I am so pissed off right now

[Besswess88]

Neighbours child has been wailing (think singing wailing more than crying) since 5:30am.

Every fucking day this week., it’s Sunday ffs I want to sleep but now fully awake and very very pissed off.

ARGH 😠

Bloody hell, the amount of people on here who think it’s funny or that people should just put up with it is really surprising.

If it’s every morning, the parents need to think about other people and do something about it or if they’re doing some sleep training, explain this to the people who will be affected.

Take baby into a different room, try and understand what baby needs and address the needs, distract baby, change the layout of the room etc The neighbour didn’t have the baby so shouldn’t have to make adjustments because the parents aren’t.

@username1293948

Are you for real?

@MissNothing1991

My daughter has Developmental delay. She could easily wake early, and could as easily wail/sing for an hour because she has no verbal communication as yet and that would be her way of expressing herself. So thank fuck you aren't my neighbour.

I bet the OP agrees with that sentiment!

@ineedsun

Bloody hell, the amount of people on here who think it’s funny or that people should just put up with it is really surprising.

If it’s every morning, the parents need to think about other people and do something about it or if they’re doing some sleep training, explain this to the people who will be affected.

Take baby into a different room, try and understand what baby needs and address the needs, distract baby, change the layout of the room etc The neighbour didn’t have the baby so shouldn’t have to make adjustments because the parents aren’t.

this.

My little boy used to scream for hours and hours on end no matter what we did. It was so unbelievably difficult. One day he cried for only 3 hours and I was so happy as there were days it went on for 10 or 12 hours. We saw every doctor we could and they could find nothing wrong we were just unlucky. Our neighbours were so so supportive. Believe me I know how hard it is for you because I was lying beside the noise for two long years before he finally settled.

I can’t buy a detached 🙄

They have only been there a few months and this has been going on the whole time.

The other Sunday I managed to get back to sleep and they then started drilling in my wall at 08:30.

This morning I did a very loud door slam and went into the loft and it stopped but I don’t want to sleep in the loft as that isn’t my room (and 2 nights a week it’s rented out) and my bed has an orthopaedic mattress etc for my back.

I have three grown up children, I was much more considerate as a neighbouring parent.

[quote ineedsun]@username1293948

Are you for real?[/quote]
Yes?

Also - seeing as these people are complete strangers I don’t really feel like I am “everyone” in this situation.

I have done my sleepless nights I do not want to be part of another families that I have absolutely no emotional investment in at all.

Earplugs sorry! Baby is probably teething or something, it won't last forever.

Although I seriously do feel your pain. Our neighbours over the road had a baby earlier this year. Then one night, right in the middle of that horrendous heatwave, it would not stop screaming. They put it in the pram and walked it up and down the street, crying, for about 2 hours starting at 2am. We all had windows open as it was so hot and nobody on the street slept through it!

I feel your pain OP. My neighbours are this. They have 3 kids and our walls are literally shaking. Sometimes feels like the tv is about to come off the wall. The 3 boys seem to on a never ending running circuit by day or crying/wailing.

Good news for us is they are moving in 3 weeks.

@RedFishYellowFish

I feel your pain OP. My neighbours are this. They have 3 kids and our walls are literally shaking. Sometimes feels like the tv is about to come off the wall. The 3 boys seem to on a never ending running circuit by day or crying/wailing. Good news for us is they are moving in 3 weeks.

Yes the last lot had two boys around 8/9 who did continuous circuits, it sounded like they were upstairs in my own house.

Guy bought the house a few years ago and has a succession of renters so there is no progression through stages. They leave because he ups the rent and I never know what I am getting next.

I actually think why should I wear earplugs? Why do I have to adapt my own behaviour around someone else’s inconsiderate behaviour.

This isn’t a one off, it’s every fucking night for months now. I took a long weekend of work hoping to lie in 😭😭😭

@Besswess88

Also - seeing as these people are complete strangers I don’t really feel like I am “everyone” in this situation.

I have done my sleepless nights I do not want to be part of another families that I have absolutely no emotional investment in at all.

Yeah it would be really frustrating. I think as it's 530 occams razor suggests they can't be arsed to get up.

Buy a detached house

There's always one (or more)...

Get excellent noise cancelling headphones. Unfortunately babies cry! Do you have any other concerns about them (relating to their child)

@AlwaysLatte

Get excellent noise cancelling headphones. Unfortunately babies cry! Do you have any other concerns about them (relating to their child)

I work in SC and no in answer to your question, and I tend to try and leave work at work rather than suspecting all my neighbours of abuse.

I live in a flat and the people above me have young kids including a baby, they've never woken me up wailing at 5:30 in the morning, or any time, I don't understand people here saying get over it, move to a detached house then (lol), the parents probably find it as annoying as you etc etc etc yanbu

This is the thing - it’s their child, they love the child, I have never met this child, it’s nothing to do with me.

@Russell19

Buy a detached house. It's the only way.

You think people can just go and buy a detached house on a whim? This is the equivalent of saying 'if you're homeless, just buy a house'

@Besswess88

They could move the crying child and soothe them elsewhere from the adjoining bedroom.

You could Move into another room to sleep?

Habe you told them? (Politely but clearly?).

My parents were so worried about me waking the neighbours that they used to give me super sweet children's tea to quieten Me down. As a baby I still blame them for being obese now.

A child wailing for hours from 5:30am every morning is not normal. A responsive parent would try to find ways to comfort their young DC. A regular lack of responsiveness is worrying IMO.

My old neighbours did this - eventually DH leapt out of bed one morning at 6am and went round there and thumped on their door. He got a mumbled excuse that they were trying to sleep-train the kid and it promptly stopped and they didn’t do it again.

Just to add, we used to be woken by that kid crying all the time, and usually you’d hear one of the parents going in and comforting her or taking her through to their room - no problem there; kids cry. Leaving them to cry and wake the neighbours and doing nothing about it is not okay.

Why did you expect to manage a lie in if this is literally happening every day for months?

Have you spoken to them about it?

I haven’t spoken to them as I have hardly seen them and haven’t even seen them in passing to say hi, not really keen on our first meeting involving me going round to complain about my lack of sleep due to their kid.