To walk alone for 45mins at 8pm?

[imamumgetmeoutofhere]

Just that really.

Told my DH I would be walking home from work tonight, finish 8pm.

It takes around 40-45mins. There are no busses at this time. He feels I should get a taxi, mainly due to the attacks on women that have been published in the media recently. I've said I can't justify the expense and am more than happy walking, usually do if it's daylight. We live in a holiday resort area but it's along 3 fairly busy main roads so won't be in any isolated areas.

He usually collects me but he has covid so can't collect me and I don't drive.

AIBU to think its fine to walk home at this time of the day in the dark or should I follow his advise and get a taxi and claw the cost back elsewhere?

Walk but carry a nice big umbrella with a pointy end. If anyone else is walking keep close to them.

@Boood

If your husband can’t pick you up because he is isolating, then presumably he can’t drive anywhere else either. So why can’t you take the car to work? Why is the car sitting unused while you have to walk or spend money you can’t afford on taxis?

Because she doesn't drive

I'm a bit concerned about all these people saying taxi. Do they never walk anywhere after 5pm?

I walk home at 1.30am from the bus stop after work about a 30 minute walk. I've done this for five years now. I've never felt unsafe but everyone is different and you should do whatever your comfortable with.

I'd walk, but I tend to walk everywhere even much later at night.

@Byebyeboris

If you won’t get a taxi, he should come and get you, covid or no covid. There’s no way my husband would let me walk, nor would I want to.

I find that strange, are you not allowed out alone after dark?

It wouldn't occur to me not to walk.

@Byebyeboris

If you won’t get a taxi, he should come and get you, covid or no covid. There’s no way my husband would let me walk, nor would I want to.

Why wouldn't he let you? Why does he get to choose? Bizarre.

@Gwenhwyfar

I'm a bit concerned about all these people saying taxi. Do they never walk anywhere after 5pm?

Why are you concerned? It’s a personal choice.

I'd walk

If you're worried why can't DH just pop out and get you, unless he's really poorly?

Him leaving the house, sitting in a car and driving isn't going to put anyone else at risk, assuming he has petrol etc.

Taxi for sure.

I agree with @BigSandyBalls2015. There’s no logical reason why he can’t collect you in the car. You share a home with him, presumably neither of you wear a mask at home and you still work, so don’t see why he can’t collect you as long as he doesn’t come into contact with anyone other than you.

It's so hard to know how I would feel about it without seeing the area for myself! Whenever I get the train at night I really don't like to walk from my nearest station, but I always did from stations close to my old home. It just feels wrong from this one :-(

I'd walk without a second thought. I can hardly live my life restricted to that degree or I'd either never go anywhere or I'd be bankrupt. I have no car and live alone. So I'm always out alone after dark. And statistically, I am not sure how a taxi is safer than walking. Both have a small element of risk.

I'd walk, but I'd also not want to say what anyone else should do. If you feel ok walking, then walk.

The choice is yours op, your DH concern is lovely tho.

If it’s 3 fairly busy main roads, I would walk.

I think walking at that time of night is fine as long as it's well lit roads, and likely to be traffic/other pedestrians and you keep your wits about you, but that goes without saying

I would walk, but I am used to being out in the pitch black at all hours (dogs). I also live in a relatively safe area so that's a big factor.

Unless, there is a particular reason why you don't drive, I would respectfully suggest that you learn. It's a good life skill to have under your belt and means you don't have to rely on anyone else.

Completely depends on the area, I would in my town, and frequently do, but there are plenty places I wouldn’t

It might be ‘personal choice’ but I have every right to be concerned that so many women perceive the world to be so dangerous (whether it is or not is a whole other question).

I’m concerned that some people seem to accept that me, my daughters etc should live some kind of Victorian half-life where they only leave the house in daylight hours or are escorted everywhere by a man.

’m concerned that some people seem to accept that me, my daughters etc should live some kind of Victorian half-life where they only leave the house in daylight hours or are escorted everywhere by a man.
Same, I remember a thread a while back on here where some posters were seriously saying it was unsafe for any women to be out alone, and also one going on about how great the public transport was where they lived as they had a woman only segregated portion and others agreeing
I just can't get on board with that way of thinking, it sounds like some think women should stay inside if they don't have a man to chaperone them, or to separate women off by themselves.
Ugh, no.

I'd be taking a taxi

@HerculesMulligann

It might be ‘personal choice’ but I have every right to be concerned that so many women perceive the world to be so dangerous (whether it is or not is a whole other question).

I’m concerned that some people seem to accept that me, my daughters etc should live some kind of Victorian half-life where they only leave the house in daylight hours or are escorted everywhere by a man.

You can do whatever you like but you don’t get to dictate what other women do to feel safe.