Am I dead and don't know it? Am I the guy in the Sixth Sense?

[whysonasty]

Just texted a friend who I'm supposed to have dinner with. He comes back with "OMG, I am out of the country. Completely forgot about you!"

Fine. Fine. But it's just the latest in a long line of being forgotten about and I'd love to know why I'm apparently so forgettable! I'd ask him but I'd get a non answer. I can provide many sad examples for readers who need to cheer themselves up about their own lives if they so wish. I mean... even bloody automatic doors don't see me and I've been squashed more times than I care to admit.

AIBU to ask if I could be dead and not know it? If so, can anyone out there see dead people who don't know they're dead so I can have someone reliable to talk to.

When I went for pre-op before some elective surgery I earnestly told the sister that I tended to be the one that falls through the cracks, gets forgotten about, gets left off lists by accident. "Interesting" she said while writing the word Nutter on my notes.

What happened? After my surgery they forgot about me and starved me for several unnecessary hours. Private hospital. They apologised.

I seem to have acquired a bit of bar presence recently likely due to increasing bulk, which is a good thing as I used to be invisible. Queues too, a single file queue at say a food stall, I would get to the front and the person would say brightly looking past me, "now who's next?" Once I got fed up and said loudly, "well, bloody me, obviously." Grr and solidarity to all the ethereals on this comforting thread.

So, not only did he forget to invite me, but no one actually noticed that I wasn't there.
Sorry but that's so tragic, it's funny

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@Oldh

So, not only did he forget to invite me, but no one actually noticed that I wasn't there. Sorry but that's so tragic, it's funny

Are you me? 😂

OMG I NEARLY STARTED THIS THREAD!

I live alone and don't see or hear other human beings most days, so it's always a bit tricky. But when emails get radio silence too, it gets tough.

It's got to the point I've started to buy objects online so that when they arrive I can tell I actually exist in the material world.

Queues too, a single file queue at say a food stall, I would get to the front and the person would say brightly looking past me, "now who's next?"

Yes, yes! As they lean round me to see the person behind me! WTF!

As I am getting older I find myself saying very loudly 'HELLO! AM I FUCKING INVISIBLE?' to the knobs who walk into you, cut in front of you etc etc.

I have found it amazingly cures invisibility. Possibly the modern day equivalent of the ghostly 'wooooo'?

Automatic doors can tell I'm there but automatic hand dryers and taps cannot. I sometimes have to get DD to activate them so I can wash my hands!

I hear you I sometimes feel invisible too! Friends cancel on me (at least they text I guess) all the time. Mums at schools mostly ignore me, even oh is often distracted by his own stuff as are teenage dd's. I sometimes feel like shouting 'I EXIST!!!!!'

@thatsnotabadger Yes, Siri regularly ignores me. I remember having a bad day at work after being ignored so I asked her to play me a song I knew would make me feel better. Bitch was nowhere to be found. I called and called for her in my mournful voice yet she stayed silent.

Rather than squeaky shoes I might get some tap shoes. Then I can really make an entrance wherever I go. “Ba-ta-ta-tattaa! Heeeere’s whysonasty! Aaaand jazzhands.” Might lend me an air of the charisma I’m clearly lacking. Or at least scare the shit out of my victims if I am a ghost.

@YellowLemonshade

I guess 'Sixth Sense' is a film I don't need to watch now?!

To be fair you've had 23 years. What have you spent your afterlife doing?! :P

I'm a paid up member of the Sad Ghost Club. Once had someone walk into our large office (only me in out of 8 people), stare around the room, look AT ME and announce - 'hmm, there's no one here' as he walked out. Went to a large meeting, introductions all around the room at the beginning, except for me of course, skipped right by me. only woman there -co-incidence? Someone did point out that I had been over looked, apologies etc, but otherwise, totally invisible. I could go on....

Alexa discriminates against my Northern vowel sounds.

I often think I'm a ghost mum and my kids just arrive home and eat, go to school and pick their clean washing, yet they have no idea how it all arrives 👻

Also there's a magic cleaning fairy 🧚‍♀️

even bloody automatic doors don't see me and I've been squashed more times than I care to admit

This made me lol op!!

But I completely get where you’re coming from though!!

I thought I lived in a parallel universe as apart from 1 person NO ONE remembers me from school. One guy (a few years later) I got in contact with didn't remember me, and he PROPOSED to me FFS. Can I join the ghost club?

On New Years Day my parents started a group video call in our Family Chat. I answered and my mum said “oh we were after your sister but you're here, so that’s ok i suppose”. I put the iPad down and wandered off. I could hear them chatting but I doubt they noticed I was no longer there.

Out of interest, how many of us ghosts are the middle child..?

I bet no one answers that.

…knew it…

Pfft.

I see you Lynda

I'm the eldest child by a good few years. I remember one evening when I was about 16, my parents were playing board games with my siblings on the living room floor and I was watching tv. I kept commenting something about the programme and it was like I'd never spoken! I wondered if I got up and left would they notice. So I did. I got my coat and shoes on and I went out. I stayed gone for about an hour just wandering about feeling sorry for myself then went back, let myself in and sat back down. Literally no one noticed. That was the first time I wondered if I'd died and didn't know it.

Interesting idea Lynda. I am a middle child.

I too am an invisible middle child

I'm a middle child too!

Waves in vague direction of invisible middle children, and non-board game playing eldest sibling.

I too am an invisible middle child whose car has an invisibility cloak

Another invisible middle child here. I have a auto immune disease and on bad days i need a wheelchair. Those things are amazing. The second you plonk your arse in it you become completely invisible !! People completely ignore me and only ever address DH who pushes me. Seriously ive gone into clothes shops where ive asked an assistant for an item, shes totally ignored me and then asked DH how she can help!! Doors close on you, people walk into you and then pretend youre not there. Seriously, those things are magic !!!