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If your neighbours dog was incessantly barking, what would help?

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Awkwardusername · 05/02/2022 10:52

Obviously it’s annoying, and a total pain for everyone involved, but our 10 month old dog will not shut up at night!

She’s doing it for attention and everything we’ve read basically says ignore it, which we’re trying, but we’re really worried about the neighbours! We only moved in a few months ago and although they’re all friendly etc, they’re all a lot older than us.

We have spoken to them a few times apologising but last night, the dog was on another level!

Is there anything that might help/pacify them a little?

(Please don’t lecture me about the dog by the way, we’re trying our best, and usually if it gets really bad my partner will go downstairs and sleep on the sofa with her but we need to get her back in the habit of sleeping in her crate by herself!)

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stuntbubbles · 05/02/2022 10:53

Is there anything that might help/pacify them a little?
Stopping the dog barking. Sorry. Everything else is just window-dressing.

TeenPlusCat · 05/02/2022 10:53

but we need to get her back in the habit of sleeping in her crate by herself

why?

twoladsnow · 05/02/2022 10:54

I was that neighbour and honestly I ended up hating my neighbours because of their loud annoying dog. They were also 'crate training'.

I ended up getting the council to send them a letter, they miraculously managed to shut the dog up then. Shame they didn't do whatever they did 6 months before.

DistrictCommissioner · 05/02/2022 10:55

How long has it been going on for?

VanGoghsDog · 05/02/2022 10:55

Is there anything that might help/pacify them a little?

Flowers?

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 05/02/2022 10:55

Scrap the crate. Before your ndn is beyond pacifying.. Shove a ddog bed on the landing/your bedroom and accept it.

Chely · 05/02/2022 10:56

Find a dog trainer to help you tackle it

Plump82 · 05/02/2022 10:56

Can the crate not go in your bedroom so she still has somewhere to sleep but is near you?

Singlebutmarried · 05/02/2022 10:57

Does she need the crate? Mine did as small pups, but now have an ‘open’ bed in the kitchen. Sometimes you hear them padding around of a night, sometimes the snoring is rather loud as it the dreaming. But apart from that not a peep. They got stressed in the crate and would ‘ask’ continuously to be let out.

twoladsnow · 05/02/2022 10:57

@VanGoghsDog

Is there anything that might help/pacify them a little?

Flowers?

No. That just guilts the neighbours into not complaining and would only work for a short time

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/02/2022 10:57

Have your dog trained.

Itloggedmeoutagain · 05/02/2022 10:57

Has she only just started doing this? If she was OK before and now she's not did something happen? Does she need the toilet?
Leave the radio on for her? A camera connected to your phone where you can talk to her?
Is the crate covered?

Eloradannin2nd · 05/02/2022 10:58

I've also been your neighbour, several times over. It doesn't matter what you say to your neighbours, you will be making their lives hell until your dog stops barking.
I've been at the point where even when the dog next door wasn't barking, I couldn't relax in my own home because I was on edge waiting for it to start again.
Yours is disturbing your neighbours at night, that's unforgivable, sorry.

MrsBungle · 05/02/2022 10:58

My dog hated her crate and hated sleeping alone. She now sleeps silently in my room and we are all happier.

GeneLovesJezebel · 05/02/2022 10:58

Have the dog in your room. It wants to be near you.

girlmom21 · 05/02/2022 10:59

Don't shove your dog in a crate?

If you don't want the dog on the sofa that's fine. Get them a nice bed and train them to stay off the sofa.

SpringSparrow · 05/02/2022 10:59

If your dog is barking to the extent it’s disturbing your neighbours, then you need to stop it. If that means the dog is upstairs with you or you are downstairs with the dog so be it. They could complain to the council about the noise. Not sure why you have a ten month dog in a crate either!

Whattochoosenow · 05/02/2022 10:59

We got fed up with sleepless nights, ours sleeps in the bedroom. At some point we’ll start gradually moving her bed out of the door. She’s happy and settled.
Ours isn’t crate trained. She has the run of the kitchen and utility room when we go out, with the radio on, Adaptil plug in, and Pet Remedy sprayed on her bed.

twoladsnow · 05/02/2022 11:00

@Eloradannin2nd

I've also been your neighbour, several times over. It doesn't matter what you say to your neighbours, you will be making their lives hell until your dog stops barking. I've been at the point where even when the dog next door wasn't barking, I couldn't relax in my own home because I was on edge waiting for it to start again. Yours is disturbing your neighbours at night, that's unforgivable, sorry.

Yep, it's bloody awful.

I used to hear the spring on the crate door, wait 30 seconds for the incessant barking to start.

One of the owners who worked from home would go and sit in his car to get some peace. Wanker!

Devilmakes3 · 05/02/2022 11:00

Can she sleep in your room or one of the kids rooms? You cannot just have her barking night after night that really isn’t an answer. She is scared and/or lonely address those emotions and you have addressed the issue.

BringBackCoffeeCreams · 05/02/2022 11:03

You do whatever is necessary to stop the barking as soon as it starts. Ignoring it because it's 'for attention' is an absolute cop out. Letting your dog disturb your neighbours is inexcusable. My DH used to walk our dogs for hours in the middle of the night as it was the only thing that shut them up.

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Awkwardusername · 05/02/2022 11:03

@DistrictCommissioner

How long has it been going on for?

A week or two now; it isn’t every night though! Most nights however so I feel awful!

She normally bloody loves her crate, so not sure what’s changed! She’s in season at the moment so I’m wondering if that’s why she’s kicking off?

She’s a large dog so we have her in a crate to protect her (still growing) joints at night, as she enjoys nothing more than backflipping off the sofa!

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Elphame · 05/02/2022 11:04

How is the dog if you go out and leave it? Does she bark then as well?

Some breeds are very prone to separation anxiety and if you have one you may need professional help.

Elphame · 05/02/2022 11:05

Oh - I've just seen your update.

Yes that could very well be the problem. She'll be calling for a mate!

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Awkwardusername · 05/02/2022 11:06

Actually now I’m thinking about it, it’s about 5am she starts barking normally (happy enough in there until then at least!) so maybe the noise of the pipes when the heating is coming on is the problem?! Disturbing her?

I can feel myself making excuses for her here, sorry!

The neighbours have been adamant they can “barely hear her” and I know the walls are quite thick; she’s downstairs at the back of our house and their bedroom is upstairs at the front of theirs but I’m so paranoid and don’t want to be the annoying neighbour!

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