Is 35 too old to find ‘the one’?

[Scarlettfeather]

I’ve had a series of bad relationships, including with the father of my child.
He’s now 5 years old and I’m single.
I want to find someone who is in love with me for who I am, who wants to be with me and wants to spend their life with me, for better or worse.

Is 35 too old to believe I’ll find that person? I don’t even know where to start

No. My widowed grandpa met his widowed new wife when they were in their 70s at an art class

No. But do have a good conversation with yourself and reflect on the type of men you tend to go for. I had a prehistory of terrible choices in partners (arrogant, highly-educated commitment-phobes, who treated me poorly - think Bridget Jones' Daniel Cleaver), then had a good rethink when I found myself still single years down the line. I adjusted the things I was looking for, and purposefully stepped away from dating my usual type. I also tried to come to terms with why I kept on letting people treat me poorly, and finally understood I deserved better.

I subsequently joined Tinder with an open mind. I pretty quickly found a lovely guy, who I am now expecting a baby with after 4 years together.

[quote Frollop]@D0lphine thanks for the advice.
I'm dreading going back online but I think that outlook could change when I'm in a better place.
That rude guy you mentioned obviously had issues... people can be nasty.
I'm going to try and learn from past mistakes hopefully and not rush into anything if I do meet someone.[/quote]
Sounds amazing, good luck!

You've probably got at least 35 more years left on this earth. That is a lot of time to find a genuine connection with another human.

I know it feels daunting right now, but the cards are in your favour.

Found mine at 42
Well I found him 25 years ago, but it took us this long to get together 🤣

@4thtimethecharm... lovely ending so happy for you and others that have found the one.

It confirms that it really is important to focus on what you want and to have standards. We all deserve to be happy and be treated with respect. I need to always remember this!

Thanks to all for contributing to this thread. It is positive as mentioned above.

Not at all - a lovely friend of mine (late 60s) met a charming guy at the local rambling club ... she wasn't 'looking' for husband material ... she had been happily confident & single all her life, just enjoyed rambling, but they met and they 'clicked'.

Of course not.

Not too young at all. I met mine 37, married at 38 and baby at 39. I was starting to give up hope but it all happened very quickly.

I clearly meant you're not too old at all! 🙈

DH says he didn't meet the One until he was 54.
It was me x

35 is young!

I met my (2nd) DH when I was 38, and he was 35. Been together for 14 years soon, and still very happy.

Get out there dating!

I would say 35 is a bit old to be believing in the concept of "the one". Relationships exist in the real world and generally take work, communication and compromise, and the idea that there is a magical perso n with whom everything will slot into place isn't always helpful.

35 is definitely not too old to find a fulfilling relationship.

I'm 50 and have very recently found 'the one' who is perfect for now and both of us believe this is for keeps. I hope we're both right

I hope not! In the same boat op.

NOPE. Met mine when I was 43, been together 7 years and counting.