To think you don't do this?!

[Getyourjinglebellsinarow]

Maybe I just don't understand petrol station etiquette but I'm really quite annoyed.
Went to get a fire guard for DS who is determined to get everything he can't have, so I'm pretty exhausted and run ragged. No fuel in car, DS fell asleep within 5 minutes so I go the pay at pump one so I don't have to disturb him, but I have to be fast with white noise playing etc whatever all fine.

Get there and there's a car in the front one so I go in the one behind. Sort my card out, by the time I start pumping he's leaving. So now there's a space in from of me but it's it's far end lane so it's only one car width, I've authorised my card so I can't move pumps.

So a woman drives in the other lane, past 2 empty pumps with the big "WE HAVE LONG PUMPS USE BOTH SIDES" signs. To the exit, then reverses into the space in front of me. I'm finished before she's even finished with her card and just bloody stuck behind her! There's a car in the other lane so I can't get out and just have to sit and wait for her to pump her fuel and fuck about in her car before I can leave.

AIBU to think you don't block someone in who got there before you?!

I know it's small and I was only waiting a few minutes. But she saved herself seconds. I'm so sick of my life being full of people who are happy to inconvenience me to save themselves a fraction of that inconvenience. I genuinely don't even know how I'm still running, my body is killing me, my C section is painful the entire time I'm in the car and I just wanted to quickly grab some fuel.

YANBU rude, she should have just waited or used a free pump.

YABU use what pump you want even if you block someone else in.

You need to go to the doctor.

You were being unreasonable re the petrol pump though.

Go to the doctor (saying it again!)

Please ring your G.P.

Do you know what’s worse? Someone slipping in front and then going inside to do a shop lol

GO TO THE DOCTOR! You will have a whole lot more complicated and potentially awful life if that wound reopens or continues to be infected.

There isn't anything more important than your health right now.

Fireguards, petrol, cars, all irrelevant if you are sick and can't function or become disabled as a result (or even worse, hate to say it).

Please OP, ring the doctor and ask for an emergency appointment.

Couldn't you have reversed back and then gone down the middle of the next row of pumps (presuming that's what she did)
This. Go the same way she went.

Oh come on OP, you're being a martyr, suffering unnecessarily, you could've made an appointment with your GP, sent an online enquiry email to them/rang up in the time you've spent wasted on MN writing about a non event at the garage. If you're in pain but not seeking treatment you're not looking after ourself, or your child. He needs you, sort yourself out. You aren't too busy, it isn't too much of a faff.

@BusterGonad

I thought most Garages have enough room in between pumps when in use, for cars to go when they're done?

Well, duh, clearly the OP was at one that doesn't.

OP I feel for you I remember the rage when that tired .

Sorry you’re so knackered. Are you a single parent? By 8 months you should be able to have support to rest, not be dashing from place to place. Why is life so busy, are you back in work? Schedule some time at home so you can just potter and DS can play with toys or set up some messy play or some bring so you can have a minute.

Make an appointment to see your GP the scar does not sound right after 8 months and you need it looking at. Is your partner supportive allowing you to rest? Dashing around madly for 8 months solid after major surgery is not acceptable and family etc should have stepped up and allowed you to recover if possible.

So you were happy for her to have to wait for you, but put out that you had to wait for her?

You should get a spare can of petrol, so you can fill up a bit at home, and not have to go to the fillng station at a busy time. I have witnessed annoying and odd behaviour at garages quite a lot, but it's part and parcel of going anywhere these days,

@Getyourjinglebellsinarow

Are you an unpaid carer?

Yabu. Both about the pump and the doctors. You could end up with sepsis. This is not normal at all and you need to be seen.

You sound hard work Op! Stop being a martyr!

She could just as easily say you should have waited for the person in front to finish so you could move forward and leave the one behind clear.

She could just as easily say you should have waited for the person in front to finish so you could move forward and leave the one behind clear.

I though that this is what the thread was going to be about - that she had a go at you for not waiting to go to the first one.

If you knew that there wasn’t any room to get past you could have waited a few more seconds and pulled up to the one in front of you - you say yourself you hadn’t even started filling up yet.

I've accepted I'm bu. I'm not being a martyr I'm just trying to keep on top of everything. Honestly I just feel like I wish everyone in the world would just fuck off and leave me and DS alone, I'm so annoyed by everyone but DS all the time. I'm not struggling with him at all. I love being a mum. It's all the people I'm surrounded by with the chorus of "will you do this, it's easier for you." Then I'm the bitch for refusing. I'll go to the docs about the c section (and the lump under my armpit I've been ignoring 😳)

Please do go and see the doctor.

Don't sweat the small stuff.

@Getyourjinglebellsinarow

I've accepted I'm bu. I'm not being a martyr I'm just trying to keep on top of everything. Honestly I just feel like I wish everyone in the world would just fuck off and leave me and DS alone, I'm so annoyed by everyone but DS all the time. I'm not struggling with him at all. I love being a mum. It's all the people I'm surrounded by with the chorus of "will you do this, it's easier for you." Then I'm the bitch for refusing. I'll go to the docs about the c section (and the lump under my armpit I've been ignoring 😳)

"It's easier for you if I do this. It's not easier for me."

Or even, "I've already got one baby to look after and that's enough at the moment."

@Babdoc

OP, your wound sounds infected. You are at risk of 1) potentially life threatening sepsis, and 2) wound dehiscence - where the whole thing gives way and you will be sitting with your intestines in your lap, requiring surgical resuturing as an emergency. Get yourself to the doctor asap. You need examined.

THis. The petrol pump nonsense is irrelevant compared to your health. YABU if you don't immediately call the doctor.

I need a diagram.

The pump situation was fine but please go to the doctor and stop being a martyr - your c section scar is the problem and that is probably what's making you feel grumpy about other stuff.

This. As the saying goes, if you don't make the time to be well, you'll be forced to make the time to be ill.

It sounds like a badly-designed petrol station. I've never been blocked in by anyone. I have been yelled at when heavily pregnant for not pulling forward to the front pump. A front pump that only existed in the other person's imagination.

Not what the thread is about but you really need to get your scar looked at. You are not supposed to drive after a section, or any abdominal operation, until you can safely perform a emergency stop. You may be invalidating your insurance

Echoing everyone else, op; get yourself to the doctor's ASAP.