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Do any of you have a pet that you actually just can't fucking stand?

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mycatisannoying · 07/02/2022 00:04

My cat. Approx 11 years old and counting! Wink I've had him for a decade. A part of me does love him, but he's a knob and lessens my quality of life rather than add anything to it. He's so whiney and food obsessed and I am seldom able to sleep the whole night through because of him.
When he departs I shall be sad, but I won't miss him, and there will be relief in a way.
He has a wonderful life here with us, and I won't give him away, because he's old and is our responsibility.
Have you ever had a love/hate relationship with a family pet?

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Mo1911 · 07/02/2022 10:19

11 really isn't old for a cat. All things being equal you can expect them to live until 18 quite easily, I've looked after a number of 20 year old cats and the oldest I cared for was 24.

Fckingfuming · 07/02/2022 10:19

One of my dogs (female Lhasa) is lovely, but like velcro. She neeeeeeeds to be touching you when you sit down/ get up for the loo/ are carrying laundry down the stairs to wash, etc, etc, etc. She also will and has lunged and snapped (and bitten) at everyone in the house, without provocation. She's yappy, greedy, hates going for walks, and when she does walk, has to be on the right hand side of me, and refuses to move if I try to get her to walk on the other side.

She lifts the cats poop out of the litter tray if I've not cleaned it up immediately and rolls in it, pees in the house for no reason, even when the back door is wide open, and is jealous to death of the other Lhasa male, who is genuinely sweet, the cat, also lovely, or one of our royal python snakes having any attention.

When the dogs eventually depart in time, NO MORE dogs!

Will still have the snakes though!

Ghastlyghoul · 07/02/2022 10:19

I had a rabbit who was a minion of the anti-Christ. Got him from little so thought that regular gentle handling would soon have him tame and friendly. He was so aggressive I could only pick him up wearing gardening gloves. I took him to the vet to check if he was unwell but no, he was just a psychopath.

Pancakeorcrepe · 07/02/2022 10:21

@HeechulOppa that sounds like a great setup and also an excellent example on how things can be adapted to suit all inhabitants of the home. I didn’t realise they had kibble out. With regards to not covering their poo, it’s not ideal but in my mind a very minor thing. It’s just a quirk of that particular kitty and it’s great that he goes in the box at all!

runsmidgeOMG · 07/02/2022 10:22

My female dog !!! I have two of the same breed 2 years apart in age.

Ffs... she's an arsehole
She can be the cuddliest thing, snuggle up next to you when you give her fuss, let's me and DP roll her about and scratch her tummy etc
BUT we've had to stop letting her in the living room as she guards the sofa and will literally growl or bark at you if you move her off it - can't leave her in the living room unattended as she will piss on the floor.
She pees in dog beds, doggies have their own area in conservatory with their own sofa/ dog beds and access to the garden.
Oh the garden !! That's another thing... she won't bloody come in !!! She wants to sit outside when it's freeeeeezing. It's not so bad in the summer when you can leave the door open for them to come in and out when they please but she literally just sits there. No amount of love or treats will coax her in.

Otherwise when you get in through the door she greets you with a waggy tail, loves all strokes and treats/ food etc but is just an arse when she wants to do things her way... gahhh rant over.

My boy dogs my baby. He'll always love me (possibly my DP more 🙄)

Pudmyboy · 07/02/2022 10:23

@Pumpkinstace

Yes, Sir Bastard Bum (Sebastian)
Brilliant name!Grin
ElftonWednesday · 07/02/2022 10:24

My cat M, I love to bits but have to ban him from the bedroom at night as inevitably he wants to snuggle at 3am. Or much worse he just walks all over me, marching, marching, and doesn't settle down. But sometimes he hammers on the door at 4.30am! Bugger off M!

neveradullmoment99 · 07/02/2022 10:27

@SoosanCarter

My tortoise. He’s a Sex Beast. He lives in a sectioned off part of the garden because he will race over and start trying to mate anyone’s shoes. Bashes my feet and it hurts! Chases the cats and the dog, who is scared of him. I love him, and wouldn’t rehome him because it’s hard to find good homes for tortoises, and I couldn’t inflict him on anyone else!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
endlesssighing · 07/02/2022 10:34

Our cat has attachment issues. She was past from pillar to post, had multiple owners in multiple homes before we got her and she doesn’t have the capability to actually bond we don’t think.

Therefore in her eyes we’re simply ‘there’. She comes to us for food and to be let out. Nothing else. One of us is up at least once in the night, she hisses if you wake her up, she swats if you go near her, she won’t let you stroke her, she doesn’t care if we go away as long as someone else comes in, she hates playing. She is just there.

It’s strange because I absolutely adore her but I have no ‘bond’ with her. I’ll be heartbroken when she dies but only for like a week. I think she’s habit more than anything. It’s hard to be overly affectionate and sentimental over a pet that doesn’t love you back.

Ale12 · 07/02/2022 10:35

Yes my dog, I absolutely adore him and also hate him, mostly hate at 2.40am when he wakes me up galloping up the stairs. If I dont get up and out of bed that second I can guarantee a big steaming pile of poop or warm wee to clean up at 3am. He's let out right before bed too. His new thing is licking his fur constantly until he makes himself puke bile. This morning at 2.40 am it was a poo and a yellow stained puke stain , on carpet . Happens pretty much every night around 3am. I'm so fed up and I'm expecting our first child, I am already sleep deprived. I'm worried I will have even less patience for him when babys here, but we cant give him away I just couldn't.

nopuppiesallowed · 07/02/2022 10:35

@Maddiemoosmum0203

We have a beautiful two year old German Shepard he is so goofy and cuddly and adores us all never chews or messes however he is food reactive only his own not ours and takes treats nicely from our hands but walk past him when he’s having his meals and he snarls and growls. We have his dry food constantly in the utility but it’s his wet food if you need the loo whilst he’s eating you need to go upstairs as passing him is a no no. We love him though and have put things in place so he eats alone
We stopped this behaviour in our dog early on by holding a piece of chicken in a half open hand and putting it near the bowl of food. Our Goldie quickly realised that a hand near her food meant a desirable treat and it stopped any posessiveness over food.
HoneyFlowers · 07/02/2022 10:39

We had sea monkeys that just kept breeding and wanting to live forever!

listsandbudgets · 07/02/2022 10:42

DDs hamster. It was a vicious little thing amd bit le everytime I tried to clean its cage.Thankfully they are fairly short lived. We won't he getting another.

My cats are lovely though (they showed a lot of interest in aforementioned hamster!)

Silversprinkles · 07/02/2022 10:59

Yeah I've never understood the "cats are easy" trope either. Nearly every cat I've ever met has been a weird aloof scratchy yowling puking dead-presentleaving horror. I'm definitely a dog person!

EpicGem · 07/02/2022 11:03

Yes. I currently hate my collie. Only because she's neglecting foot warming duties in favour of sleeping on the windowsill. I may also hate her when she farts.

amusedbush · 07/02/2022 11:04

I love my dog, I've had him since he was a puppy and I would do anything for him. However, he is an arsehole. I could never, ever get rid of him but if I'd had a crystal ball 8 years ago, I wouldn't have got him in the first place. He is demanding and LOUD and can never just sit nicely in the living room while we watch TV, he constantly has to play and if you don't play with him, he barks and barks. He is walked and socialised and fussed over, he has toys and puzzles so I know he's not bored. He just sees any moment that I'm not devoting to him as a moment wasted. He barks at bird out the window and the pitch of his bark goes right through me, it's an awful noise.

Some days it is draining and DH and I agree that we won't get another dog after he sadly departs us. A day that I dread, even if he drives me up the wall! He is cute and hilarious and he delights me on a daily basis, so he's not all bad.

Pluvia · 07/02/2022 11:11

Careful what you wish for. We had a very feisty, funny terrier who drove us mad and complicated everything we did. None of the expensive dog training worked, she was very much her own bitch. Her intelligence and playfulness shone through but managing her was wearing, we were permanently on guard to prevent her doing something awful. Her last year was sad: she went blind and a bit batty but was still full of energy, even in the middle of the night. We thought it would be an enormous relief when she finally reached the end. Neither of us was prepared for the depth of grief. Turns out that I really, really, really loved that dog!

Pluvia · 07/02/2022 11:13

@Ale12

Yes my dog, I absolutely adore him and also hate him, mostly hate at 2.40am when he wakes me up galloping up the stairs. If I dont get up and out of bed that second I can guarantee a big steaming pile of poop or warm wee to clean up at 3am. He's let out right before bed too. His new thing is licking his fur constantly until he makes himself puke bile. This morning at 2.40 am it was a poo and a yellow stained puke stain , on carpet . Happens pretty much every night around 3am. I'm so fed up and I'm expecting our first child, I am already sleep deprived. I'm worried I will have even less patience for him when babys here, but we cant give him away I just couldn't.
You need to get him to the vet, none of that is normal.
Couchbettato · 07/02/2022 11:13

My dog.

We had 2 dogs until recently, and then we had to have one put down for kidney failure.

They were fine together, now it's just him he's becoming a right pest.

He's an elderly dog himself, and I think when he's gone I don't want any more dogs for a while, but his need for attention has turned up to 11, and he was already a clingy dog to begin with.

He sleeps in our conservatory, and treks muck in from outside every single day and I just can't wait for the day we can use the conservatory as a conservatory again rather than a kennel.

I don't wish harm on him, I love him. But, I just feel like I'm over dogs now.

Perhaps it's the grief. Perhaps I'm just fed up of my life revolving round dogs and it feels like there's an ugly end in sight.

StationaryMagpie · 07/02/2022 11:15

used to, loved her to death, but she was a grade A asshole, untrainable, bullied our other dog into depression, weed everywhere, defied toilet training of any kind, ate everything, rushed the front door, barked incessantly.

We tried everything, dog trainers, vets..etc... she made our life hell for the two years she was with us.

We rehomed her, miss her like mad because she was a soppy bugger who loved to sit with me, but it was the right choice, especially for the other dog who is much happier without her here harassing him constantly.

mam0918 · 07/02/2022 11:22

@onlychildhamster

Its so weird that so many of the posts are about cats when people tend to suggest cats as the default easy pet. I have never understood that!

My hamster has a lovely temperament;he gets up at all times of the day if you put vegetables into his little bowl/dangle it outside his little house, he loves cuddles and waits for me at the cage door to take him out. But even if he was very aggressive, it wouldn't have affected my life as much as a destructive cat/incontinent cat, I would just use gloves. And he is a solitary animals so I don't need to worry about animal dynamics/fighting as all other small furries are social, i think.

95% of the cats I have owned in my life were easy as pie... this one is a 'house' cat and THAT seems to be the issue.

If I had my way I would release him and let him cat like he's supposed to but my DH and kids are permanently afraid of him getting hit by a car (which he might because he's a moron who's never been let out before).

It's bizarre to me that people spout on about end zoos and captivity but the same people won't let their semi-wild pet go for a piss in the garden.

Seriously, it is no life for them being imprisoned (no socialisation/relationships of their own kind, no ability to exercise natural instinct, no fresh air, no exercise... just no basic freedom).

A shorter life well enjoyed is better for them than a 23-year life locked up.

Unfortunately, we got ours as a rehomed adult who had spent his entire sheltered life in 1 room of a small flat prior to us and he cant handle outdoors and is SPECTACULARLY un-street smart so would be dead in less than a day.

He's basically captive by the inability to release due to stupidity and loss of natural survival skill at this point.

I think my real issue is I just wish he was like a normal cat... he's basically more like a dog (loud, messy, have to pick up his shit etc...) and I didn't sign up for that when I took on a CAT.

Catname · 07/02/2022 11:24

One of our cats is pretty easy going and on the surface friendly with people (because he’s just sussing them out for food normally) but he likes to dominate and torment our older cats and can be grumpy with us if he doesn’t get his own way.

Like all bullies though, he’s really a coward and is frightened of our slightly younger tomcat who appears to front up to him every time he frightens my old lady cat. He soon skulks off as a result.

mam0918 · 07/02/2022 11:26

@Ghastlyghoul

I had a rabbit who was a minion of the anti-Christ. Got him from little so thought that regular gentle handling would soon have him tame and friendly. He was so aggressive I could only pick him up wearing gardening gloves. I took him to the vet to check if he was unwell but no, he was just a psychopath.
Rabbits are by their very nature evil... I'll never understand why someone somewhere thought let's catch these human-hating bastards and try to pet them.

The only good rabbit is one happily spring round a field far away from me in the very far distance.

SatinHeart · 07/02/2022 11:27

@SoosanCarter

My tortoise. He’s a Sex Beast. He lives in a sectioned off part of the garden because he will race over and start trying to mate anyone’s shoes. Bashes my feet and it hurts! Chases the cats and the dog, who is scared of him. I love him, and wouldn’t rehome him because it’s hard to find good homes for tortoises, and I couldn’t inflict him on anyone else!
@SoosanCarter OMG one of my relatives has a Sex Beast tortoise! No one ever believes me when I describe its foot-mating and bashing antics.
Pudmyboy · 07/02/2022 11:29

DH told her off once for chewing the brand new bit he’d got for his bike and she took a shit in the shower just before he got in.
@PanettoneMoly Made me laugh so much my own furbaby jumped off my lap in disgust!
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