AIBU to tell my husband that he can sort some things out for himself??
For the last six months he's been complaining every time that I ask him/remind him of something he needs to do (or that we need to do together) that he doesn't have a list and can't organise all these things. I set up chores on Alexa. Apparently that's not helpful. I downloaded an app that sends alerts and lets people know when tasks have been completed. That also was not helpful because it wasn't something he was interested in interacting with. I put whiteboards on the fridge and freezer and wrote things that needed doing on them. Not helpful. He wanted his own whiteboard with his own way of organising stuff. He wanted to put it on our bedroom door. I said OK. He ordered the whiteboard. And then it sat in its packaging for months. Today I reminded him again that a shelf needed to go up in the kitchen. Once again he bemoaned the lack of list for himself and I pointed out that he had the whiteboard but had failed to put it up and use it. He immediately blamed me, saying I had not explicitly told him to hang it on our door!
I told him that's unfair and he can't expect me to manage his whole life and his every move, nor can he expect me to know how he is feeling or what he is thinking. I said that all the other ways I'd tried to help manage this were perfectly adequate, he just didn't want to do it. He told me I'm being unsupportive.
AIBU? He's my husband, not a project, and I am not a project manager! He has so many tools to help support himself outside of all the support I actually do give. I think he's being a lazy arse and wants me to handle everything!