Page 2 | Going to bed sad. Is there something in the air?

Cryingintomypillow · 2022-01-24T23:14:41+00:00

The past two nights the evening has hit and I’ve just wanted to cry and eat my feelings. Feeling really sad and just meh. Anyone else? Something in the air?

Phrenologistsfinger · 25/01/2022 00:39

YANBU. But this lovely video was just a little ray of warmth for me - Simon Pegg &Henry Cavill -

liliainterfrutices · 25/01/2022 00:42

@KurtWilde

Someone I've known for a very long time and thought was one of the very few people I could actually call friend, told me - after what I thought was a a fab evening of catch up of laughter and conversation - that they find me hard to be around. I laughed it off initially and said you mean occasionally? No, 99% of the time, including tonight. I excused myself and went home. It really, really upset me. I'm a warts and all kind of person, but I always try to give people the best version of myself. I had no idea they felt like this. Now I'm thinking everyone I know probably feels like this too. It's knocked me for six.

I'm just really sad that all this time they haven't even enjoyed my company. I made a real effort this evening to organise childcare and a meal out. And for what?

I've had a good cry. Feel better for that.

If I'm so difficult to be around they don't need to bother being around me again.

Your friend doesn’t sound very nice. That’s horrible. Sounds like their nastiness rather than anything wrong with you. xx

RiverSkater · 25/01/2022 00:51

Sorry for everybody feeling sad. When I feel like that I try and have a pocket of happiness, nice food, hot chocolate, reading my book, something to try and lift the spirits but these grey days make it so hard.

@KurtWilde that would really knock the wind from any body's sails. How harsh and unkind.
Was it just the two of you? How did you leave the evening?

AtrociousCircumstance · 25/01/2022 00:51

@KurtWilde That’s awful but it’s a damning indictment of their character, not of yours. What they said was horribly cruel - there’s no excuse for speaking to you like that.

KurtWilde · 25/01/2022 14:13

Thanks for the kind words.

It was just the pair of us having food and a catch up. We'd been talking about maybe taking the kids to a museum over half term as they all get on well and we've done it before, then they said well maybe not because... It all got a bit awkward then as I was obviously upset so I made my excuses and left.

I was wracking my brain all night to see how I could have got it so wrong, thinking about if I've been difficult when we've been places together before etc and I'm coming up blank. I'm far from perfect, but I do try my best to be on my A game when I'm out with people I care about.

I hope everyone is feeling a bit more positive today

neverbeenskiing · 25/01/2022 14:53

for you all.

I also feel really sad today and just can't seem to shake it. I usually love my job but it's so stressful right now as so many staff are off with Covid. DS's nursery have had to close twice in the last fortnight due to staff absence (on both occasions we've been given less than an hour's notice) and DD's primary school are sending kids home for so much as a sniffle. Normally my DM would be our 'back up' but she's not well so on top of being worried sick about her, I also feel like I'm spinning plates and they're all about to come crashing down at any moment. I'm just so tired and everything feels like such a slog, but then I feel guilty for moping because many people have it much worse.

AlDanvers · 25/01/2022 14:58

I feel like shit.

Mum died 7 weeks and 5 days ago. So obviously I feel shit. But the last 2 days I have got in a hole I can't get out of.

Definitely something has made it feel worse than it did last week.

DontBlameMe79 · 25/01/2022 15:06

@KurtWilde

Someone I've known for a very long time and thought was one of the very few people I could actually call friend, told me - after what I thought was a a fab evening of catch up of laughter and conversation - that they find me hard to be around. I laughed it off initially and said you mean occasionally? No, 99% of the time, including tonight. I excused myself and went home. It really, really upset me. I'm a warts and all kind of person, but I always try to give people the best version of myself. I had no idea they felt like this. Now I'm thinking everyone I know probably feels like this too. It's knocked me for six.

I'm just really sad that all this time they haven't even enjoyed my company. I made a real effort this evening to organise childcare and a meal out. And for what?

I've had a good cry. Feel better for that.

If I'm so difficult to be around they don't need to bother being around me again.

At least you know now. The cruel thing wasn’t telling you, it was not telling you for so long. A wise person told be the biggest gift you can give is honest feedback.

There’s usually a grain of truth in this sort of feedback, however hard it may be to hear initially. If you can get past the outrage and focus on using it to improve this could be a big positive.

Going into denial or flouncing off will only hurt you, no one else really.

KurtWilde · 25/01/2022 15:10

@DontBlameMe79 thanks, but honestly I've been nothing but kind to this person, I've helped them out of some very difficult situations and expected absolutely nothing in return. We were supposed to be friends. Honesty is one thing, upsetting someone with absolutely no basis for it is another.

Dubgirl1212 · 25/01/2022 15:12

I totally understand. Come 6pm I just want to climb into bed. I hope you are OK today.

IARTNS · 25/01/2022 15:13

Not just sad, but so exhausted. I'm waking up tired. Falling asleep at 9pm on the sofa.

I don't feel ill so I don't think there's something causing.

IARTNS · 25/01/2022 15:15

& to anyone that needs them

Cas112 · 25/01/2022 15:22

I think January tends to be a down month for a lot of people OP.

RantyAunty · 25/01/2022 15:40

Yes, it's been such a difficult couple of years and sometimes it gets to me.

I get to see my family the first time in more than 4 years and I'm afraid to be excited

Butteryflakycrust83 · 25/01/2022 15:40

Ah big hugs. I hate this time of year.

Gotta remember brighter days and nights are just around the corner. Do things that make you feel good.

meanderingthrough · 25/01/2022 15:51

Gotta remember brighter days and nights are just around the corner.

Fun fact: an hour more daylight than the shortest day. Just over 2 weeks and there's an hour more. Light at 5pm soon.

concernedalot · 25/01/2022 16:02

I'm pleased it's not just me. I'm struggling to even get motivated to get out of bed on my days off. I get up to do the school run then I climb back into bed until at least lunchtime. Everything seems so gloomy, grey days, cold nights, nothing to get excited about, just one day seems to merge into another, it's a miserable existence. I need to buck myself up

DontBlameMe79 · 25/01/2022 16:02

[quote KurtWilde]@DontBlameMe79 thanks, but honestly I've been nothing but kind to this person, I've helped them out of some very difficult situations and expected absolutely nothing in return. We were supposed to be friends. Honesty is one thing, upsetting someone with absolutely no basis for it is another. [/quote]
Sounds a difficult situation.

But You do say you’re a “warts and all type of person”. Without ANY idea of what you’re actually like, this expression often means something like “blunt and rude”. So that would be a little red flag. I’m visualising a professional Yorkshireman/woman type. - you know, “I speak my mind me, I tell it like it is….” (Add broad accent and a whippet).

Could it be worth trying to understand where this is coming from with her. People usually love to unload once the gates are open.

Anyway good luck. 🌷🌷

2022success · 25/01/2022 16:05

So many people I have spoken to feel not quite themselves, in a bit of a dip.

I have Covid and my brain is not working at all. It's like having non stop existential dread combined with memory loss over the most basic things/words.

Not being able to go out for a walk is definitely making my mental state so much harder to deal with. So my advice is to get out for a walk if you can. At least 30 minutes. Just wrap up and do it.

I can see some crocuses in my garden just start to poke their heads through and that made me feel a bit happier, but yeah. It all feels really shit right now.

BlueFlavour · 25/01/2022 16:14

@KurtWilde

Someone I've known for a very long time and thought was one of the very few people I could actually call friend, told me - after what I thought was a a fab evening of catch up of laughter and conversation - that they find me hard to be around. I laughed it off initially and said you mean occasionally? No, 99% of the time, including tonight. I excused myself and went home. It really, really upset me. I'm a warts and all kind of person, but I always try to give people the best version of myself. I had no idea they felt like this. Now I'm thinking everyone I know probably feels like this too. It's knocked me for six.

I'm just really sad that all this time they haven't even enjoyed my company. I made a real effort this evening to organise childcare and a meal out. And for what?

I've had a good cry. Feel better for that.

If I'm so difficult to be around they don't need to bother being around me again.

@KurtWilde Remember that what people say is mostly a reflection of them not you. Does she feel beholden to you in some way? Far far easier to give than receive. Takes a strong person to accept stuff graciously. Fwiw, and hope I don’t come across too stalkery

, but when I read through mumsnet and see I post I like or/and agree with, I look at the name of the poster, and quite often it’s you. Hope you feel better today.

TheMullerLightOwl · 25/01/2022 16:26

I feel it too - just feel like I'm wading through jelly at the moment for no particular reason. However, we are going through the house buying and selling process at the moment which has been quite stressful so maybe that's it.

NightmareSlashDelightful · 25/01/2022 16:31

Yeah I know what you mean. For me personally it's not going to bed sad, but waking up sad.

It's bloody annoying, actually -- clearly I'm having sad dreams or something, just before I wake up, but I can't remember what they are so I have no idea how to pooh-pooh them with my rational mind! I'm just left with the rubbishy feelings.

KurtWilde · 25/01/2022 16:48

@DontBlameMe79 I see what you're saying, but no I'm not blunt or rude. If anything they're more blunt. Funnily enough we're both Yorkshire born and bred, no whippets though

When I say 'warts and all' I mean we've known each other for a very long time so there's very little we don't know about each other.

I do appreciate your input, I'm trying very hard to understand where they're coming from but unfortunately it's just making me doubt all my interactions now!

@BlueFlavour we've done a lot for each other over the years. Lots of give and take on both sides. When they've had little I've shared what I have and vice versa. I guess that's why it came as so much if a shock! And thank you, I'm glad to know some of what I post on here isn't just annoying waffle

Onward. I quite enjoy January normally but this year it's felt like quite an emotional month.

for all

How are you feeling today, OP?

Snuggleworm · 25/01/2022 17:07

Me too.
I even cried in the doctors today and she upped my HRT dosage. Having a very stressful time with my daughter and school refusal at the minute so I was putting it all down to that but you are right. Something feels very off.
They lifted all restrictions in Ireland and I should feel happy but all I feel is despair and anxiety and a lot of sadness at the moment.

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Cryingintomypillow · 25/01/2022 17:54

I’ve been okay today but that’s because I’m distracted by work. Now I’m finishing up its setting in again... I have been housebound with Covid the past week so that probably has something to do with it but yes definitely something in the air. Hope things get better for everyone on here

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