To be irritated by this wedding invite?

[JukEki]

We have been invited to two child free weddings, both in June. We are going to attend both and are pulling in favours for childcare. However I can’t pretend that I’m not mildly irritated by the wording in one of the invites!

One invite said “Unfortunately bearing in mind we have limited guest numbers we cannot accommodate everyone’s children however this is a golden opportunity for parents to enjoy a night of relaxation and uninhibited revelry!”

The second simply said ‘ Whilst we love your children please note this is an adult only occasion’

The first annoyed me as actually it’s not going to be relaxing for me in the slightest, it’s quite inconvenient and expensive to not be able to bring the children and I’m more likely to be hand expressing in the toilets than dancing on a table.
It is absolutely the couple’s prerogative to have the wedding they want including making a decision to have no children- just own it and say so instead of dancing around it and pretending it’s a night off for me.

Happy to be told I’m unreasonable- first also contained a money poem which may be biasing me 😂

[Migrainesbythedozen]

The reasons why childfree weddings are increasingly popular can be seen by the type of 'parents' on this thread. They are the reason, paradoxically they don't see it.

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@Migrainesbythedozen Nope not something I would do - Not really into hiring a random teenager to look after my children. 😂

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@migranesbythedozen Wow after reading all your comments, it’s nice to see how Judgmental you are. I’m sure you have got migraines by the dozen when your having to listen to your own comments all the time!

[Migrainesbythedozen]

[quote skippink]@Migrainesbythedozen Nope not something I would do - Not really into hiring a random teenager to look after my children. 😂[/quote]
Well that says so much - ' 😂 '

[Migrainesbythedozen]

[quote skippink]@migranesbythedozen Wow after reading all your comments, it’s nice to see how Judgmental you are. I’m sure you have got migraines by the dozen when your having to listen to your own comments all the time![/quote]
Having values and knowing what is appropriate and what isn't, isn't 'judgmental'..... I'm sorry that you think it is.

[DaisyMum40]

There is, without doubt, always going to be parents who see their children as a vital part of weddings and that everyone should think they are wonderful, when in reality most other guests tolerate them because there's no other choice.

I've got a friend in this category, anytime she takes her kids to a wedding she posts a stream of photos of the kids, says how everyone thought they were wonderful, they were such a great part of the day, they looked perfect blah blah blah. You actually have to hunt to find any photos of the bride and groom or any of the wedding party and they get no mention in the post, not even a comment about how lovely the bride looked - nothing.

Children don't "make weddings", the couple who get married make the wedding.

[LuckySantangelo35]

@DaisyMum40

There is, without doubt, always going to be parents who see their children as a vital part of weddings and that everyone should think they are wonderful, when in reality most other guests tolerate them because there's no other choice.

I've got a friend in this category, anytime she takes her kids to a wedding she posts a stream of photos of the kids, says how everyone thought they were wonderful, they were such a great part of the day, they looked perfect blah blah blah. You actually have to hunt to find any photos of the bride and groom or any of the wedding party and they get no mention in the post, not even a comment about how lovely the bride looked - nothing.

Children don't "make weddings", the couple who get married make the wedding.

Completely agree!

[teaandtoastwithmarmite]

[quote skippink]@migranesbythedozen Wow after reading all your comments, it’s nice to see how Judgmental you are. I’m sure you have got migraines by the dozen when your having to listen to your own comments all the time![/quote]

[teaandtoastwithmarmite]

@skippink One would think neighbourhood babysitters or teenagers looking to earn money for 4 hours don't exist in 2022! They certainly existed in abundance when I was a child! Every second high schooler was looking to make money for something they were saving up for. When did all these babysitters disappear? They were raining from the sky in my day.
I don't think they do anymore.

[RampantIvy]

When DD was little I didn't know any local teenagers. All my friends' children were little as well.

[teaandtoastwithmarmite]

We have a teen living next door but I'm not sure I would leave DD with her. She seems lovely but it would be a bit random to ask her to babysit. We once asked her to feed the cat for payment and I'm not sure she did it. Think she sent her dad round
When I was young my friend would babysit for half the street but thinking about it she used to look after loads of kids and she was only a child herself. Plus weddings tend to be all day affairs so not really suitable for a local teen.

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@Migrainesbythedozen 😂

[blyn72]

This thread has found its way onto the pages of the Independent. I was browsing and came across it. I'd expect it of the tabloids but not the Indy.

They even used the diminutive word, 'Invite', rather than 'Invitation'.

It surprised me.

It's something and nothing. Child free weddings are not unusual and an inconvenient invitation can easily be turned down. The wording may not to be everyone's taste but not everyone can be pleased, no harm was meant.

[positivevibesonly22]

@truthfullylying

The thing with adult-only weddings is it gives you the perfect excuse not to go, so if it'll be a hassle then you can just decline.

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[Divebar2021]

One would think neighbourhood babysitters or teenagers looking to earn money for 4 hours don't exist in 2022!

I have a lovely 17 year old who’s babysat for me but she charges £10 an hour. The days of paying a tenner for the night with a pizza and bar of chocolate are long gone.

[LadyPropane]

I have a lovely 17 year old who’s babysat for me but she charges £10 an hour. The days of paying a tenner for the night with a pizza and bar of chocolate are long gone.

Absolutely. If DH and I go out for the night then the babysitter will be the biggest expense by far, unless we're going to a really expensive restaurant.

[mathanxiety]

Children don't "make weddings", the couple who get married make the wedding.

Oh come on - we've all been to weddings where we know the bride or the groom is a complete asshole, or where guests openly bet on how long the marriage will last.

[DaisyMum40]

@mathanxiety

Children don't "make weddings", the couple who get married make the wedding.

Oh come on - we've all been to weddings where we know the bride or the groom is a complete asshole, or where guests openly bet on how long the marriage will last.

Speak for yourself, I wouldn't go to a wedding if I thought they were an asshole. Must be the company you keep.

[caringcarer]

I love to see kids at weddings. They always love dancing. I think weddings should be family events. If anyone invites us without kids I say no. Maybe I should invent a twee little poem to decline.

[Coffeeonadrip]

We had 40 people at our wedding. 14 of those were kids!

[Grasping]

Weddings are family events.
However, if you’re a friend and not family you shouldn’t expect your children to be invited.

[Youdoyoutoday]

www.dailyrecord.co.uk/lifestyle/family-kids/mum-irritated-bride-bans-children-26055415.amp

You made the news @JukEki

[mathanxiety]

You surely know the sort of person I mean, @DaisyMum40 - snarky, takes things personally, generally not great as a colleague, but the whole office is going...

[LuckySantangelo35]

@caringcarer

I love to see kids at weddings. They always love dancing. I think weddings should be family events. If anyone invites us without kids I say no. Maybe I should invent a twee little poem to decline.

Maybe you should! I don’t get how not being able to see children there who all ‘love dancing’ means so much to you that you would decline seeing friends/family take their vows and get married etc. It’s a day that really not about ‘family’, or the guests or their children it is about the bride and groom! Are we so child-centric that we see it’s as ridiculously self-indulgent to allow two adults who are PAYING for an event to be the centre of attention, their needs/wants prioritised over others etc

[anonsattic]

Oops! @JukEki I hope your "friends" don't read the Daily record, otherwise it's likely both your invitations will be revoked.