Not to change the sheets??

[Mooghulempress]

Next week my parents are coming to stay for a night, so I’ve just cleaned the guest room sheets and made the bed fresh for them. Two days later, we are having a dinner party and a friend has just asked if she and her partner can stay over. AIBU to think that it’s OK not to change the sheets?? It just seems insane to change the sheets after one use, and both my parents shower before bed. But part of me also thinks this isn’t OK. Advice please!

No way! YABU

Gross! Imagine if hotels had the same thinking as you.

You shouldn't even have to ask such a question. It's disgusting

I caught scabies from a bed that (Now thankfully ex) in-law didn't change the sheets on before we stayed. And we only stayed with them in the first place because they insisted

lol op
imagine if you would want this

I know this will be controversial, but I occasionally don’t change them between people who are really close to each other if only slept once/twice the first time, and the second sleeper is ok with it. Eg my parents and my sister, or my parents and me, or me and my best friend. So, say my parents are visiting and I haven’t changed the spare room since my sister slept in the bed for one night, then my mum, dad and I might agree that changing the sheets for them to sleep in is a waste of effort. For people who don’t know each other/aren’t close and if the sheets have been slept in more than once/twice I would always change them.

As you friend has invited herself & her partner to stay (rather than you specifically inviting them) what don't you ask if she would mind bringing her own sheets? I often invite myself to my brother's house (he lives in a holiday destination - it makes a very nice cheap break for me) but I genuinely don't mind taking my own sheets and making the bed up when I get there.

And I agree with Everything, I don't always change the sheets between family visitors ... my DM stayed a couple of night before my DS came home from Uni ... I didn't change the sheets.

I’m a slattern and wouldn’t dream of not changing the sheets.

That’s really disgusting! Change the sheets!

Change the sheets, yer mucky pup!

No I wouldn't do that to anyone. I might choose to sleep in the same sheets myself, but not expect an unsuspecting guest to. Assuming you have a washing machine, how difficult is it to wash them? And even without a tumble drier, they would dry indoors easily in a couple of days.

Well … I don’t think it’s that gross! But cover your tracks. Once I didn’t bother. I had a tiny baby, a toddler and had been very poorly. People were staying in the guest room to help out. I took a chance … later realised that my mother in law left her nightdress under the pillow by mistake and when my brother and his wife slept on the bed without me changing the sheets! no bad things happened. No one got scabies or died. I ‘might’ have done the same thing since (but covered my tracks more carefully!)

I hate sleeping in a guest bed without the added worry that the sheets haven't been changed.

I also hate sleeping on pillows that others have breathed into, and I can't walk in my bare feet on a carpet that isn't my own, I may have a problem!

My DH and I stayed s couple of times with his sibling and both times we were in their teen DD's double bed with no changed sheets... It just went against everything I was brought up with. He felt it fine but I was grossed out that someone else had sweated and lost dead skin all over the sheets for I don't know how long!

But then, he doesn't understand when I put on fresh sheets and lay out a clean towel for guests.

Imagine if hotels thought the same way...

Apparently they do...all the big chains...

😂 oh OP surely you could have predicted all the “vile”, “grim”, “minging” responses you’d get from MN!

Personally I would probably check if the sheets looked/smelled clean and then just change the pillow case. BUT I am exceptionally vile grim minging relaxed about hygiene compared to most of MN.

I can always smell it when someone hasn't changed the sheets. YABVVU.

@toastofthetown

Go for it OP! I know I just love snuggling down into a pillow that a stranger has dribbled on. If their sweaty bed sheets are still there all the better.

😂

Imagine if your parents have sex in there!

Disgusting.

Of course they need to be changed.