To ask, if you have primary age dc

[Zara2008]

What sort of hours do you work, and does your dh (if you have one), do his share of the childcare?

I work part time but I do 100% of the childcare.

I do 40 hrs, DW does 37.5 hrs, both out of the house. We arrange our working hours around each other, make use of breakfast and after school club, and share the childcare.

I'm ft wfh and dh is ft woh. Dh is term time only.

I do the school runs (kids entertain themselves at home for the hour before dh gets home)

School holidays is all dh unless I'm also on annual leave.

Weekends are shared.

Weekday evenings its just all hands on deck until the kids go to bed then we rest

We both work four days a week, obviously look after the kids on our days off and then alternate the other pick ups and drop offs, DS goes to after school club three days a week. No family support but we do both earn well so outsource a lot: cleaning, some convenience food/takeaway, we don't do DIY, we get someone in etc.

I find it works well.

I do 48 hours a week over four days.
DH does 39 hours a week over five days.
We have one day off together. One day I do the childcare. Most mornings I do the childcare. Most evenings I’m working he does the childcare because I often don’t finish until 8-10pm.

Probably tilted toward me but that’s because I only work four days.

I work school hours and do all the childcare and about 85% of the housework too.

I currently work 50-60 hours a week out of the house.
DH wFH and does 99% of all childcare.

He does all after school clubs and about 40% of the housework.

I’m about to start a new job which will be wFH so this will be equal.

I work 40 hours over 5 days, so 8/4 or 7/3 etc…. Husband works 40 hours over 4 days and has one day off on a Tuesday that he has our toddler.
Toddler is in nursery for the other four days, this is 7.30-5/515 depending on my working day. school age child does breakfast / after school clubs four days of the week.
When toddler goes to school I will drop a day a week and do 40 hours over 4 days also.

I do it all.
Even when DH is WFH so could pitch in he doesn't- maybe once a half term he will do drop off. Never ever pick up, even when I had a bad reaction to my Covid vaccine.
He works 7.30am to whenever he feels like finishing.
Currently I do 9-3 3 days a week but I am changing jobs soon - I need to finalise my working pattern but I hope to do 9-3 again but 5 days as this way I can get DC from ASC and not have a mad rush getting dinner etc done.

I do all childcare Mon - Fri. He dips in and out as he chooses.

It causes me huge resentment but apparently I am in the wrong because we should all feel sorry for him having to work long hours.

I would LOVE to be able to even do overtime and develop my career but, no. Despite doing these hours for 6 years I still have to turn down meetings and explain that I finish at 3pm. Apparently DH can't do that 🤷🏻‍♀️

I won't even start on the housework and cooking....

Dp is full time mon-fri 9-5
I do wed 1-8, thur/fri/sat 6-1 with the occasional tues 6-1 plus I’m at uni full time from home
In-laws do the pick up on a Wednesday then dp goes to theirs and they have tea before coming home, I do all other pick ups.
Drop offs I do if I’m home, dp when I’m not. We both work within a few minutes of home and school so don’t have a commute to fit in after drop off.
When at home everything is split pretty equally, dp is in charge of keeping downstairs clean, I have upstairs. I iron on a Wednesday, him on a Saturday. I cook most meals but I’m home from work earlier and enjoy it whereas he doesn’t really like cooking.
We are pretty equal on parenting, we have 2 ds’s who have 7 years between them so each night we alternate kids, spending an hour with each from 7-8, normally watching a tv show they want. Sundays is family day. I think we are both happy with it as it works for us and being pretty equal there is no resentment that one is doing way more than the other

I work part time and I do childcare as I work in a school,dh works full time.

I work mornings, DH full time with 3 kids. DH does drop off, I do school pick up. I do all childcare from 1pm (when I pick up baby). I do most of cleaning, all of cooking & shopping and laundry etc. DH takes boys to after school clubs and weekend sports. We both do bedtimes. I definitely do the lion share of childcare and housework which does piss me off sometimes. I do wonder what would happen if i went back full time. I suspect I’d still do same amount ! I do get chance to go to gym couple of times a week inbetween work and picking up the baby

I work part time 2/3 alternate weeks and run a small business, my DH works full time Monday to Friday 9-5. My DH does school drop off most days and I do school pick up 2 days a week, we both do aftercare pick up depending on who’s finished work first but it’s usually him. I do all medical appointments of which there are many as my DD has quite complex additional needs.

Both DH & I work full-time. Our kids are 4 & 8. We're both currently working from home but I tend to go into the office on Mondays so I'll do drop off & pick up that day. The rest of the week we split drop offs and pick ups between us.

I work FT as a teacher usually out of house 5 days a week from 7.15 til 6 or often later.

Dh is self employed and flexible and does most childcare, laundry, and cooking,

I'm a sahm now but when I did work (was PT) I did most of the childcare, dh works away a lot so if I didn't do it wouldn't get done. He'll do breakfast, school runs, bath time if he is home but I do the majority when he is here.

Single parent, I work 33 hours per week (8:30 - 3) I take DS to a childminder in the morning to do school drop offs and I pick him up every day

I work 8.20-3.45 usually, 3 days per week

I drop kids at bus/childminder and then in the afternoon, dmil picks up dd and ds gets the bus back

I'm home an hour after dd so she spends time with granny.

Dh has his own company and is v busy during the day but he can be flexible if asked to pitch in and does so willingly. (They aren't his dc)

He would collect kids from school if they were poorly and I couldn't get out of class for example.

DH and I both work full-time and yes he does his share of childcare. Generally he does drop-offs and I do pick-ups but depends what we've both got on.

9-5 but I can flex it when I need to as long as I do the right amount of work and hours overall

WFH at the moment but usually its 2 days in the office, three at office, although can go to office more if i want

I have dc 7 and 13 and am single parent (they do go to their Dad some of the time though, but primary aged one is mostly here)

3DC’s, age 8, 10, 12. I work 3 days 8.30-4.30 and 1 day 8.30-2.30, none at home. DH works full-time, part from home/part office base. We split school drop offs and picks pretty much equally. I do more after school childcare as am home with them after school on 2 days. DH does most of the driving to clubs in the evening. Weekends and holidays are equal and shared.

I’m a single mum working in a secondary school

You’ll get lots of different answers. What’s right for one couple is grossly unfair for another. What’s driving your question? Are you unhappy?

We both work FT, him always out the house, me sometimes out the house, the rest WFH.

I drop off, he picks up. This is our routine 99% of the time. I start later and he finishes earlier so it works. Then he starts dinner when they get in.

If he’s particularly quiet at work or I’m flat out he’ll drop off too to let me start work earlier.

It’s a good balance for us

I work early and DH works late. He does drop off and I do pick up.

I work FT, fairly senior civil servant. ExDH is self employed. 1 DD.
We manage school run, clubs and activities well, have 50/50 residency and will always cover for one another if work dictates.