Do you, or have you ever lived alone?

[velvet24]

I have not, home, uni, then home briefty and moved in with then bf now dh. I sometimes think how I would have liked to have my own apartment at some point and lived by myself, not get settled down at 21. Now it probably wont happen of course, just one of those things....i watch these dramas and feel a tiny ping of envy seeing someone going back to their own apartment, pouring their wine and just doing what they like! Of course wouldn't change my house of teens and pets and comings and goings but the thought of my 20's in my own apartment, would have been nice......

Yes, found it a bit boring really. I went out lots

@ISpyCobraKai

I live alone, I love it. I'd never live with anyone again.

Me too. I really enjoy my own company, am never bored, never feel lonely.

I would hate someone else being in my house (other than my adult DC when they come to stay!)

Lived alone for 2 years, then moved in with someone for 8. Now alone again (5 years and counting now).

Yes, for a couple of years in my twenties before I lived with now-DH. I loved it - it was always tidy! My best mate lived four doors down and another friend across the road so didn't feel lonely.

When I moved out of home I had a child. Had a few more children while single. Met someone and got married, had another child so no I've never lived alone, but I've been the only adult.

I live alone with my children now, does that count?

I never have! Went from home, to halls, to flatmates, lodged in a lady's house for a bit, then moved in with now-DH when we were both students in a flatshare and then we moved out on our own.

I lived on my own from being aged about 24 to about 30. I lived in a bedsit to begin with and hated the downstairs neighbours with their constant partying and noise. I then moved to a 2 bed semi not far from where I live now.

I enjoyed the peace and the tidiness. I didn't mind being on my own but did get lonely every now and then. I look back now, without even a bedroom to myself, and occasionally long for the simplicity of it.

Yes and I loved it much more than living with someone which I have found myself stupidly doing on a few occasions.

For many years! Heavenly.

Did for two years once I got the family out of the way seeing them less and less I loved it.

Yes, I lived alone for the last 3 years of Uni and first 4 years afterwards. I liked it.

I left home at 17, lived in student accommodation or flat shares until I was 23. Then dh and I rented a flat but it was 6 months until our wedding and we didn't plan to live together7ntil we got married - he was a medical student in hospital accommodation until then. So I lived on my own for 6 months and absolutely loved it. Though it was nice when we moved in together too!

Sadly not! It is something I hanker after hugely.

I did for many years, and loved it . Then lived with ex DP and loved it but also missed time by myself. Now alone again and just starting to enjoy it again

Left home at 19, lived with a BF until I was 23 then lived alone until I was 29 when I met DH.

I bloody loved living alone, I threaten it (jokingly) regularly to DH & DS(15), although I’d take the dog with me!

I did but it was a time when I didn’t want to and didn’t enjoy it. But now, oh wow, I would use that time differently for sure!

Yes, for a few years in my early 20s when I moved to a new city, which I hated. Was very young,missed my friends and jumped at the chance of getting a house mate. Then again in my late 20s/early 30s which was much better. I was settled, had an excellent social life and a good job, and really enjoyed it just being me (especially after I'd had my fill of flat shares going wrong!) Moved in with my now DH at 32 and that was ten years ago. So glad I had those years living on my own. I think I needed it and it was a good experience, even if there were moments of loneliness.

I'm 62, never lived alone. Left home a few days after my 20th, to go and live with BF (married a year later, had 2 kids, we're still married)

Yes for 4 years when ex left. I loved not having to be on eggshells when I came home, being able to do what I wanted, when I wanted. I'd been seeing (now) DH for over two years before he moved in because I was contented as I was for a while.

Hi Velvet, I met and married my now ex husband when I was younger than you.
The marriage after 12 years broke up, but not because of any fear of missing out.

So I have lived alone either with my dc, or when they became independent, proper alone.

I’ve been lucky enough to find a partner who like me, also enjoys his own space, as well a sharing our home.

So I would say, that for me, I would only pine to live alone, if I felt smothered by my partner and/or household situation.

Yes, you can be deeply in love and devoted to your loved ones, but I believe it’s so important to retain some of your own “self”, and for you and your family to respect each other’s space and individuality.

After all, you probably fell in love with each other as individuals, so why can’t you share your lives, without it being 24/7.

If you have kids, take the load of each other equally, so both of you can enjoy “me time”.
To either enjoy a hobby, or have the house to yourself, even just for a few hours.
Make it a priority to be mindful of each other’s needs as the individuals you still are.

It really can be like having the best of both worlds…. but you’ve both got to be willing to do it.
If one partner can’t, or won’t, then I’m afraid you may always pine to live alone, even if that’s not what you truly want, if that makes sense.

By the way, what I’ve described works for us, you may find a different solution for you… I was just giving you my viewpoint on what works for us.
Best wishes.

Yes, I liked it.

Eventually I missed having someone to regularly chat to in the evenings, but it certainly wouldn’t bother me if I lived alone again. Having said that I have good friends and family so I was never deep-lonely.

Yes in my 20s, loved it, did what I wanted when I wanted for the most part. I had a few partners, one who lived with me for a while but overall I was very happy. Ï'm now a single parent looking forward to my DC leaving home

I lived on my own for 2.5 years . Like you I had gone from home to uni halls/shared houses back home. Then another flat share for 11 years. Through an inheritance I bought a 1 bed flat. I took about 2 weeks to fully move as I started to get nervous about living alone. The first weekend I remember being jumpy and noticing every little noise - I also felt vulnerable at first living in a ground floor flat as a single woman as I had come from a first floor flat. But I soon loved having the space to myself and my own garden to walk straight into.
The kitchen needed renovating and with that the flat had to be rewired which was £££ in my first year. It was a bit of a struggle financially to do any other decorating etc so I had a lot of mismatched furniture which had been donated from friends and family. But I loved it and was very happy. I met my now DH about a year and a half later and he moved in after another year.
With 2 incomes we gradually able to make it our own. Although I still sometimes missed having the place to myself (and only my own - much smaller - mess!)

Yes, after my divorce. I had many sleepless nights beforehand, was scared to death about the idea. But it was blissful. Bought pretty stuff to put in it, ate what I wanted, watched what I wanted, lay around in the bath for hours on end reading. It was tiny and my neighbours were all similarly miserable skint divorced people but it was a home I chose by and for myself and I still think of it fondly.