mood swings now make sense. He is also on medication for depression and anxiety-and for months I've been worrying about why that wasn't working and his symptoms were getting worse. I've held Him whilst he cried and panicked. I've looked after him. Now I know. And I regret the time and energy I've spent being concerned. I'm a bit devastated tbh. Not just because of the moral ins and outs but because the person I love has lied to me for so long and the trust has gone.
Hope you’re okay. I can tell your life has been turned upside down. How did you find out?