to think its OTT to isolate a 7yo with fever

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We are older parents in our early 50s neither of us CEV.
We have a DS7 who woken up with has fever of 39 and cough. He has tested negative on LFT.
Yet my DP is insisting that he stay in his bedroom with the door closed with us only being allowed in to look after him if we are wearing masks.
DS keeps asking us why we are wearing masks.
What do you think?

I wouldn’t. What if he got really poorly? I would open the windows and make sure the place was well ventilated but that’s it.

He needs a PCR and if that's negative, a doctor's appt to see why he's ill. You dont do lateral flows when there are symptoms, you do a PCR.

Tell your DP to isolate himself if he is that concerned.

My DS is older and I didn’t do that.
Kept windows opened in communal areas and asked him to be more careful with hand washing and sanitising.

I would not do that at all. A 7 year old needs his parents.
It would be different if you were immunosuppressed etc.

Yes, you need to get a PCR as he has symptoms. LFTs produce too make false negatives to be reliable enough with symptoms.

Yanbu. Christ tell your DH he's being inhumane

I wouldn’t either, I think this would be really distressing for a child that age. I think take it off, explain to your child that it’s about it possibly being coronavirus, but even if it was, it’s not a big deal for most healthy adults and children. The aim here is to reassure your child not terrify them! Your DH is being a plonker.

If he has got covid, you've already been exposed to it as he'll have been contagious for a day or two before these symptoms appeared (even if he hasn't got covid, you'll have already been exposed to whatever he has). Making him stay in his room and only interacting with him while wearing masks is cruel, he's just a little boy and probably needs a cuddle and some comfort.

I agree that a pcr is needed, but I wouldn't isolate a poorly 7yo, no. It's cruel.

I didn't actually distance from my 16yo when she had covid because she felt crap and needed a hug. We just isolated as a family, and yes, I did catch covid as a result but I made the choice not to isolate her knowing that this was a risk.

I wouldn't. I'd be looking after him as normal as I would for any other illness. It was hard enough when I was positive and my DS (9) wasn't and he just wanted cuddles as I think he was worried and needed reassurance I would be okay. I couldn't shut my ill child in his bedroom like that.

It's utterly futile to stick a seven year old separate in his room like that. It's just cruel.

Your DH is being not only ott but neglectful of your child. He needs emotional support when ill ask well as physically looking after. Kids can have a fit with a fever and you need to keep a close eye on them at these times.

Tell him to isolate himself if he’s bothered.

I didn’t isolate from my two when they had Covid - they’re 9 and 10 and needed their parents. I couldn’t isolate a 7 year old.

DP is being a twat, tell him to sod off to a hotel if he is that bothered.

And 7 is still really little! Many 7 yos are still in the infants - year 2 - as that’s what they are, infants.

No, I absolutely would not isolate a 7 year old on their own and only wear a mask when in his presence.

If your DP is that paranoid, perhaps he should be the one to isolate

DD(3) just tested positive on Friday on PCR and I’m incredibly health anxious and still had her glued to my side all weekend, but even if she was 7 I’d not even consider isolating her, when your kids poorly you should be there to make them feel better regardless of covid anxiety.

No way would I isolate my unwell 7 year old. Poor little mite is feeling ill and needs his parents/a hug/reassurance.

Ah thats just mean. I wouldn't be doing that with my 3 kids and I am CEV!!

Like others have said he may have been contagious for a few days before anyway.

I couldn't for a moment imagine basically locking a 7 year old child in their room to isolate. Your DH is really just being cruel and I'd lose so much respect for my DH if he said anything like that!

I never really do this but I just read your OP to my DH for his perspective. He thinks it's fucking cruel - his words were "I wouldn't give a fuck if my son had rabies , I'd wanna be there for him".

Clearly we're a sweary family

No way. Tell your DH to isolate.

Get him a pcr. Crack open the windows and turn the heating up, that’s what we did when our 7 year old caught covid. I gave them lots of hugs and still didn’t catch it myself.

weirdly his latest LFT is feint positive.
We have booked a drive through PCR , going to take hime now!
Thanks for replies x

That's just cruel. Besides what's a mask going to do to protect you? Nothing! You've already been exposed, and masks are generally to protect other people from your germs not the other way around

When mine had confirmed covid and I had to avoid getting it, we had windows open (it was in December), and i wore a mask. Bought some children's disposable masks too and they wore them if cuddling me to watch tv or something. They knew why they were wearing them when around me. Never isolated them in their rooms and wouldn't have done.