To ask, if you have primary age dc

[Zara2008]

What sort of hours do you work, and does your dh (if you have one), do his share of the childcare?

I work part time but I do 100% of the childcare.

I work 9:15 to 5:00. I do the drop off and DH does the pick up. DH works from home so he works early and finishes his hours in order to do the pick up and does dinner etc before I get home.

I have 2 DC, one diagnosed PDA autistic.
I'm a single mum and have just got a great full time job that has set me on the path to my dream job.
Unfortunately, because their father insists on making my life difficult, even 7 years after our split, I'm likely going to have to leave. All because he will not help with childcare at all.

I have done it all for 7 years. And yes, I'm very bitter that my life has to fit around his need to control me and lack of wanting to 'help' me.

I have a 5yo and 1yo.
I work 10-4 or 5 3 days a week (contract is 17.5 hours)
Dh works 8-4 5 days a week.

I do all morning school runs and the afternoon school run on my 2 days off.

MIL does Tuesday afternoon as she has toddler ds that day.
DH does Wednesday afternoon and logs back on to finish work (5 min walk from school)
DM does Thursday afternoon as she has toddler ds that day.

We do bedtime together, we split night wakings now there's no feeds, at the weekend we tend to do things together but if one of us has something on then the other will have the kids obviously.

It's fairly equal although I'd say dh does more socialising with his friends but that's mainly down to me still breastfeeding at bedtime and first thing in the morning so I don't fancy many nights out.

Oh and obviously I have my 1yo on my 2 days off!

Four DC, I don't work, DH works FT.

I do the majority of the childcare but he takes two of the DC to their school on his way to work and once a week he works from home so does the entire school run that day to give me a break and to stretch his legs.

Primary school:

Me, then working in office, 9-5 with 1 hour commute each way so I dropped DD off at the childminder 4 days a week.

DH, works from home permanently, works 7.30 - 4.30pm, collected DD from childminder and did all the clubs on my workdays and all medical appointments unless we both wanted/needed to be there.

He also oversaw homework and daily reading in the majority of cases.

I work 4 days/week. DH works FT.

I WFH 50%, on those days I'll start at 9am after the school run and work until 5:30/6pm earliest (we have after school childcare in place). Either myself or DH does evening pick up. On my office-based days I have a 45min commute and usually get to office about 7:45/8am and work until 4:30pm. DS has to go to breakfast club those days and it's DH that does morning drop off. I do evening pick-up.

I'd say I do slightly more childcare than DH, but it's not too uneven. I've made a conscious effort in recent months to share the mental load and got the school to ensure DH is on all school emails (used to just be me) so that we're both responsible for remembering homework/reading/booking school meals etc. It's taken a while for DH to get up to speed (lol) but it has been a huge help.

Reception and year 2 child. I work 30 hours pw over 5 days, DH full time over 5. Fairly even split of drop off and pick ups, I do more after school care as I am supposed to finish early a couple of days pw. His job is more flexible though so he does more some weeks when my work is busy/time pressured deadlines. Running around for Kids evening activities are evenly split, but I arrange and facilitate all playdates

x2 DDs, both KS2.

DH and I work full time.

I drop off to breakfast club.

DH collects at pickup (flexible working hours).

I'm a teacher so am off school holidays.

DH takes INSET days as annual leave.

DH now works from home, so would cover sickness. Previously, I would usually take the initial day of sickness and DH / family members (depending of type of illness) would cover subsequent days.

Husband works mon-fri 9-5 and I work mon-thur evenings. I home educate so I obviously have the children during the day, then the husband has them as soon as he finishes work, and he does bed time every single day whether I'm home or not.

I do my hobby at weekends and the rest of the time is family time or the husband will take the children somewhere in case I need extra sleep.

6 year old, 4 year old and 1 year old.

I do almost all school/nursery drop offs and collections. DH works 7am-4.30pm Mon-Sat, I work Thu 10am-8.30pm my mum or MIL collect kids and do dinner until DH home, Fri I work 10-2 so drop off, head to work for a quick shift, finish then collect. I also work every second Sunday plus the odd Saturday night shift maybe once a month!

Suits us.

What do you mean by childcare if they’re at school? I work school hours so pick up anything that falls when my partner is still working. When I worked full days, we shared the drop offs/pick ups

DS9.
I work 2 or 2.5 days. DH FT (from home since Covid).
DH does drop off. I do pick up 3 days, DGPs do the other 2 days.
Childcare out of work hours and house jobs are fairly evenly split, maybe DH does a bit more, he’s energetic and I’m lazy!
School holidays I do childcare but send DS to holiday club or GPs on my work days.

It's a while ago for me, but once both my dc were in reception, I thought it would be perfectly possible to work 30 hours per week. 9-3x5. I tried it. It isn't - if you want to maintain any kind of quality of life. Of course it's doable, but just not a good life with constant chores at the weekend. As we were lucky enough that my dhs full time job provided enough income, I eventually settled on 10 hours per week. I used the rest of the time to have some me time (2 hours per day), 2 hours doing all the errands/shopping/housework/admin etc, and 2 hours work. It meant that dh could have more me time at the weekends, and we didn't spend weekends/evenings doing chores.
So, if you can afford it, I would advise 10 hours pw work max if the other one is full time and you're doing all the housework.

We both work full time and share childcare fairly equally. I probably do more drop offs/pick ups because my work allows me to but DH takes DS to more activities so it evens out.

It's varied over the years as we've both worked various hours, had periods of study etc. Pre Covid times DP dropped off and I went to work early and I picked up and he worked late. Both full time and using after school club. Now I work less hours but also from home so do much more as he works out of the home.

Appointments dependant, he would always jiggle things if I wanted to go out after work, work late etc. I feel it's fairly even based on our working patterns, and we try our best to cover each other if needed

I work 28 hours a week. 2 full days and 3 days doing school hours. On one of the full days DS goes to wraparound club and on the other day my mum does the school runs and minds him until I get home.

I'm divorced, ex husband is involved but due to his long working hours only has DS 2 or 3 nights a month. He throws money at me to "make up" for it as he is on a good salary.

Oh, and we take it in turns to cover sickness, self isolations and school holidays as much as possible

I work 10.30 -6.30 5 days a week and I do drop off and my extended family do pick up.
It's crap and I hate relying on people so will good when breakfast club and after school club is an option and I can start earlier and finish earlier

Single parent. I do 20h over 4 days and that enables me to do all school drop offs and pick ups so I don’t need to pay childcare.
Looking to up my hours when the kids are in academy and can come/go to school without me.

I don’t work, DH does a lot of childcare - probably 60% on the weekends and a lot of after school, bathtimes etc. I’m watching telly in bed right now with one kid, and he’s downstairs playing with the other. (I am pregnant though so this is definitely a new habit!)

I’m incredibly lucky that my parents live walking distance from the primary school. So I/DP drop the kids off on our way to work, and I pick them up in the evening. Now we’re hybrid working, usually whoever’s wfh takes the kids. This enables us both to do full-time 8:00-4:30. I appreciate I’m very lucky with my parents.

What do you mean 100% childcare? Do you mean he never has them alone or he does nothing for them at all?

I work 3 days, DH 5 and things are split pretty evenly otherwise. It fell a bit more to me previously as he used to have a longer commute (now WFH)

I do 40 hours over 4 days out of the house. DH does 40 hours over 5 days but from home. DH does lions share of childcare in term time (we also have a childminder and my parents help weekly). In school hols I do all childcare as my job is term time only. Over the course of the year it balances 50/50, as does all domestic work.

Twin girls age 6. I wfh 08:00-14:30, 4 days a week. They go the breakfast club on my working days but I do all drop offs and pick ups throughout the week, including going to clubs during the week.

DH works 07:30-16:00, 5 days a week but it's a horrendous commute so he's out of the house 06:30-18:30 every day.

So I do basically all the childcare and find it hard going. He does cook for him and I though and does bath, teeth, stories etc when he gets home. He will also often take them to their activities on a Saturday so I can get some time to myself. I'm basically exhausted all of the time from running from place to place all week though!