DD's is Y3. There's been one big school play and one "class assembly" play every year she's been in school, so 8 plays altogether.
DD (generally a good kid, speaks loudly and clearly, really, really loves drama, does lots of it outside school for several nights a week and generally told by her external drama teachers that she is pretty good at it) has never once been given a part. I don't mean that she hasn't been Mary in the Nativity - I mean that despite auditioning, she's literally never been picked as anything, ever. Not so much as a donkey, or a sheep - absolutely zilch.
The same few kids do keep getting picked, inevitably (including the teacher's child, who also goes to drama club with DD). When DD was younger, she would still try really hard despite the disappointment, and would sit at the back of the stage, singing her heart out. Yesterday was this year's play and it almost broke my heart to see her so sad. She was on the verge of tears through the whole thing - it felt a bit like the light had gone out in her.
Would you say something to the school? We have historically talked about the fact that everyone gets a turn and it will surely be her turn another time, but she's not stupid - she can see that the other kids are getting chosen every time.
If I'm being totally honest, I am furious with them for being so cavalier with my little girl's feelings and crushing all her enthusiasm so casually, but it is also true that she is having a very rough time of things in school at the moment with some difficult friendships and we have been very worried, so perhaps that's colouring my view. It is also true that I have been awake almost every night this week worrying about her, so perhaps I am being irrational and need to be talked down...? It has felt for a while like DD is "the invisible child" for a range of reasons unconnected to the school play and I am just so sad that she is so sad and nobody at school seems to care.