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Original poster

Tasting my food before me

61 replies

oystercatcher5 · 22/01/2022 23:12

We went for a curry at a restaurant we go to regularly.

Before my dish was even on the table my MIL had stuck her fork in for a taste and given her opinion, loudly.

Ok or not?

OP posts:
2YearsOfWastedTime · 22/01/2022 23:13

Well what do u think?

I wonder if when something happens to someone they think

‘Oooh, i will ask Mumsnetters’ Confused

TimeForTeaAndG · 22/01/2022 23:23

And what did you say to her?

SequinnedShawl · 22/01/2022 23:24

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honeyrider · 22/01/2022 23:24

I would have passed the dish to her and ordered another one for myself.

ANameChangeAgain · 22/01/2022 23:24

Did she shout in pain when you stabbed her hand with your fork? Wink

HollowTalk · 22/01/2022 23:26

I wouldn't have wanted to eat my dinner then.

Strokethefurrywall · 22/01/2022 23:28

Do you really need stranger’s opinions on this? Seriously?

I’d have stabbed her in the hand with my fork.

AAAAAGHH · 22/01/2022 23:38

Nope

Suzanne999 · 22/01/2022 23:45

No, not ok.

Justmuddlingalong · 22/01/2022 23:47

Oh, korma on. You're tikka-ing the piss asking.

HeddaGarbled · 22/01/2022 23:55

I have never been “for a curry” and not ordered multiple dishes to share. Do your friends call you Smithy?

KitchenTowel · 23/01/2022 00:01

I'd find it mildly annoying but as long as it was a clean fork I'd let it go.

Chishnfips · 23/01/2022 00:06

JOEY DOESNT SHARE FOOD

Socialcarenope · 23/01/2022 00:22

Wouldn't have bothered me. But I like my MIL and I'm happy to share food.

MrsClatterbuck · 23/01/2022 00:22

@Chishnfips

JOEY DOESNT SHARE FOOD
My DH would have been sitting with baited breath. Nobody touches my food without permission. The look she would have got would have been much worse than anything I would have said. In fact DH would probably be under the table at this point.
KittensTeaAndCake · 23/01/2022 00:24

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ThinWomansBrain · 23/01/2022 00:29

oh well - at least she is of sufficiently independent mind to form an opinion without asking a random group of strangers on the internet.

DiddyHeck · 23/01/2022 00:31

Ok or not?

What a strange question. If everyone here said 'yeah that's fine', would you suddenly become ok with it?

hangrylady · 23/01/2022 00:35

I'd have put her in a korma if she'd done that to me Grin

L0bstersLass · 23/01/2022 00:55

@oystercatcher5

We went for a curry at a restaurant we go to regularly.

Before my dish was even on the table my MIL had stuck her fork in for a taste and given her opinion, loudly.

Ok or not?

If the dish hadn't made it to the table, where was it when she tasted it? Still in the waiter's hands? On the way to the table? Either way that's very weird behaviour. How embarrassing. Obviously not ok.
Original poster
oystercatcher5 · 23/01/2022 10:02

@2YearsOfWastedTime I genuinely couldn't believe what had happened but neither the waiter nor my DH appeared to see a problem and my daughter told me to "leave it mum". So yes, I thought I'd ask mumsnetters.

@TimeForTeaAndG I. Asked her what she thought she she was doing and looked to my dh and the waiter and got nothing.

@SequinnedShawl No idea what you are on aboutConfused

@ANameChangeAgain That is what I should have done and will do next time 

@Strokethefurrywall Yes, I do need strangers' opinions on this - if I didn't, I wouldn't have posted.

@Justmuddlingalong Grin

@KittensTeaAndCake no, I made it up.

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ExplodingCarrots · 23/01/2022 10:12

'What the fuck do you think you're doing?!' Would be my reaction OP. It's awful and they all know it but they're probably used to her bs and think it's normal or too scared to confront I guess ?
I would bet my right hand she would decline if you asked for some of her food too.

dentydown · 23/01/2022 10:57

No that isn’t on. If you are having individual dishes, then the person who orders their food gets first dip, then allows other people to tuck in when asked.

I’ve had a controlling boyfriend treat my food as a starter and start mixing it up/seasoning it / dipping his food in it before I got to eat it. So I am a bit funny about my food.

QuestionsorComments · 23/01/2022 10:59

Most meals that would be odd, but at a curry house surely everyone tries a bit of everything?

As with almost every MIL post this is about your attitude to her, rather than what she actually did. Would you feel so strongly if it had been a dear friend, your mother or sister?

Ponoka7 · 23/01/2022 11:03

Not everyone shares food, even when having Indian. Unless it's agreed, you can ask, but you don't presume.