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Monkey987 · 2022-01-21T21:01:47+00:00

Are we being unreasonable to take 10 year old DSD to get nails done. Dad has had some health problems so hasn't been able to see her since Christmas so he would like to spoil her a little bit. DSD lives quite far away and we're running out of fun contact ideas for the winter. Usually we would go to the park/walks etc but it's too cold. So my question is are we being unreasonable to go and get our nails done. Obviously she would have something discrete and school friendly. What is acceptable for a 10 year old (year 6) to have done? I was thinking simple nail varnish/ maybe gel so it lasts longer? Is that too much for a 10 year old? I'm not really a nail person so don't really know what to ask for. How much roughly would you expect to spend?

UndertheCedartree · 21/01/2022 21:43

@Monkey987 - I know - little girls wanting to play around with their appearance (i.e dress up) is hardly new! How many people take their DD's to the princess makeover thing at Disney?

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Monkey987 · 21/01/2022 21:45

@chickenninja

What about a pedicure instead? Then she won't have to remove it for school

This is what my partner suggested! I think that's equally as nice and without the drama.

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UndertheCedartree · 21/01/2022 21:47

@Ponoka7

My 7 year old GD has hers done. Salons do children's versions. These were her Christmas nails. Judge away!

Looks fun!

TheOccupier · 21/01/2022 21:48

How sad to teach a child that sitting still and quiet while her perfectly nice natural nails are "beautified" is something she should be grateful for. The girls I know of that age would hate it.

Why don't you take her to the theatre/cinema?

SD1978 · 21/01/2022 21:48

You seem really fixated on it has to be getting her nails done. As people have said- it Chios easy, and also probably needs to be washed off for school. I understand that you want to see her too, but it's an activity that has sod all involvement , for about an hour, with her dad- who she is supposed to be seeing. Give up the nail idea, and maybe get activities/ time that he spends with her, given he hasn't because of his health for over a month.

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Monkey987 · 21/01/2022 21:48

@emberplum

First ask her mum if it's ok. I think it's a nice treat though, maybe a bit of a hand massage, manicure and a pale polish. Not gels, I'd expect a reputable salon not to do gels for young children anyway. Lots of salons do a kids manicure too. I like others suggestion of a pedicure too if she likes funky colours. I would have loved it at this age! I actually started having my nails done at 11 to encourage me to stop biting them. It didn't work but I loved going to the salon every few weeks and picking out some nail art!

We would definetely discuss it with her mum! Were not complete psychopaths! Not that her mum ever asked my partner if it was OK to get her ears pierced... But as we all know mums don't have to ask dad's permission on mums net.

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PaperMonster · 21/01/2022 21:50

My ten year old loves having her nails done in the holidays. It’s £12 and lasts much longer than me doing it at home!

boymum88 · 21/01/2022 21:51

Think a pedicure maybe better or even ask her what she would prefer ? Could you go out afterwards for cake ? String the day out a bit or have a walk around the shops

DSGR · 21/01/2022 21:51

My eight year old would absolutely love that! Followed by lunch out? What a treat!
I’d stick to toenails though so she doesn’t get into trouble at school

Fink · 21/01/2022 21:51

If she's only 45 minutes away, surely you could pick her up and bring her to your home, then just have the day indoors doing whatever her and your dp would enjoy. My ex lives an hour's drive away and that's how he has contact every weekend (mostly we each drive one way per visit, but sometimes it's one of us who does both ways). For only slightly longer than you're planning (i.e. still there and back in one day). I would think that's quite normal, it's not a huge journey.

emberplum · 21/01/2022 21:52

@Monkey987 was there any need for that spikey reply?! Jesus Christ! And I agree things should be discussed with both parent actually but that isn't what this thread is about.

Notwithittoday · 21/01/2022 21:52

I take my 8 year old with me when I have mine done. She just has polish and I only do it in the school holidays

Chickychoccyegg · 21/01/2022 21:55

Of course school allows nail polish and gel nails, most of my 9 yesr old dds friends have been getting their nails done in salons for the last couple of years, dd has been for the occasional treat, they do kids ones, some people are totally over thinking it, if dsd likes doing her nails, I'm sure she'll like getting them done in a salon

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Monkey987 · 21/01/2022 21:57

@WhatScratch

45 minutes in a car??? That’s nothing!

We're not worried about the 45mins. J ust want to make the most of our time whilst we are there. Especially as haven't been able to see her for nearly 3 weeks because of partners broke knee.

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WhatScratch · 21/01/2022 21:59

Ouch. I hope he’s healing well. Would her mother not drop her at yours for the day and you could run her back? 90 minutes in the car must be painful for your DP.

UndertheCedartree · 21/01/2022 22:01

@TheOccupier

How sad to teach a child that sitting still and quiet while her perfectly nice natural nails are "beautified" is something she should be grateful for. The girls I know of that age would hate it.

Why don't you take her to the theatre/cinema?

Why would she have to be quiet? Loads of DC like having their nails painted - both my DS and DD have. Just like they enjoy dressing up or different coloured scrunchies? It's just a bit of fun. Unless of course you have the kind of strange attitude where you would expect the DC to be still and quiet as they were 'beautified'...but the OP seems to just be looking for a fun activity her DSD will enjoy.

MaChienEstUnDick · 21/01/2022 22:02

Why not go for a pedicure, then she won't have to take it off for school?

Innocenta · 21/01/2022 22:02

For a girly girl of that age, it should be a lovely treat. Hope you all enjoy the visit!

Luredbyapomegranate · 21/01/2022 22:03

A pedicure would be fine.

I wouldn’t get a manicure. The school / her mother may not appreciate that. About 22 quid in london suburbs, don’t get gell, it’s pointless on your feet.

SavoyCabbage · 21/01/2022 22:04

Why would she have to be quiet?
I imagine she'd have to be quiet because that's the expected behaviour in a nail salon. As opposed to a theme park, roller rink or bowling alley which are activities that children don't have to be quiet whilst doing.

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Monkey987 · 21/01/2022 22:05

@Chickychoccyegg

Of course school allows nail polish and gel nails, most of my 9 yesr old dds friends have been getting their nails done in salons for the last couple of years, dd has been for the occasional treat, they do kids ones, some people are totally over thinking it, if dsd likes doing her nails, I'm sure she'll like getting them done in a salon

Thanks for replying. I'm glad I'm not crazy. I remember girls having nail birthday parties when I was DSDs age. We were only thinking about a kid friendly fun nail thing. Nothing crazy. I'm surprised that people are so quick to link a cute day out to the fact my partner doesn't have full custody of his daughter and wants to spoil his little girl after breaking his knee and feeling guilty having not seen her for 3 weeks.

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user1493494961 · 21/01/2022 22:07

Take her to the cinema.

Zoflorabore · 21/01/2022 22:07

I would check that this is actually allowed at her school first op or you will be wasting your money.

My dd is 10, nearly 11 and in year 6. Her school doesn’t allow any nail colour or even earrings and are pretty strict. I’ve taken dd twice to get her nails painted when she has broken up for the holidays and once before we went abroad.

She knows not to ask for them in term time as it’s a complete waste.

There are loads of other things to do with girls of this age!

emberplum · 21/01/2022 22:08

@SavoyCabbage

Why would she have to be quiet? I imagine she'd have to be quiet because that's the expected behaviour in a nail salon. As opposed to a theme park, roller rink or bowling alley which are activities that children don't have to be quiet whilst doing.

Just incase you didn't know, not all kids like theme parks, roller skating or bowling. These are all my idea of hell, at 10 years old and now!

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Monkey987 · 21/01/2022 22:09

@Fink

If she's only 45 minutes away, surely you could pick her up and bring her to your home, then just have the day indoors doing whatever her and your dp would enjoy. My ex lives an hour's drive away and that's how he has contact every weekend (mostly we each drive one way per visit, but sometimes it's one of us who does both ways). For only slightly longer than you're planning (i.e. still there and back in one day). I would think that's quite normal, it's not a huge journey.

We wouldn't go to that kind of nail salon. More of a cheap kid friendly one. The idea is my partner wants to talk to her while shes getting it done.

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