I am so pissed off right now

[Besswess88]

Neighbours child has been wailing (think singing wailing more than crying) since 5:30am.

Every fucking day this week., it’s Sunday ffs I want to sleep but now fully awake and very very pissed off.

ARGH 😠

Fuck me that's obnoxious. If mine are loud they are told (not begged ) to keep it down. Otherwise they are threatened with going next door to apologise. It's utterly anti social. YANBU OP

What do you suppose they do if the child doesn't be quiet?

My youngest is a screamer. Not as in a crying scream, but a high pitched, ear splitting scream. Usually it's when she wakes after a nightmare. You try and comfort her or bribe her yo be quiet, and she repeatedly shouts no, no, no, no as if were trying to so something awful to her. What are we supposed to do? A lot of people blaming the parents, but what if nothing you do works? What do you do then?

You’re not the person whose reported their neighbour to SS on another thread are you?

Unfortunately kids cry. I don’t know what you expect them to do. I’m sure they don’t want them to scream and cry at 5:30 either.
I feel your pain but it’s part of being a neighbour.

@WonderfulYou

You’re not the person whose reported their neighbour to SS on another thread are you?

Unfortunately kids cry. I don’t know what you expect them to do. I’m sure they don’t want them to scream and cry at 5:30 either.
I feel your pain but it’s part of being a neighbour.

I had the exact same thought 😂

@WonderfulYou

You’re not the person whose reported their neighbour to SS on another thread are you?

Unfortunately kids cry. I don’t know what you expect them to do. I’m sure they don’t want them to scream and cry at 5:30 either.
I feel your pain but it’s part of being a neighbour.

Absolutely not.

Part of my role is taking duty calls. I would never do things unless I had genuine concerns, which I don’t as I know what an absolute ball ache it is for the team that have to deal with it.

@username1293948

You think the person who is just trying to get a full nights sleep is entitled, rather than the person with a child waking up every day and making loads of noise, seemingly without making any effort to manage this and not giving a shit about the impact of that on the people around them?

Of course it can be hard to keep babies quiet at times but it sounds like this is a regular issue and part of a wider picture of lack of consideration. Why in the world would being pissed off about that make someone entitled?

@Xmassprout

It’s pretty rare for a kid to scream for an hour straight every single day, so I’m guessing the parents are ignoring the kids screams

I underhand how frustrating it must be. But reading your other posts, and seeing that there was a noise issue with previous tennants show that's it's a house issue, not a neighbour issue.

People make noise. Children especially. It pointless raging about every neighbour you get. You may as well take control, and change your set up to ensure you hear less.

Move your room to the loft. Rent out your old bedroom instead. Most sensible option to me.

@SallyGoLucky

I underhand how frustrating it must be. But reading your other posts, and seeing that there was a noise issue with previous tennants show that's it's a house issue, not a neighbour issue.

People make noise. Children especially. It pointless raging about every neighbour you get. You may as well take control, and change your set up to ensure you hear less.

Move your room to the loft. Rent out your old bedroom instead. Most sensible option to me.

In the 16 years I have lived here I have had 6 sets of neighbours in that house.

Only the last two I have had an issue with.

The ones before these had two boys who raced and jumped around the house like lunatics (wooden floors/stairs too) and now this lot who seem to have two very small kids in the adjoining master bedroom, in a 3 bed house where the other bedrooms are not on the adjoining wall.

I think they also have a teenager.

I have spent a lot of money on my bedroom having fitted wardrobes and a bespoke bed for my back (had major surgery to remove a tumour which caused a lot of damage). I cannot go and sleep in the loft, and quite frankly why should I have to.

Take the child downstairs, away from me and the rest of their own family.

Also - it’s normally considered bad form to go trawling through a posters previous threads.

@Besswess88

Also - it’s normally considered bad form to go trawling through a posters previous threads.

I meant on this thread. You never mentioned the previous neighbours in your first post, you mentioned it in your second or third. Can't say I'm that invested that I'd go searching for any other thread to be honest.

Does sound annoying. I just don't see the justification of them changing their set up, for you. Babies cry. My neighbours baby's cot is right on the opposite side of the wall to my home office. Annoying at times, but I just put headphones in.

Unless it's a Social Care issue, then I doubt the parents are enjoying the crying either and are doing what they can to minimise it. Sometimes it's just not possible.

The thing is, these people have absolutely nothing to do with my life but are massively affecting my sleep, which is really really important.

6am this morning 😭😭

I would work on the basis they are oblivious rather than entitled & inconsiderate so next time you are woken so early go straight round and bang and the door - explain you are being woken early every morning by child. Be nice and tell them you had young children so know it hard to keep them quiet but perhaps hadn't realised quite how thin the walls were & please could they take wailing child downstairs or in a non-adjoining room. Say your thanks, smile sweetly and leave. It might make them change their habits or it might not but lying in bed being cross won't get you anywhere.

I do think going early when you have been woken is the ideal time as you won't want to linger for a long debate and it will have the most impact. But be nice about it or you risk pissing them off and taking it up a level out of spite !

@Besswess88

Also - seeing as these people are complete strangers I don’t really feel like I am “everyone” in this situation.

I have done my sleepless nights I do not want to be part of another families that I have absolutely no emotional investment in at all.

I think this makes you sound unreasonable to be honest

I’m obviously a horrible person but this would really get to me too.,if the child wakes up at that time every morning the parents just have to get up too, or take the child in to bed with them. I can’t believe the child can’t sleep somewhere that doesn’t affect neighbours quite as much. It must be horrendous to know that every day you’re going to be woken early.

This would get to me too and tbh if it was every morning, come evening they'd get my music blasting to keep them awake. See how they like it. If it's every morning they aren't doing enough to try and stop their child crying.

Totally unacceptable. Is it possible to put some soundproofing in your bedroom?

I can't understand the people on here acting like you're being unreasonable. Of course that's incredibly annoying. Even if the parents can't stop the noise they could at least be apologetic about it and offer to buy you some top of the range earplugs. Common decency.

Otherwise you might feel that you can't control some noise coming from your flat at times which would be inconvenient for them.

Of course you're not unreasonable to be pissed off about this, and those saying otherwise are probably the people causing noise issues for neighbours. However, complaining on here isn't going to help the situation. You need to tell the neighbours the noise is affecting you to give them chance to try and change bedroom arrangements or make sore the kids are downstairs in a morning. They might not realise how the noise travels. Or maybe it's lazy parents leaving their kids to carry on creating whilst they stay in bed, otherwise if they were downstairs with them, I'm sure you wouldn't be hearing as much as you are. Either way, if they don't know, they can't try and make it better for you.

@Lemonlemon88

The child must be extremely distressed to be crying for hours on end. How awful for everyone.

Did you read the first line of the OP at all?

When mine were too young to be reasoned with (or threatened!) I would take them out in the car if they were loud early in the mornings, especially at weekends. It's really not fair to subject others to the noise of your inconsolable child and it's particularly rude not to even attempt to mitigate it by approaching your neighbour and at least apologising and doing what you can to reduce the volume.