To occasionally not want to share food from takeaway?

[FrugalFrancine]

Dh likes to choose lots of little dishes we can share. I am fine with this most of the time, but, on occasion, I just want to order my meal and for it to be mine!

Aibu?

To me it depends on what it is! Kebab or fish and chips etc then no way. Indian - each chose a curry unless pre agreed to share but sides are for sharing. Chinese in my family it’s always been order many options and a bit of everything. Restaurant takeaway - usually own main maybe share a couple of starters if all sound too good and desert is mine and mine alone.

Wow we always share ( and have left over) can’t manage a whole dish each

I never share. I ordered what I wanted because that’s what I like. You do the same. Everyone is happy. I may save you some if I’m full, and feeling generous.

@MrsTerryPratchett I eat with a spoon that has both pros and cons. Pro is a spoon makes a great mouth shovel. Con is it makes a poor weapon :(

I do share appetisers but only if it is pre-planned and I only give out the pre-planned allocated amount. For example, I like eating 4 chicken sesame toast but the appetiser comes with 8 chicken sesame toast so I give the 4 I don't want to my DS.

Can we swap husbands (--for takeaway purposes only)

Note: My DH and children can order whatever they want off the menu. I don't starve them, I promise.

As my DP puts it, you are so kind and generous with everything except food xD

Seriously though, I actually love sharing platters with my DP. But if I order a specific meal or dish from the takeaway I want to eat it and I want the leftovers!!

Me and DP both like the same meal from our local very good Chinese - we order 2 of the exact same thing so now we just get 2 of each and everyone is much happier.

Rookie mistake there @duvetdayforeveryone

Spoon in shovelling hand. Fork in non-dominant stabbing hand. The fork can protect the food and the spoon hand. Fork can also assist in getting more food on the spoon.

@MrsTerryPratchett

Rookie mistake there *@duvetdayforeveryone*

Spoon in shovelling hand. Fork in non-dominant stabbing hand. The fork can protect the food and the spoon hand. Fork can also assist in getting more food on the spoon.

Much to learn I still have!

I’m with you! I hate sharing. I have picked a particular meal because that is what I want to eat and I want ALL of it. You eat your food, I eat mine. My husband always tries to take food of my plate and it makes me rage.

Don't mind sharing with dp and kids.
Anyone else,no.
I order what I like and it's all mine.

Even the thought of being expected to share makes my blood boil 😂😂😂

Pete, have you thought about my Bhunas?

Team Smithy for me.

@Mybumlooksbig

Can we swap husbands (--for takeaway purposes only)

Depends...is he good looking

Consensual and pre-planned sharing is fine - provided it's decided prior to ordering and dishing up.

Non-planned expectations of sharing or any assault on my dinner by invading forks will be met with extreme and bloodcurdling violence here.

I think yabu for only not wanting to share sometimes.
I never want to!!

A whole curry, with rice and naan, would be too much for us - so we agree on one to share. Either my local takeaway is particularly generous, or some people eat extraordinary portions! Similarly, ordering separate small pizzas is daft when it’s so much cheaper to order a large to share (we do a 50:50 so each get the toppings we want). But that’s understood and agreed between us. Neither of us would be upset if the other suggested they wanted something particular all to themselves, though it’s never happened.

I find sharing/tasting other people’s food in the context of a plated meal in a restaurant very weird, though occasionally I might swipe a chip!

I don't like sharing because I always end up ordering food that others prefer, instead of something super spicy. Now I just say, " I'm having x and I'm not sharing. What do you all want?"

I've lived all over the UK and i would say the portions where we are now are decidedly ungenerous. I never finished a whole main when I lived in NI for example.

And if I couldn't finish it, I'd save it and have it the next day

@CaptainThe95thRifles

Consensual and pre-planned sharing is fine - provided it's decided prior to ordering and dishing up.

Non-planned expectations of sharing or any assault on my dinner by invading forks will be met with extreme and bloodcurdling violence here.

I agree with this approach.

I think it can be a mistake to share takeaway with men - well, a lot of men. Many of them do think they are entitled to more of the total takeaway than you, and will want to take quite a big bit of your choice, giving you either nothing in return, a very small amount or an offer of something you don’t actually like. Just my personal experience.

Women tend to be able to share with one another

But if you share, you don't have to only decide on one thing! That's the beauty of it! You get ALL the things!

You should do what suits you. Why should he dictate what you do when you have a takeaway?