to not want her going out alone

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My dd 15 in year 10 wants to go on a date after school with this boy, however this boy does not go to her school, he goes to one near by apparently. She says that they'd go to a restaurant in the same town as her school, they'd walk there and leave by about 6-7, and then she'd get the bus home. AIBU to be worried about this? I'm prepared for you to all say i'm being way to over protective, but the fact that i've never met this boy and he doesn't even go to the same school as her really worries me. What are your opinions on this?

@popcornriver I think it's probably a lot more people than just the OP are struggling with. I feel so bad for anyone who has been trying to parent though it. :(

Popcornriver
I'm usually way ott over protective. I'd get a lot of eye rolls from much of mumsnet I'm sure, but I disagree with the poster that said 7pm is too late to return home alone at 15. My secondary aged child has done this from 12, it's needed sometimes for after school clubs.

We live in the Country and my 14 year old daughter gets dropped off at the end of the road by the school bus. One day my husband was running slightly late to pick her up. She got off the bus and noticed a van slowing down on the main road. It turned up the road where she was and stopped in front of her. The man got out and asked if she'd like to get in and he would give her a lift home. She reversed away from him as much as she could to keep her distance and told him her Dad was on his way. He got in and drove off. She never saw him before and he was not a neighbour. She was pretty shaken up when her Dad picked her up. I rang the Police but they said that he didn't commit an offence. In all fairness he didn't commit an offence but a man in his mid 40's asking a 14 year old if she wanted to get into his van was not good. She looks 14 as well and had her uniform on. I have often let her walk up home from where the school bus drops her off but I'm terrified since that happened. The Policeman told me to make sure we are there to pick her up from now on. My worst nightmare could have come true.

It's a good sign that she's told you. If she was up to no good she would probably try hide it or tell you it is a female friend from school.

It might be a good time to have the chat about safety etc.

Ask her if she's never met him, how does she know it's him?
Has she checked social media to make sure he is who he says he is? Do they have friends in common on social media?
Does he play support? Can you google his name and see if picture matches anything online.
Discuss what she does if it doesn't go well or she wants to leave. Let her know she can call you etc. Ask her what would she do of he is not as nice in person or she finds him creepy etc.
All of these things are probably excessive but no harm and her reaction during the conversation will tell you a lot.

I would collect her but tell her you will park around the corner so as not to embarrass her.
Tell her she can him, that her mum would be happier if she could meet him and that maybe he could walk her to the car just to say hello but don't insist on it.

I don't think it's a question of her being up to no good at all - the issue is that she's too trusting if anything because she's going alone to meet someone she doesn't know at all. He could easily not be who he says he is - the obvious concern being that an adult turns up claiming to be his dad/ older brother and that he's waiting for her elsewhere or similar...

Yes I'd be worried but she told you and asked. At the age I wouldn't have. I would have lied and said I'm going to friends house but then I was out clubbing just before turning 16 🤷‍♀️