to think its OTT to isolate a 7yo with fever

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We are older parents in our early 50s neither of us CEV.
We have a DS7 who woken up with has fever of 39 and cough. He has tested negative on LFT.
Yet my DP is insisting that he stay in his bedroom with the door closed with us only being allowed in to look after him if we are wearing masks.
DS keeps asking us why we are wearing masks.
What do you think?

What would he do if your DS was 2, or even younger? You can't shut a child away like that.

I'd shut the husband out though. Out of the house.

If my 7 yo (or 9yo) test positive I will not be isolating them. We only have one bathroom for a start, so it's totally impractical as well as cruel. I've been triple jabbed, as has DH, and we'll already be exposed before the positive test anyway so it won't make a jot of difference.

Even if he does have covid, isolating a 7 year old from his parents, whilst being shut in his room, whilst only being attended to when you're wearing masks is beyond cruel imo. You're his parents, he needs you!

How cruel! I wouldn't be isolating from my 17 year old let alone a 7 year old. Your P sounds needlessly unkind.

Oh bless him it would probably make him really scared about what he's got

I would say it is borderline abusive to be honest.
Your son is sick. If COVID wasn't around would you have locked him away with these symptoms?

Yep, if people are actually doing this to children, the world has gone officially mad.

Please dont do that. Make him a cosy bed in front of the tv, window open slightly. If its covid you've likely already been exposed. Just be careful with washing cups and things.

I'd think my husband is a utter dickhead and I'd question his suitability to parent our child.

YANBU. We’re also in our 50s with a 7-year-old who tested positive yesterday. We wouldn’t have dreamed of shutting her in her room.

Also, I don’t think you need a PCR now - an LFT is considered enough, unless you need to claim certain benefits related to testing positive.

Also, we just resigned ourselves to the fact that we were going to get it - which we have, today’s tests showed.

Yes get a PCR.

Then yes he needs to isolate in the hose of course but I did not isolate from either of my children when they were ill. I looked after them as I would through any other illness.

Tell your DP that he can isolate himself and wear masks but this is your 7 year old child and you accept and take the risk

You're both as bad as each other - him for suggesting it and you for checking on here. It's a bloody child you should be ashamed of yourselves.

That's a bit heartless! My son tested positive and I didn't isolate away from him, we all carried on as usual within household, still hung out together and had cuddles. Your child is not well and he could get worse, your first priority is taking care of him, not trying to avoid catching covid

Is this real? You don't dump a 7yo in a room and leave him to it when they are poorly, popping in only for food and meds, like a prisoner.

A sick 7 year old? No chance in hell would I leave him by himself, it's too young

If it comforts your DH at all - when my 7yo had covid I slept in the same bed as her, cuddled her constantly, let her cough all over my face.. and I didn’t get it. (Neither did my DH who was still hugging her, in the same room as her etc but slightly less close contact with her than I was.)
There’s no way I would have denied her whatever comfort she wanted. I would rather have got sick than let her suffer alone.

I actually think that is absolutely cruel and neglectful at best borderline abusive at worst! Does he not have a caring relative who he could go to stay with instead?? I’d happily look after my poorly DN here with my family rather than have him be put in that situation 😢 your husband is a cruel, uncaring man to do that to a young child especially when he is feeling unwell and likely wants a cuddle from his mummy!

And I agree you should both be ashamed of yourselves and better hope nobody in real life finds out!!

I cannot believe you are even able to do this. Basically ignoring an ill 7 year old. They need love and affection. I strongly disapprove of your husband’s stance.

No way would I isolate my unwell 7 year old. Poor little mite is feeling ill and needs his parents/a hug/reassurance.

I agree.

As others have said if your DH wants to isolate then let him.

If your son has covid he almost definitely had it before he had a temperature so there’s not much point in isolating away from him now.

I'm in my 50's and CV (but not CEV). My DS(8) tested positive a couple of days ago. He's sitting next to me. I'd never even consider isolating from him.

Isolating a 7 year old is cruel.

Well your husband sounds cruel. God help your child if it’s a positive PCR. Tell him to isolate if he’s so panicky about it but someone has to put this child first and look after them.

Unless someone in the family is CEV there is no way I would ask a young child to isolate. I didn't even isolate from DP when he had tested positive and he's 45!

You husband is a cruel bastard that isn’t fit to be a parent if he’s seriously suggesting such neglect. Even if your child has covid you don’t lock a 7YO in their bedroom FFS.