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Colleague skived to go on coach trip

144 replies

Margaret103 · 24/01/2022 13:10

A colleague told me they took day off work to go on a coach trip. Aibu to think I should tell our manager?

OP posts:
SofiaSoFar · 24/01/2022 15:42

Laughing at all the presumably 13yo MNers coming out with their "snitch!" and "grass!" comments.

Never changes here.

😂

ItchySnoof · 24/01/2022 15:42

I couldn't be bothered with telling on a colleague for one day of extra work. It's well known, especially now, that even 28 days is shit holiday, holiday pay is shit, general pay is shit and it's shit trying to get time off to do something that actually brings you enjoyment.

It's one day. She could also very easily argue it's a mental health day anyway which basically gives you free reign to do whatever you need to feel better. I've taken time off for stress and still gone out because it helps instead of spending 3 weeks alone in a house being depressed. One colleague was on long term leave for stress and went off on a weeks+ holiday to Aus because it was better for his mental health than sitting at home not living life just in case his colleagues got pissed at him (and actually we were all very supportive because we also didn't want him imprisoned and effectively punished because he had a mental health issue).

SofiaSoFar · 24/01/2022 15:46

She could also very easily argue it's a mental health day anyway which basically gives you free reign to do whatever you need to feel better.

Public sector, I take it?

Kshhuxnxk · 24/01/2022 15:47

I absolutely would but I'd also tell them I was doing it. Bottom line for me is we get paid to work. Too many people think work is an extension of home but we're all just numbers on payroll. That means in an starting at 9am, 1 hour for lunch and switch pc off at 5pm. I'm a Manager and do work early and late but I don't expect my staff to do anything more or less than they're paid for and I'd be thoroughly annoyed at someone treating the goodwill of their employee and their colleagues in this way.

allfurcoatnoknickers · 24/01/2022 15:47

I'm a manager, and unless this was a day when we'd explicitly said no holidays (We have a couple of these a year at my office when it's all hands on deck) then I'd honestly be more annoyed with you that at your colleague.

That being said, you shouldn't have been covering all their work for a day. If this was my employee, I'd probably cover/postpone anything super urgent and just put everything else on hold for 24 hours.

GatoradeMeBitch · 24/01/2022 15:48

No, don't report her. No-one will think well of you for it.

What you do is remember it, and take a sudden mental health day of your own choosing, ideally at a time when she will then have to cover your workload.

WhereYouLeftIt · 24/01/2022 15:57

@Margaret103

It did directly impact me as her workload was then added to mine so made my day extremely stressful
No I wouldn't tell the manager. But I'd make my colleague very aware that her skiving meant her work fell on me and that she'd better not pull that stunt on me again. She probably justified it to herself that the company would manage fine without her, so I'd really stress that the company managed fine by shitting on me. Personalising it might stop her doing this to you again.
Fatherliamdeliverance · 24/01/2022 16:01

I don't think I would report someone for one day off. Could have been for stress etc and a day out has done her the world of good.

1forAll74 · 24/01/2022 16:02

No I would not say anything at all, its only going to cause some trouble.

hangrylady · 24/01/2022 16:04

Nobody likes a grass.

JackieCollinshasnoauthority · 24/01/2022 16:14

Where did they go?

Bagamoyo1 · 24/01/2022 16:15

You should tell the manager.
All those people saying "good for her", "don't snitch" - how would you feel if it directly affected you?
How about if you'd waited a year for an operation and the surgeon decided to take a sicky to have a day out, so your operation was cancelled and you went back on the waiting list?
Or if another surgeon was asked to step in but he/she was tired after working a shift already, and messed up your operation?
Or if the pilot took a sicky so your flight was cancelled and you missed your holiday?
As a hospital doctor I once worked 56 hours with no sleep because a colleague took a sicky. I worked in paediatrics.
Not so jolly now is it!

alwaysontheloo · 24/01/2022 16:30

All you 'MYOB' posters would be the first ones expecting their employers to be held to every letter of your contracts yet you advocate fucking employers over by lying about being ill so you can have a jolly day out...

SofiaSoFar · 24/01/2022 16:33

@alwaysontheloo

All you 'MYOB' posters would be the first ones expecting their employers to be held to every letter of your contracts yet you advocate fucking employers over by lying about being ill so you can have a jolly day out...
It's always the same on MN.
alwaysontheloo · 24/01/2022 16:34

@ItchySnoof the only thing shit is your attitude to your job. You sound like a horrendous employee with a chip on your shoulder.

alwaysontheloo · 24/01/2022 16:38

@SofiaSoFar isn't it? Hmm The attitude people have towards their jobs and employers on this thread is just vile.
And to use the excuse of having a 'mental health day' on the sick so you can go on a day trip is utterly disgusting.

starrynight87 · 24/01/2022 16:38

When work was assigned you should have raised it then, 'I can't do all of this, what do you want me to focus on?'

Bagamoyo1 · 24/01/2022 16:51

@starrynight87

When work was assigned you should have raised it then, 'I can't do all of this, what do you want me to focus on?'
You must have had some very lovely jobs if you think that's always an option!
Gonnagetgoing · 24/01/2022 16:53

[quote alwaysontheloo]@SofiaSoFar isn't it? Hmm The attitude people have towards their jobs and employers on this thread is just vile.
And to use the excuse of having a 'mental health day' on the sick so you can go on a day trip is utterly disgusting.[/quote]
@alwaysontheloo and @SofiaSoFar - I think the attitude here towards their jobs and employers seems quite off for supposedly professional women.

I recall years ago in my second job (was 18) I didn't know about sickies and my colleague expressed surprise I hadn't taken one and said I should do. I was a bit Hmm.

When you do actually need mental health days (I had a period when I was at work, on Prozac and having therapy and I did have to have the odd day off here and there as I just couldn't face work) people like this who do take them and lie about it make me sick.

Gonnagetgoing · 24/01/2022 16:56

@starrynight87

When work was assigned you should have raised it then, 'I can't do all of this, what do you want me to focus on?'
@starrynight87 and *@Bagamoyo1*
  • honestly I agree with *@Bagamoyo1* - there have been countless jobs where I can't/don't have the capacity to cover or it means me getting in really early and staying really late. No one really thanked you for it either.

I had one colleague who regularly took off sickies and palmed off her work on me and she ended up being made redundant and then working her notice very sulkily.

SniffMyFeet · 24/01/2022 17:14

Laughing at all the no one likes a grass/snitch, don't dob her ins, seriously? Are you lot 6?
The colleague has taken the piss and not only expects them to cover their workload but also expects them to keep quiet
Unbelievable

Haveyoubrushedyourteethtoday · 24/01/2022 17:21

Hope you had a lovely day off Chargingbuck!

EezyOozy · 24/01/2022 17:26

The op hasn't said it's habitual , or that's she's a surgeon or a pilot and that lives were threatened . Most people have pulled a sickie at some time... if it's just a one off I don't think it's a big deal.

Bagamoyo1 · 24/01/2022 17:26

I might take a sicky tomorrow and go shopping. Never mind the patients who may have waited weeks and booked time off work or arranged child care in order to see me. To hell with them, I fancy a jolly. And obviously my colleagues can simply refuse to see them. I don't care!
Will you all be happy for me?

Bagamoyo1 · 24/01/2022 17:28

@hassletassle

The op hasn't said it's habitual , or that's she's a surgeon or a pilot and that lives were threatened . Most people have pulled a sickie at some time... if it's just a one off I don't think it's a big deal.
No she hasn't said what they do, which proves my point. Yet somehow most people on here seem to think it's all jolly good fun.
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