Dad threatening to cut me off for standing up to him

[NCjan2022]

My dad has always been an abusive arsehole to my mother and also to the rest of us really.

Whenever you disagree with him on something, he threatens no contact. So when younger, I would often just keep quiet and not voice my opinions and not call him out on stuff. Because I was afraid he would not be there for me anymore if I went against him.

Well, I just can't hold my tongue anymore and have called him out on a few things that are not OK. He's again threatening to not come to visit anymore.

What's that about ? Just because someone doesn't agree with you and is starting to hold you accountable, you won't see them anymore ?

Good dads do not slap their children’s mother, or threaten to kill her. Ergo he is not a good dad. In fact he is a shit dad. Get rid.

My DF used ot do that. Not threaten, just sulk for about three months if you disagreed with him on anything - even something really trivial like whether coffee was nicer than tea. I just woke up one day and thought 'enough' and didn't come crawling back apologising for daring to have an opinion of my own. After that i kept to firm boundaries. he didn't like it and unlike lots of parents he didn't try a charm offensive on me, we just had a cooler, more distant relationship from then on. Which worked very well indeed from my perspective.

As to cutting people off financially - don'e let wealthy parents bully you through adulthood, Make your own money so you don't ever have to rely on theirs.

@NCjan2022
How are things now ?