DH selfishly waking me

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By blowing his nose thunderously, right next to my sleeping self??

It was a horrible way to be woken up, quite scary actually as it's sudden loud noise when you're fast asleep. He's one of those people that blows his nose incredibly hard. I was and am quite pissed off by it. AIBU?? He said that he had to blow his nose and what did I expect him to do?

I expect you to get up and go to a bathroom! Not scare the shit out of a sleeping person because you're too warm and cosy to be polite. He also knows that once I'm awake it takes hours for me to fall back asleep, so he's merrily dreaming away now and I've been awake for two hours. Am contemplating finding a video of someone blowing their nose loudly and just playing it next to his head. See if he thinks it's just "normal household noise" right next to his ear when he's asleep. 😡😡

Klaxon to his ear while he’s asleep? Too much?

Well no, at that point playing a video in someone's ear is not a normal household noise, it's someone being incredibly childish and petty!

@DropYourSword

Well no, at that point playing a video in someone's ear is not a normal household noise, it's someone being incredibly childish and petty!

DH? Is that you?

Haha made me laugh!! 😂😂😂

Feel your pain. Dh snores like a foghorn and often acts out his dreams as he did at 1am....im still awake as a result and he's happily sleeping. That's incredibly selfish of your dh. If he needs to blow his nose, he needs to bugger off to the loo to do it!

I’m at your DH that he had the luxury of just sitting in bed to foghorn is nose, and didn’t also have to get up to wee, sort out his period, think oh well I’m up so may as well do a covid test seeing as I feel like crap, and then just when you’re thinking of getting back into bed the dogs decide they want to go out for a wee as well so you have to troop downstairs and out to the garden, then the dogs race you back upstairs as you have a coughing fit due to the cold air and come up to find dogs starfishing on your side of the bed, DP and the fecking cat both snoring away, and think what is the bloody point. May as well just stay up now.

I’ll come round and foghorn my nose at him OP

YABU, better a good blow than continuous sniffing.

I had this all night with DH coughing I know your pain.

I should have more sympathy but then it's the all day moaning that accompanies it and I'm tired, been months now (long COVID). I'm a terrible wife.

I would be annoyed by that too!

How rude. Has he been doing this your entire marriage?

He sounds pretty thoughtless
Is he usually like that?

Mine sneezes in his sleep. Never felt fright like it. Honestly think my soul leaves my body each time he screams his sneeze into the night.

One of the reasons my EX is my EX is because he constantly woke me up. I actually think it's a form of abuse. I was a walking zombie I was getting so little sleep. I love the peace and quiet now he's gone.

If I ever could logistically wise, I would always always choose to sleep alone. It's so so much nicer. Sleeping in the same double bed every night is a funny old thing, the done thing, but no one likes it! Perfect world - have your affection, then sleep alone.

I would be furious, it's so selfish of him. If it was happening regularly I would insist he slept in a different room to me. If you were able to fall straight back to sleep, that would be different. But if he is knowingly robbing you of hours of sleep, that's horrible behaviour. Sleep is sacred in our house!

@Wifflywafflywoo

Mine sneezes in his sleep. Never felt fright like it. Honestly think my soul leaves my body each time he screams his sneeze into the night.

I shouldn’t laugh but your description of said event is brilliant

YANBU. He is being selfish.

Mine likes to go for a wee in the night, and blow his nose in the bathroom. This sounds ok but for some reason he’s in there for 20 mins, so just as I’m falling asleep after being woken by him thundering across the room to the bathroom, I am woken again by massive echoey nose trumpeting from the bathroom.

If the nose blowing is loud your bathroom had better be across the other side of the house.

I'd be pretty pissed off too, as I'm another that can't easily go back to sleep once I've been woken up (had enough wake ups to last a lifetime, with young babies, waiting for teenagers to come home, noisy neighbours etc)

I've trained him to wash his hands after blowing his nose; perhaps that's something you can get your DH to do, as it stops him spreading germs onto anything he touches afterwards!

You'd never survive the summer with my OH then. Months on end of horrendous hayfever sneezing and snoring.

He does however sit down if he needs a wee in the night and doesn't flush so as not to disturb my already terrible sleep bless him

Some of you should live alone, you sound like you really dislike your other halves. Women get up to go the loo and blow their noses too.

All these people who apparently get out of bed to blow their nose?

Rubbish.

My Dad blows his nose like a foghorn, but what's his option? If he needs to blow his nose, he needs to blow it. Not everyone is a dainty, delicate nose blower.

Would you prefer him to sniff?

@SilverHairedCat

All these people who apparently get out of bed to blow their nose?

Rubbish.

My Dad blows his nose like a foghorn, but what's his option? If he needs to blow his nose, he needs to blow it. Not everyone is a dainty, delicate nose blower.

Would you prefer him to sniff?

But surely if you are going to do something that will wake a sleeping partner, you quietly remove yourself so you don't wake them? It is just common

*common courtesy!