Curious ...wpuld social services get involved

[Newbabynewhouse]

Hypothetically, if a mother decided to leave her family for a break away through depression..just upped and left for a week without notice then came back, would child services get involved?

If a man was to walk away and leave their family for a week unplanned and then come back a week later an eyelid wouldnt be batted would it?...

Can't see why social services would be the least bit interested, unless she left the children alone to fend for themselves!

No...

I don’t think so, assuming the children were left with a responsible adult.

I think either a mother or father would be unreasonable to do this without telling anyone else their plans though. There’s no need to cause others the amount of worry this could.

Were the children left in the care of a responsible adult?

Social services wouldn’t get involved either way, unless the child was abandoned with no one to care for him/her.

Not if the father was a resident parent.

@ShallWeTalkAboutBruno

Social services wouldn’t get involved either way, unless the child was abandoned with no one to care for him/her.

This. Jesus Christ. Do you know how busy they are?

Assuming the children were left with their other parent/responsible adult? If so, I can’t really understand why social services would get involved, or why they’d even be notified in the first place.

Why are you asking? As long as the children were safe and cared for social services wouldn't be in any way interested, I doubt.

As long as the children were left with a responsible safe and were looked after then no. People go away for work and holidays all the time, this is no different.

Firstly, someone would have to report this to children's services, correct? So they wouldn't even know unless it was report. As long as the children were left with an appropriate adult caretaker, I don't see why they would care, regardless of the parent's sex.

I suppose it depends on the definition of 'family'

You will almost certainly be reported as a missing person, and the police will look for you. This could include public missing persons appeals and so on, when you might not want your situation to be known to all and sundry.

I would strongly encourage you to tell someone that you're going and when you'll be back, even if you don't say where you're going.

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@steff13

Firstly, someone would have to report this to children's services, correct? So they wouldn't even know unless it was report. As long as the children were left with an appropriate adult caretaker, I don't see why they would care, regardless of the parent's sex.

I think, perhaps, this is the key issue isn't it? The bar for fathers is so low that of dad disappeared for a week nobody would report. CSC isn't the issue, it's society's expectations.

When my no mark stepsister left her 14 year old, 6 year old and 3 year old alone to fuck off with her equally no mark boyfriend they definitely got involved.
It would be the same for a father.
If the children are with a responsible adult then there'd be no SS involvement all other things being equal.

Who is she leaving the kids with? That’s what is important, when a man leaves he usually leaves the kids with the mum so why would ss get involved? If the mum is leaving them with the dad then why would they get involved? I do know of someone (not a friend or relative) who left her 2 year old home alone and went on holiday leaving the child alone in the flat, I’m assuming you don’t mean that kind of thing?

@spanieleyes

Can't see why social services would be the least bit interested, unless she left the children alone to fend for themselves!

I agree with this pp. No reason for them to be involved unless the child/ren were left with no other responsible adult to look after them.

@Newbabynewhouse just out of curiosity, OP, who is the parent that is planning on leaving for a week? Yourself or your children's father? Or this is a hypothetical question?

I think, perhaps, this is the key issue isn't it? The bar for fathers is so low that of dad disappeared for a week nobody would report. CSC isn't the issue, it's society's expectations.

Who would report this though? And, even if it was reported, I think children's services is unlikely to care.

Is someone threatening you @Newbabynewhouse that if you take a break from your baby they will report you to social services?

They won't get involved if the children are left home with a perfectly capable father.

They will if they're being passed from pillar to post for that week or are distressed or neglected.

If they were left with a responsible adult probably not but it would be really shitty if mummy just upped and left without saying a word, poor kids would be traumatised thinking they'd been abandoned

@Newbabynewhouse

Hypothetically, if a mother decided to leave her family for a break away through depression..just upped and left for a week without notice then came back, would child services get involved?

If a man was to walk away and leave their family for a week unplanned and then come back a week later an eyelid wouldnt be batted would it?...

Very sorry, didn't read the original post properly. You are speaking hypothetically. My mistake.

Social Services would only be involved if the children weren't being cared for in her absence. But leaving without notice for a week it would be a really shitty thing to do to children.

If you went away without telling anyone someone would report you missing to the police, I imagine SS would only be informed if it appeared the reason for you going missing means you may need additional support.

@ufucoffee

Social Services would only be involved if the children weren't being cared for in her absence. But leaving without notice for a week it would be a really shitty thing to do to children.

Agreed. I'm definitely guilty of walking out of the house, leaving DC with DP while I take a walk down to the local park and just sit there for an hour or so and then go back home. But I suppose that is not the same thing. But yes, it would be a crappy thing to do without prior notice.