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Original poster

To expect my MIL to let me eat when I am going hypo

34 replies

cheshirekitty · 27/12/2007 18:24

Taking MIL back home today I knew my blood sugar was getting low because of shaking etc. Have been diabetic a few years and have been put on new tablets a week ago.

Stopped off at a service station and the only food on offer was burger king. MIL states she will not eat burger king and refuses to stay in building (she is 85 and uses 2 sticks so I could not leave her)

Had to drive another 15 miles to find a service station that did food she would eat.
Husband is fuming at her.

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 27/12/2007 18:25

Why couldn't you get something to eat in the car if you couldn't leave her alone in the car.

Sounds very dangeous driving when you needed to eat.

I would be mad at her too.

SelfishMrsClaus · 27/12/2007 18:26

Couldn't you have gotten a take away burger king to releive your hypo? And then stopped at the next place for MIL to eat?

crokky · 27/12/2007 18:28

Utterly ludicrous behaviour by MIL. I have blood sugar problems (not diabetes though) and when I need to eat, I NEED TO EAT!!! I am shaking etc. Would have told MIL to wait in car for 10 minutes and would have walked off to BK with no further discussion.

chipmonkey · 27/12/2007 18:28

TBH, I think your health is more important than MIL's foibles! You need to put your foot down with miserable old bats like that!

welshdeb · 27/12/2007 18:28

you are not she most definately is

Choice....... let you eat in burger king or risk you having a hypo while driving and risk an accident...

CremolaFirCone · 27/12/2007 18:30

god ihave been diabetic for 30 years and id have locked her in thcar and run towards the food. no harm to her but she wouldn't be going anywhere if they had to call an ambulance for you.

JingleBelgoHoHoHo · 27/12/2007 18:30

It sounds like she didn't understand how potentially serious the situztion is.

Do you not keep emergency food in the car?

jellycat · 27/12/2007 18:31

Sounds like she doesn't understand your condition at all. TBH you probably should have said you were not safe to drive and refused to do so.

Next time take something to eat (e.g. some of those energy tablets/digestive biscuits for a quick boost and a banana to keep you going for longer).

oxocube · 27/12/2007 18:32

At 85, did she have any idea of how serious this could be for you? Personally, in this kind of situation, I would have grabbed some food and taken it back to the car to eat or even outside the car where I could keep an eye on her!

brusselbeansprouts · 27/12/2007 18:32

I would say that it's not actually up to her what you eat. If she doesn't want it, fine, but if you need to eat, then just go ahead next time.

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 27/12/2007 18:34

Next time take something to eat (e.g. some of those energy tablets/digestive biscuits for a quick boost and a banana to keep you going for longer).

Next time my arse....

Next time tell her to get the bus home. Evil old biddy.

Pound to a penny if it was her condition she would expect full understanding and capitulation.

paulaplumpbottom · 27/12/2007 18:35

I would be angry to

jellycat · 27/12/2007 18:42

Brie, I meant next time cheshirekitty drives anywhere, with or without MIL! That is sensible advice for any diabetic on medication that can induce hypos.

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 27/12/2007 18:54

Jellycat I know, stop being so reasonable.....

Original poster
cheshirekitty · 27/12/2007 19:11

I have only been on the tablets for 1 week so hypo is a new experience for me. I will definitely have some lucozade in the car from now on.

MIL was crying that she needed to eat because of her age etc and she causes so much trouble if she is crossed it has to be seen to be believed!!

I do think though that hubby will be doing all MIL driving from now on.

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newgirl · 27/12/2007 19:11

were they not selling sandwiches in the shop bit?!

Original poster
cheshirekitty · 27/12/2007 19:12

Yes, but MIL refused to go further into the services and would not be left on her own.

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Ozymandius · 27/12/2007 19:13

I would have just said, 'well I'm ordering a burger because I need to eat, if you don't want anything here, I'll stop somewhere later for you'. Think you need to be more assertive, to be honest.

newnamefornewyearbookwormmum · 27/12/2007 19:14

She may not have realised how serious it is that you eat pronto but please keep emergency food in the car next time. Or get your dp to take her home. Surely a chocolate bar would have sufficed to stave off the attack?

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cheshirekitty · 27/12/2007 19:16

I agree, but when you are assertive with her she starts to cry, involves everyone around her, and then I am the big bad wolf.

I will tell you a little story. A few years ago we took FIL and MIL for a chinese meal. We ordered a banquet. First course came and MIL just went beserk and stacked her plate up. It was unbelievable. Hardly anything left for anyone else.

When the 2nd course came she said "oh, I thought thee was only 1 course". My daughter and I could not believe it.

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newgirl · 27/12/2007 19:17

so more assertiveness from you and more manners from her - else she could end up left in a layby somewhere!

i wonder if we will be like that in our 80s - old age princess

VictorianSqualor · 27/12/2007 19:18

People can only refuse, they can't force you to comply.
She 'refused' to stay in building? Well, she would have had to, either that or walk back herself.
Age does not make stubborness/rudeness and downright selfishness allowable.
I would've left her in the car and grabbed something, if she wanted to whine I'd have had a whole flipping meal in burger king and a pudding, and left her out there with a reason to flipping complain.

MotherFunk · 27/12/2007 19:18

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VictorianSqualor · 27/12/2007 19:19

I doubt very much anyone would have stood by her if they realised you were close to having a diabetic fit and needed to eat, whther she cried or not.

MotherFunk · 27/12/2007 19:19

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