Colleague skived to go on coach trip

[Margaret103]

A colleague told me they took day off work to go on a coach trip. Aibu to think I should tell our manager?

Did you also phone the police on your neighbour during lockdown ?

Under His eye.

How to win friensds and influence people ?.

You could say something along the lines of 'Susan is telling people she went on a coach trip when she was off on Friday. I don't know if it's true but it's causing resentment, so perhaps you could have a word with her.'

Generally someone will only admit skiving to a colleague they don't think will get them into shit for it.
That tends to be the kind of colleague who already has something on the OP.

I'm going to hazard a guess that OP and this colleague are the kind of people who regularly slag off their employer/managers etc together and are both miserable in their employment.

@Warszawa

Did you also phone the police on your neighbour during lockdown ?

Ooh it's not often someone on mumsnet admits to being sympathetic to Boris Johnson's party situation!

@Haveyoubrushedyourteethtoday

Hope you had a lovely day off Chargingbuck!

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What are you like, @Haveyoubrushedyourteethtoday?

I went to work. On a bus!

I'd probably tell management unless they were really shit. It's theft 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think most see it as a laugh bagamoyo1 it's more weighing up getting involved, causing friction at work, creating work for the manager, how this will look on them, against the impact of a one off sickie, when for all we know it was MH related and the colleague taking that day off could save more problems down the line. In my case I would at least want to see a pattern before escalating, rather than jump on one transgression. I'd be peeved at her telling me. I wouldn't let her know though so that if this did become a regular thing, I would be aware.

All these people who think it's absolutely fine to do this and in fact have done it yourselves, don't you get actual holidays to use? Compared to many countries our annual leave is very generous, so why not just use it ?

Don't report it unless you can prove it. If your manager asks her about it she'll deny it and you'll find yourself up for bullying (or at least get a reputation as a grass).

@SniffMyFeet

Laughing at all the no one likes a grass/snitch, don't dob her ins, seriously? Are you lot 6? The colleague has taken the piss and not only expects them to cover their workload but also expects them to keep quiet Unbelievable

I also tell my children not to snitch unless it's putting someone in danger. People hate kids who snitch but and adult doing it is pathetic! Like those who reported neighbours during lockdown.

Then your children will be fucked when someone takes advantage of them and they need someone to back them up
Who are you to judge who is in danger? Presumably you'd only hear about it after the event
Nothing to do with lock down so don't distract from the subject
You are an adult & use the word snitching? Again unbelievable, grow up and change what you can change
People only get away with things because of attitudes like yours

@hangrylady

@SniffMyFeet

Then your children will be fucked when someone takes advantage of them and they need someone to back them up Who are you to judge who is in danger? Presumably you'd only hear about it after the event Nothing to do with lock down so don't distract from the subject You are an adult & use the word snitching? Again unbelievable, grow up and change what you can change People only get away with things because of attitudes like yours

Don't you worry about my kids, they tell me everything and would absolutely tell if they or a friend were in trouble. I'm talking about the type that tell on other children for taking an extra sweet, or bringing a fidget toy into school, you know the type. I agree, snitch is a childish word, in the same way that snitching is a childish act and unfortunately some kids never grow out of it and turn into insufferable do-gooders. Were you one of these kids by any chance?

@hangrylady I'm actually laughing at your pathetic attempt to try and belittle my comment and goad me
Just don't expect others to put their head above the parapet if you aren't prepared to do the same
It's always the same people who expect others to speak up, yet they keep quiet under the guise of snitching,-it's called hiding behind others
If you are scared or worried that's fine but stop calling it that, it sends out the wrong message

[quote SniffMyFeet]@hangrylady I'm actually laughing at your pathetic attempt to try and belittle my comment and goad me
Just don't expect others to put their head above the parapet if you aren't prepared to do the same
It's always the same people who expect others to speak up, yet they keep quiet under the guise of snitching,-it's called hiding behind others
If you are scared or worried that's fine but stop calling it that, it sends out the wrong message[/quote]
I would 100% speak up if it was something I cared about. I'd have no problem reporting a drunk driver or somebody I suspected was abusing a child. What I wouldn't do is report a colleague for pulling a sickie! Let's agree to disagree because I don't think we're getting anywhere here. Have a good day.

Fine @hangrylady but I’m right
Just teasing
Enjoy the rest of your day

@Bagamoyo1

I might take a sicky tomorrow and go shopping. Never mind the patients who may have waited weeks and booked time off work or arranged child care in order to see me. To hell with them, I fancy a jolly. And obviously my colleagues can simply refuse to see them. I don't care! Will you all be happy for me?

Yeah, if you were feeling stressed and needed a day to go shopping/whatever relaxes you then I’d be happy for you. I imagine you’d be more efficient and in a better mood when back at work the next day.

Working in health services it’s natural to feel guilty but you’re human too.