Tasting my food before me

[oystercatcher5]

We went for a curry at a restaurant we go to regularly.

Before my dish was even on the table my MIL had stuck her fork in for a taste and given her opinion, loudly.

Ok or not?

If she was using a clean fork I would have had a different opinion to if that fork had already been in her mouth quite honestly.

You ordered it,, if she wanted some, she either orders it herself or asks later once you’ve had as much as you want, which is how it works when we go to a curry place.

Oh my god. Call me way over the top but no way would I want a dish that other people had stuck their fork in (no I don't care about CV19)! YANBU.

We’re you sharing? If not is have asked her how my food was…. Then I’d have spend the meal fucked off with her and she’s know it!

That was really rude of your mil. My 13 yo dd may have said the same to me. She hates making a fuss.

Update

Tonight, my Bloody Mary arrived and MIL whipped in and had a suck through the straw before me. I shouted and made a big song and dance about how fucking rude I thought it was. Family all embarrassed and trying to quiet me but I made my point, loud and clear. I don't think she will do it again. Result. Thank you 😘😘

I think you need to sit further away from her - if you ever plan to sit at the same table again!

Even if you are sharing, if its a dish you ordered then its totally inappropriate to taste it before it even hit the table. And no, not everyone shares food, I'm a vegetarian and literally can't share other people's food and don't expect to share mine either (unless everyone has ordered veggie)

NO NO NO !!!

I have coeliacs so if the fork had been on her plate or in her mouth prior to touching my food I wouldn’t have been able to eat it, so I’d have been fucking raging tbh.
The best thing about being gluten free is that I don’t share food and I don’t have to make excuses as to why I don’t want to taste the slop someone else ordered

Well done re the update OP! Is she obnoxious in other ways as well (I presume )?

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Most meals that would be odd, but at a curry house surely everyone tries a bit of everything?

As with almost every MIL post this is about your attitude to her, rather than what she actually did. Would you feel so strongly if it had been a dear friend, your mother or sister?

I would feel just as strongly if it were my firstborn (granted, when he's older) who I love dearly, although hopefully I'll bring him up to know not to rudely stick your fork in someone else's food.

Touch my food, feel my fork

I would be livid

Not ok.

That’s extremely rude. You wait until someone offers, if they don’t, tough and you order it another time, not just stick your fork into someone else’s meal before they had a chance to taste it. I would have asked where her manners were? Anyone who does that whom is old enough to know better, I would not be having a meal with again.

@oystercatcher5

Update

Tonight, my Bloody Mary arrived and MIL whipped in and had a suck through the straw before me. I shouted and made a big song and dance about how fucking rude I thought it was. Family all embarrassed and trying to quiet me but I made my point, loud and clear. I don't think she will do it again. Result. Thank you 😘😘

You should have refused it and insisted she buy you an new drink.

Not everyone shares. My husband orders stuff I don’t like and vice versa so we happily have our own dishes. I hate sharing dishes.

Meh

Definitely not okay.

I would move the dish/drink to mil’s place, turn to the waiter and loudly say “please could I have a fresh xyz, Mil seems to have mistaken it for hers.” Then ensure that she picks up that dish on the bill.

TimeForTeaAndG I. Asked her what she thought she she was doing and looked to my dh and the waiter and got nothing.

What did you expect the waiter to do ffs? 😂

Your MIL should be very careful.
Look what happened to Saddam Hussein's food taster. (Kamel Hana Gegeo)

@QuestionsorComments

Most meals that would be odd, but at a curry house surely everyone tries a bit of everything?

As with almost every MIL post this is about your attitude to her, rather than what she actually did. Would you feel so strongly if it had been a dear friend, your mother or sister?

I don't unless its agreed beforehand that we will share a dish and then you use the serving spoon to put some on your OWN plate.

and yes I would hate it whoever did it

@oystercatcher5

Update

Tonight, my Bloody Mary arrived and MIL whipped in and had a suck through the straw before me. I shouted and made a big song and dance about how fucking rude I thought it was. Family all embarrassed and trying to quiet me but I made my point, loud and clear. I don't think she will do it again. Result. Thank you 😘😘

she really is a gem isn't she

Do people say fuck/WTF at or to their MILs? I don't know anyone who does in real life?

I guess at least you know there wasn't a secret agent in the kitchen trying to poison you by slipping cyanide into your korma. Assuming MIL is still alive that is.