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To occasionally not want to share food from takeaway?

74 replies

FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 18:23

Dh likes to choose lots of little dishes we can share. I am fine with this most of the time, but, on occasion, I just want to order my meal and for it to be mine!

Aibu?

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 03/02/2022 18:28

Smithy does not share takeaways!

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FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 18:29

I remember that scene without even having to watch the video! He wants all the bhunas! I don't want ALL the bhunas fwiw. Maybe just one. And a rice. I'll share naan

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Ilovedthe70s · 03/02/2022 18:32

Just don’t touch my Jamdani HashSmile

AnnieLobeseder · 03/02/2022 18:36

I don't share food. YA absolutely NBU. I'm with you on sharing the naan. And you get some little dishes (we call them 'nibbles and dips') like saag paneer and bombay potatoes that are for sharing. But your own carefully selected main? Nope, get off!

ChittyBangs · 03/02/2022 18:37

I don't like sharing food.

HunkyPunk · 03/02/2022 18:38

Dh and I always get our own meals from takeaways, but occasionally if I get together with friends at someone’s house, despite my best efforts to insist I’d be quite happy just having my favourite veg chow mein (mmm, I want one now!) so that they can order meat dishes to share (I’m the only veggie), we invariably end up sharing dishes. There’s always plenty for us all to eat, but I still feel slightly resentful when people are digging in to ‘my’ chow mein!

InisnaBro · 03/02/2022 18:40

I hate sharing food. I happened to discover recently that my sister, to whom I'm not close, feels the same -- we both think it was a childhood with far too many siblings and only just enough food to go round that has meant that a 'sharing food' situation isn't all cool and casual for us, it's a source of anxiety about not getting enough.

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/02/2022 18:44

Am I first?

I hate sharing. Bugger off.

To occasionally not want to share food from takeaway?
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FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 18:45

@InisnaBro

I hate sharing food. I happened to discover recently that my sister, to whom I'm not close, feels the same -- we both think it was a childhood with far too many siblings and only just enough food to go round that has meant that a 'sharing food' situation isn't all cool and casual for us, it's a source of anxiety about not getting enough.
Yeah, there's a bit of this probably. Funny though, as dh has lots of siblings too but he is the only boy, and his sisters aren't massive eaters. Maybe it's that. I had brothers and sisters and the boys especially ate loads
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MrsTerryPratchett · 03/02/2022 18:46

My trauma is from my dad always picking food off people's plates with sticky fingers without asking. He licks fingers and puts them back and all sorts. Envy

DD shares wonderfully because we always asked. And were polite to her.

EishetChayil · 03/02/2022 18:46

Tonight I had a boiled rice/chips/curry sauce from the Chinese while DH filled his boots with the usual dishes. He didn't get a look in of mine. It was delicious. Sometimes it's fine not to share.

Maddiemoosmum0203 · 03/02/2022 18:49

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Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 03/02/2022 18:50

As an only dc I don't do sharing!!

Xyzzzzz · 03/02/2022 18:52

I hate sharing that includes with DD.

burnthur5t · 03/02/2022 18:53

I never share my takeaway.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 03/02/2022 18:53

I wonder why 12% of respondents think that it isn’t ok not to share occasionally!

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FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 18:53

Oh that's so interesting easter! I thought it was the siblings what done it!

Maybe it's not that deep though and sharing food just sucks isn't for everyone Wink

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Fridgeorflight · 03/02/2022 18:58

I can't bear sharing. I struggle with my DH having 'a taste' of mine. The way he carefully loads his fork with a bit of everything makes me want to scream. A taste should just be a quick, apologetic grab of a bit of sauce, not a lengthy collection process. Though I also don't understand why he always eats a bit of every item on his plate in each forkfull of food the weird food mixer.

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/02/2022 19:03

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

I wonder why 12% of respondents think that it isn’t ok not to share occasionally!
They're the selfish food pickers who eye up your plate the second it's down, fork in hand, hovering, waiting to scrape the best bits into their repulsive, grasping maw.

I think I may have genuine issues with this.

YeOldePotato · 03/02/2022 19:04

Hate sharing the main curry. Will happily share the extra bits and Chinese and pizza.

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FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 19:04

"grasping maw" 😂😂😂

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SummaLuvin · 03/02/2022 19:05

Not unreasonable to not want to share occasionally, but if you normally do then I think you should make that clear when you place the order.

DH and I almost always share - trying each others starters, dipping in curries, bite of chicken... So if we ordered an Indian and when it arrived I couldn't have a corner of his onion bhaji I would be really put out, as the assumption we would share probably impacted my order. However, if from the start he said "I really want the bhaji and on this occasion I don't wish to share" I would be fine with that and order some for myself if I wanted them too.

duvetdayforeveryone · 03/02/2022 19:06

Sharing take-away should be a crime!!! My DH knows if he tried to take any of my take-away I'd bite off his hand!

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FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 19:08

@SummaLuvin

Not unreasonable to not want to share occasionally, but if you normally do then I think you should make that clear when you place the order.

DH and I almost always share - trying each others starters, dipping in curries, bite of chicken... So if we ordered an Indian and when it arrived I couldn't have a corner of his onion bhaji I would be really put out, as the assumption we would share probably impacted my order. However, if from the start he said "I really want the bhaji and on this occasion I don't wish to share" I would be fine with that and order some for myself if I wanted them too.

Yes, there would be full disclosure at point of ordering. "I do not want to share"
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MrsTerryPratchett · 03/02/2022 19:12

@duvetdayforeveryone

Sharing take-away should be a crime!!! My DH knows if he tried to take any of my take-away I'd bite off his hand!
It's much easier to stab their hand with a fork.