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To ask if you can think of an excuse which will get 11yo off PE for the rest of term?

760 replies

HelloKittyGirl · 28/01/2022 19:55

Just that, basically. What would get her off games for a few weeks?

OP posts:
TheVolturi · 28/01/2022 21:12

Very long heavy painful period starting that day.

Croissantly · 28/01/2022 21:12

Sounds like you're setting a great example to your daughter. Bravo.

chaosrabbitland · 28/01/2022 21:12

@ElEmEnOhPee

Be a fucking parent you poor excuse for a mother.

Are you always this dramatic? You sound just like the nasty kids in my PE class that would ridicule the non sporty ones Hmm

she probably is one of those ones lol. i must be on a different level as id have thought it would take more than wanting to write a note to excuse your kid from pe to be a poor excuse for a mother
DysmalRadius · 28/01/2022 21:13

I'd be interested to know how many of those that are berating the OP participate in a team sport as an adult?

GirlOnPfizer · 28/01/2022 21:13

I had endless mysterious periods for PE and verrucas for swimming.

My mother was a libertarian type who knew I got enough exercise via my competitive dressage and ice-skating so didn’t worry. She figured that the health benefits of shit school PE weren't worth putting me through the prolonged torture and misery of the bullying by both teacher and classmates I was subject to. But those talking about losing out on “becoming a team player” are possibly right in my case; I didn’t really become one of those. Fortunately, I work in a field that favours autonomy and individualism.

JaneJeffer · 28/01/2022 21:13

@MsWalterMitty

No wonder kids are fat these days
Confused
fuckyourpronouns · 28/01/2022 21:14

@Hercisback

It's not about whether you have a problem with it, or if she'd rather be in the library. You're reinforcing the message that if she doesn't like a subject she doesn't have to do it. You wouldn't write a note to get her out of maths lessons. PE is exactly the same.

In our school you don't get to sit in the library if you aren't participating. You are a ref, or score keeper, or line judge. Funnily enough not many kids don't do it, because they know they'll be doing part of the lesson anyway.

This ^
LaBelleSausage · 28/01/2022 21:16

labyrinthitis, vestibular neuritis or vertigo

HelloKittyGirl · 28/01/2022 21:17

@Hercisback

A few unnecessary minutes. There is additional supervision if you're expecting her in the library. There is additional supervision if she's sat elsewhere from the rest of the PE class. If she is outside with them, then she's outside anyway and may as well be doing PE.
No there genuinely isn’t. It’s a very academic and selective girls school and they are left alone to get on with their work. I totally trust that DD would do this and would then have less work to do when she got home for a bit (‘cos frankly there can mountains). If I thought there was any possibility she’d just muck about and/or cause anyone trouble, I wouldn’t be considering it. The pressure can be high and she is very motivated.
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Hercisback · 28/01/2022 21:19

Left alone where? Because that has issues written all over it.

She should be doing PE.

chaosrabbitland · 28/01/2022 21:19

@MsWalterMitty

No wonder kids are fat these days
yes its because the ones that are tend to have overweight parents from what iv seen who feed them the same shit for dinners and lunches that they eat and see nothing wrong with buying them plenty of shit like sweets .crisps and chocolate to stuff on inbetween , but no of course its all because the fat ones are allowed to skip their once a week pe lesson thats doing it who would have thought it eh ?

i must admit mumsnet can be good for a laugh when i read comments like this

LakieLady · 28/01/2022 21:20

I'm another one who was put off exercise by compulsory PE and sport at school. I'm woefully clumsy and have appalling hand/eye co-ordination, and found the whole business embarrassing and humiliating.

Terrible hay fever from the age of 8 meant I got off doing out of doors stuff in the summer months (I was allowed to stay in and read - bliss!) but I'm afraid that won't wash at this time of year, OP.

PinkEll · 28/01/2022 21:21

I would've loved it if my mum did this for me!

downbythewoods · 28/01/2022 21:22

I really don't understand the logic of some people saying she can't just opt out for no good reason. She does have a good reason. She hates it. That's good enough when it comes to team sports. Adults don't get forced to run around on the football field if they prefer yoga do they? And if they were we'd be outraged.
Ok the lying isn't ideal but the principle of making her do something she hates seems like a slippery slope to me. It's certainly unlikely to 'convert' her.
As for the 'what will she do when she has to do something she doesn't like in a job' argument, childhood isn't a rehearsal for work, where we prepare our kids to be good little workers is it? It's about discovering who we are. And the world of work is far more flexible now. I don't do things I hate for money, no one should.

Eightiesfan · 28/01/2022 21:22

Wow astounding case of entitlement. Anyway Regardless of her reasons you are teaching your daughter that it is okay to lie in order to get her own way. Nice parenting

NiceTwin · 28/01/2022 21:22

Suspected in growing toe nail? That improves when it's Spring Grin

I worked in an all boys school. We had one boy who went to sick bay with a headache during winter PE, he hated rugby. Come cricket season we wouldn't see him.
He managed to get away with it for the whole of his school life, apart from a blip in yr9 when he was rumbled by a teacher who had PPA and saw him sat there every week at the same time!

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 28/01/2022 21:23

@MsWalterMitty

No wonder kids are fat these days
Came on to say this. And the fact that a parent is showing it's OK to lie
ivykaty44 · 28/01/2022 21:23

There are reasons that PE is really important

better academic performance
increased student physical health
It teaches children key life skills
It offers the chance for them to relax, release pent up emotions and to spend time having fun with their friends
Students who play sports are better able to concentrate and maintain focus
Students who exercise regularly have a better quality of sleep
Physical exercise helps children relieve stress and anxiety
improve their teamwork and leadership skills.

hulahooper2 · 28/01/2022 21:24

Yabvu !!!!

NotsoNeurotypical · 28/01/2022 21:24

@DysmalRadius

I'd be interested to know how many of those that are berating the OP participate in a team sport as an adult?
Probably not many, but we don't get to opt out of other kinds of team building or team work at work do we? Of course some people are individualistic the whole way through life, prefer to work and work out alone forever and are fine living like that. But I wouldn't do it, and I wouldn't want my DC to either. It's not all team sports anyway, they do all kinds dance, gymnastics, racquet sports, trampolining, athletics. There is something for everyone.
WhatToThink1 · 28/01/2022 21:24

Please don’t fake an injury or illness. Don’t use the period excuse either (makes a mockery of girls and women with conditions like endometriosis). Why doesn’t your Dd want to do PE? You need to sort out the actual issue instead of masking it. Other girls may tell the teachers that your Dd is lying, which will make her time at school trickier.

Lucked · 28/01/2022 21:25

Can you not just buy her base layers if she doesn’t like the cold? Requirements may decrease in later years but they will still be there. Are you planning on pulling this every year? It has hardly been the coldest January this year. .

Boggles my kind that you are considering facilitating this and lying to teachers in a conspiracy with your daughter.

Fridayfriyay · 28/01/2022 21:25

Something to do with mental health or gender confusion. They school won't wanna touch it with a barge pole.

BlissfullyIgnorant · 28/01/2022 21:25

I used to walk 2.3 miles each way so I could save my bus money, but had a pocket of cigs so, no, the walk didn't do me good. I did have shoes and a warm coat, though. I'm not that old.

Just make her do the damn PE. Don't teach her she can dodge things she doesn't like because life is rammed with shit people don't like and she won't learn coping skills. Think about Uni snowflakes who are the same kids who, on school sports days, were taught "We're all winners." We are not all fucking winners and whining that it isn't fair when you come second in the race for a good job is a reflection on that lesson from years gone by.

Marcipex · 28/01/2022 21:25

We all hated pe because of a pervy teacher, and I was envied for my dodgy knee.
I recommend something with less bandaging though.
Vertigo is a good idea. It can follow an ear infection.