AIBU not wanting MIL to know our address

[Fashionista22]

Currently having an ongoing argument with my partner and would love to hear some options.

I don’t get on with his mum. She’s aggressive and unpredictable. He thinks I’m being over the top but that’s how I feel. We’re looking to buy a house in another area soon and I said I don’t want her to know our new address. On one hand he should be able to tell his mum his address and thinks this will effect their relationship. On the other hand, why should I have to live in a place worrying she’ll turn up one day?

What would you do?

If i was planning on moving in with someone and they told me I couldn't tell my parents where I lived, I'd no longer be moving in with them. YABVU, of course you have a right to feel safe in your home but she's miles away in Scotland so it isn't like she's going to be popping in on her way to the shops or anything. It's unlikely she's going to go all that distance to just show up without it being pre-arranged. You need to chill out

Sorry, however much you dislike her, she is still his mother.

Sounds like you're trying to create drama where there is none .
If I was your Dh, I'd be telling you where to go.

That’s crackers - it’s his mum. He has a right to let her know where he lives.

It’s his mum. You say it’s your house, but it’s his house, too. It’s untenable to expect a relationship with someone who can’t tell their mother where they live. You need to find another solution