Come and tell me this is a really BAD idea and I should really NOT do it.

[DitheringDebbie]

So my mother has refused to speak to me for nearly 10 years. Changed her number, moved house, ignored emails.

I now have her mobile number.

I really want to contact her and see if she will talk to me. Over the last few years I have worried that she was dead and the thought of her dying before we make peace terrifies me.

She was very abusive, neglectful, a horrible mother, and caused me great harm but she’s my mum and I can’t turn off my feelings for her which are a mixture of love/ hate/sadness etc. I have not found being NC helpful and it certainly hasn’t taken the pain away.

I know full well she doesn’t care about me at all but I need to make peace for my own peace IUKWIM.

AIBU?

I agree with this totally.

It will only cause you more pain if you contact.

You deserve better. Don't compromise your happiness.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

💐

My mother died this year after 7 years NC. She was apparently narcissistic, bitter and spiteful to the end. Don’t do it.

The OP last posted 10 months ago.............

Will you just knob off