Curious ...wpuld social services get involved

[Newbabynewhouse]

Hypothetically, if a mother decided to leave her family for a break away through depression..just upped and left for a week without notice then came back, would child services get involved?

If a man was to walk away and leave their family for a week unplanned and then come back a week later an eyelid wouldnt be batted would it?...

Well the person left with them would have to report it and say that it was done against their will/that they aren't suitable to care for them for it to become an issue

Most men who go missing are on a bénder or have a history of disappearing for up to a week at a time e.g. fling. It is why the police ask about history. If the father is a man who a few times a year goes on massive alcohol binges, then police will circulate details to keep an eye out for them. But there would be unlikely to be an appeal as he is probably going to turn up soon.
Public appeals are made when they are concerned the person has been kidnapped, murdered, is lost e.g. dementia, they haven't a clue what has happened, or they are worried it could be suicide.
The vast majority of people that go missing are perfectly safe. And often not truly missing as some friends or family still know where they are. For example, my friend at 18 was officially missing as far as his family were concerned. I knew where he was, he just wanted to be away from them.

@lavender2022

It is hypothetical and nobody is leaving however, my own mental health hasn't been great recently and sometimes i feel i just want to run away from responsibilities..DP is more than capeable of looking after DD do she'd be left in capeable hands..and id obviously let him know where i was when i got there..(probs a hotel or friends house) im not planning on doing it but iys been a selfish thought ive had recently...but was worried id end up getting into issues with social services...then i thought that wouldn't happen if my DP was to leave for a week so would it be differnet if the mum went?

If he decided this was the last straw, however, disappearing like that even if you say once you're there that you're fine, could give him everything that was needed to substantiate a Child Arrangements Order in his favour, as you would have left.

After all, when the men disappear for a week, they don't tend to come back and expect the children to live with them.

If one parent went away for a week, let their partner know that they were going and left their child in the care of that other parent there would be absolutely no reason for social services to be involved.

Same thing if the sexes were reversed but I completely agree that it's annoyingly viewed as far more socially acceptable for men to have time away from their kids than it is for women.

[quote Newbabynewhouse]@lavender2022

It is hypothetical and nobody is leaving however, my own mental health hasn't been great recently and sometimes i feel i just want to run away from responsibilities..DP is more than capeable of looking after DD do she'd be left in capeable hands..and id obviously let him know where i was when i got there..(probs a hotel or friends house) im not planning on doing it but iys been a selfish thought ive had recently...but was worried id end up getting into issues with social services...then i thought that wouldn't happen if my DP was to leave for a week so would it be differnet if the mum went?[/quote]
Who would be reporting it? If your partner knew where you was why would he report you? So no ss wouldn’t get involved

No SS won’t get involved in either scenario.

I know a women who left her children with their dad as they couldn’t cope and SS never got involved.

Why would you need a week away?
Could you not speak to DH and explain and say you need a night or 2 away?

I think it’s very important to have some ‘me’ time if you can but just know that if you go away for a night or 2 you may feel even more overwhelmed when you get back.

The best thing to do would be see your gp about getting some anti-depressants and look at how you can improve your life - does DH pull his weight? Are you a SAHP if so could you switch roles? Do you have a hobby/go out with friends etc?

I think if you need a break it needs to be planned in advance. I don't think it's reasonable to just up and leave. This could be quite distressing for child and partner. But totally understandable to need a break and hopefully your partner can support you to do that. I would also be very wary that if you just upped and left that you might not be welcomed back and it might not look good if there was a battle over 'custody'.

As someone who grew up with a parent who did exactly this social services won't care if there's another responsible parent in the house. The children and the parent left behind will affected though. If you need a break then that's fine- plan one. Don't just up and go.

OP I agree with past posters who are suggesting you plan a break.
Tell your partner that you’d really love to just go away all alone for a weekend off from everything (work, parenting, any family stress). Plan it. Tell him where you’re going and when you’ll be back. Go for a weekend rather than an entire week.

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